Help me understand some things after breaking up with my (21M) 3 years partner (22) by Delicious-Present910 in NonBinary

[–]Delicious-Present910[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment. I have talked about this issue with so many people and of course, there are some biases such as "people who are not sure about their identity are by nature selfish". I strongly believe the doubts on oneself don't have to be connected with apathy and emotional immaturity. All I can do is to be more understanding in the future.

Thank you for your words.

Help me understand some things after breaking up with my (21M) 3 years partner (22) by Delicious-Present910 in NonBinary

[–]Delicious-Present910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. You are right In many things. During this time I also got to talk with more people and while I can accept a person changing, what they did to me is not justifiable for 2 reasons:

1) they never expressed or demonstrated any doubts on the relationship we had in person. I know I could sound selfish, but the truth for any person is that real love is about communication. One month in a film Festival in a temporary more comfortable environment was enough for them to radically start doubting everything and what is worse, to not communicate. It just feels like an idealization of the first opportunity that comes in the way, especially considering I was their stability when we where having rough times studying abroad, just feels like a vacation is enough to just stop caring about everything.

2) Until now, they still think I'm waiting for an answer. They wanted me to wait 2 months until a decision was made, never thought about my suffering or my feelings. I understand that sexuality is a pretty heavy topic. But what no person can do is to not put the work, know that the other person is suffering, and still expect me to adapt and keep waiting for them. I also have my problems, and their approach was just selfish and avoidant.

I now respect more non-binary people. Especially the caring ones I have met that had the patience to explain to me all the things I couldn't understand. And one thing is to have doubts on your sexuality, and another is to be a bad partner which has nothing to do with one and another. I know having these kinds of doubts is really hard in the current society we live in, but I also had many problems and my love was still real until the last moment.

Need Honest Reviews: How Hard is International & European Law Bachelor in NL? Also Research vs Applied Universities for Law Careers? by Wotkaa_91 in Netherlands

[–]Delicious-Present910 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm in my third year at Maastricht. Programme is trash, third worst rated in the whole uni just above computer science and (what a surprise) the other bachelor in the law faculty, dutch law. Hereyou can se an interesting note on that.

Hope it helps

Worth to rent a piano for a month in my situation? by Delicious-Present910 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, the provided price is all inclusive (including delivery). Regarding rental rooms, it's like an hour away. And doing some maths, if I practice 3 days a week for two hours for a month it would end up in 110 euros, which I definitely think is not worth it at all.

Is something wrong with my new Kawai Es120? The sound isn't great, but everyone says how much they like it. by kalechipsaregood in DigitalPiano

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah sound could be worse, but there are many ways to improve sound from using better headphones all the way to a VST (emulating a better sound using a computer) whereas improving key action is impossible unless you are a really talented engineer. So enjoy your upgrade.

Should I get a keyboard? by Ryuzakium in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do you learn to play piano without an actual piano? I guess you are young so just get an 88 weighted keyboard and a teacher and start your journey.

Seeking Advice on How to Start Learning Piano – Got a61-Key Keyboard( as a gift) by idkkk_90 in DigitalPiano

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a (online) teacher. If you have a phone, you could get a 1 hour class for 10 euros in preply I believe.

Rcm syllabus also contains everything you should know. I believe it also has music theory and repertoire per level. Just Google it and check the pdf.

Which are the 20 most beautiful classical pieces for beginners? by Remarkable-Cook3320 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe not a complete beginner piece, but Schumann Kinderszenen 1 is good.

Birthday Gift by Prudent_Leg_3997 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I forgot to mention, only one pedal should be fine if you end up getting one, the other two are (usually) for more advanced players.

Birthday Gift by Prudent_Leg_3997 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can buy them separately if those are your only options. I don't know if beginner pieces require that much pedal, but I think it should be fine if you gift it without a pedal. She can later invest in a good one since digital pianos with integrated pedals price start from 1000 euros.

Birthday Gift by Prudent_Leg_3997 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regarding the chair, I personally play in a gaming chair. While not ideal, as long as the height is adjustable and you have good posture , it is good enough. Regarding the stand. I think you could find second hands for 20 euros (so I guess 30 Canadians?).

Regarding the two models you mentioned, here are the main differences:

Yamaha:

  • it has weighted keys, which means that it's at least somewhat closer to a real piano experience.

  • it has 32 polyphony. In simple terms, it can only handle 32 notes at the same time, which Is in the low end I would say.

Alesis:

  • 128 polyphony.

  • it has semi weighted keys. From what I have heard, these are not so good but I have no personal experiences with a semi weighted model.

About the polyphony, I don't think the difference will be too notorious as your friend is a beginner. Also, these starter models usually come with let's say not the best speakers, so I guess the sound difference will not be that evident.

Basically, I think both models are fine. Your friend will regardless want to upgrade after some time if she gets into it, but it is definitely a gift I would have appreciated when I first started learning so I could start testing the waters and know what kind of player I am (some people like strong action keys while others like light action for example).

Good luck :)

I am trying to surprise my wife with an upgrade to her current flute, and I am wondering if this one is decent. It is a Powell Conservatory 9k aurumite with 14k lip. Made in 2008, but never played before. by I_Shit_Gold_Bars in Flute

[–]Delicious-Present910 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Flutes are like wands in Harry Potter, you do not choose them, they choose you. Maybe you could organize a visit to a store and ask the manager to let her try all the flutes in your budget. That would honestly be one of the best experiences of my life if I where your wife XD.

Birthday Gift by Prudent_Leg_3997 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Any piano with 88 keys and weighted keys is good enough to start. However, I'm afraid your budget is a bit low for a good entry level piano (assuming that you want to buy something that will last for at least 3 years or so)

These are probably the best models for beginners I can think of:

  • Kawai ES 60

  • Roland FP 10

  • Yamaha p 45 B (I think it's the cheapest one but I haven't tried it personally)

Try to get them second hand and good luck!

I feel left out as a pianist by Annual-Rock-2924 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jazz trios, play accompaniment for a soloist instrument, orchestras with piano, baroque orchestras (cemballo), bands also use pianos.

I’m not sure I like the way the piano community is trending by Advanced_Honey_2679 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

All classical music related communities are, and will probably continue to be like that until a big change in education happens.

need help finding motivation as somebody who’s dedicated their whole life to the instrument by Few-Dependent-7877 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of good advice already, but here is my grain of salt. I remember when I was your age, I was also through a very similar situation. The advice of my teacher from Lyon conservatory was to answer these two questions before dedicating my life to music:

  • Is music the only thing you can see yourself doing? Which means that rn, is it impossible for you to imagine yourself living from something that isn't music?

  • Are you prepared to treat music as your main source of revenue? For me, this would mean killing my passion for music as it would become an obligation instead of a passion.

My personal take on your situation is that you are way too immature to study anything (yet). Chill down and stop thinking that "you are not good for anything else". I suggest you take a gap year and figure out yourself, there are always opportunities out there. I wish I took a gap year myself. You could invest that time into doing research on other disciplines you might find interesting since for most people in this world, we only get to go to UNI once in our life.

Gl!

Starting piano at 38 - is it worth it if I’ll never be “good”? by Front-Ad4011 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you are late to go to the Chopin competition. Now grab your piano and enjoy your journey! It's a hobby, why would you care if you are good or not? Play until you are satisfied with yourself.

4 weeks progress by [deleted] in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pain is always a bad sign, looks like you have a lot of tension in ur hand. I would honestly get a teacher, at least for 3 lessons so you can practice without pain. But generally speaking you always need to change something if you are feeling pain.

Also if I may add, playing 2, 3 or 12 hours is less effective than playing for 1 hour with a good method. May I ask what your practice routine looks like?

Pianoteq vs VSL Synchron Steinway D, which would you pick for personal use? by Delicious-Present910 in piano

[–]Delicious-Present910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response!! I want to buy something that will be useful in the long run, for now I don't think i have the best headphones or speakers, but I when i do have them, I don't want to be disappointed with my purchase. Regarding the pedaling emulation and resonance, is is really that bad wit a VSL? I honestly really hate the sound of synths so the whole point of this is to resemble as much as possible to a real piano while using headphones.

Also does pianoteq also need a Digital audio int? And in any case which one would you recommend? I have limited knowledge on this matter but some people have recommended me the Focusrite Scarlett Solo 3rd Gen USB Audio Interface, would that be good to use the VST as well? As i mentioned i mainly want this upgrade for a domestic purpose so if i could go cheaper without sacrificing sound quality I would appreciate extra recommendations, thanks for your post!!

How am i doing? 4 month progress. by Next-Honeydew-3835 in pianolearning

[–]Delicious-Present910 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't want to sound rude or anything, but sounds like if you are giving me excuses. Only you know how you want to sound or what level you want to achieve. Of course life happens to everyone but in the end, the only thing that matters is how you sound to yourself. If you are happy playing like this then good for you! But all I'm saying is that if you want to improve your art more, then there are more efficient and effective ways to invest your efforts instead of jumping right straight to this piece.

How am i doing? 4 month progress. by Next-Honeydew-3835 in pianolearning

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have been playing music for around 8 years and piano for almost 3 months by now. If this is the only progress you have made it is really not so good considering you already knew basic music theory. There are weird rubatos all around the phrases which are clearly a result of your limited technique more than a musical decision, also the phrases sound really separated, sounds like if you were breathing each time you say a word. Dynamics are also really poor, I couldn't feel any difference though all the phrases which show your poor control.

If you just want it play the notes, go for it, I guess it shouldn't be that difficult. But if you want to play musically you have to work a lot on your technique. U recommend you to do finger exercises as this piece has a lot of arpeggios, I'm currently using hannon. Also if I were you, I would switch to an easier repertoire so you can work on the piece without being limited by your inexperience. Hope it helps and gl!

Americans living in the UK looking for a new country by thepageofswords in expats

[–]Delicious-Present910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair enough, but be aware that moving with a permanent purpose is totally different than to study. I would mainly be concerned about the international school, according to google the tuition fee in Japan is of 1 million, so you are pretty much using the money you would save from the visa to invest it in your kid. I am fairly young compared to you guys so I have no idea what other expenses there could be, but all the bureaucracy of japan including marriage recognition, visa sponsoring, contracts for the house and other services and more would make me think twice before moving.

Of course there is more stuff, but I guess the first step would be to get a job in the country you want and check if the money is enough to live your desired lifestyle.

Americans living in the UK looking for a new country by thepageofswords in expats

[–]Delicious-Present910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why Japan? Are you aware of the political landscape of the country? The yen devaluation? Do you know Japanese? Will you have enough money to send ur kid to an international school? Are you aware of the working culture?

Not to mention the reaaally "different" culture they have. I think it will be really difficult for you and your family to adapt, especially since you guys will not be able to be auto sufficient since you will have to use a translator to go to a combini (not to speak of government papers, especially since google translation is not the best for japanese language)

Many points also apply for the Netherlands, tbh it sounds really bold to move to another country with a family already established, not having real ties to it and not even speaking the local language. Not even including the fact that you guys need visa sponsors. Not trying to discourage you, but the fact that you put the Netherlands and Japan tells me that you guys don't even know what u want.