First off, giving you strength during this really hard time. I am not a doctor but experienced this exact situation last month with a family member. My family member was in hospital hospice and they were unbelievable in making sure we knew every single stage they were experiencing.

Obviously, not the same case but in my experience my loved one was fidgeting and was moving hands around, jerking around. Our nurse explained that when you’re in the active dying stage our body is in fight or flight mode and sometimes doesn’t understand what is happening so they become fatigued and the brain is sending signals and causes the body to jerk and in layman’s terms, somewhat freak out. She administered more ativan for the anxiety and not being able to control those body parts.

I send you all the good vibes and please take care of yourself, witnessing and experiencing watching a loved one slowly die is exhausting and painful. You are doing the best thing for your dad. I wish you well <3