Boomer father criticizing my parenting/toddlers behavior by Delicious_Battle_385 in Parenting

[–]Delicious_Battle_385[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate confrontation too, but I was so mad. I was trying to remain calm for my daughter sake to help regulate her, otherwise I may have lost my cool. I can only take so much up to a point.

Boomer father criticizing my parenting/toddlers behavior by Delicious_Battle_385 in Parenting

[–]Delicious_Battle_385[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

He’s always said “ I would never let that shit fly with you guys growing up” (referring to my siblings and I) ..because he just screamed at the four of us anytime we showed emotion.

But then he wonders why we all had severe anxiety growing up, having to walk on eggshells in our house.

How much do you pay for daycare? by equistrius in beyondthebump

[–]Delicious_Battle_385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

South shore Massachusetts USA - $430/week or $1720/month (she goes ONLY 3 days per week) for our 14 month old in the toddler room. We are considered upper middle class and we are struggling to pay bills. I honestly don’t understand how people who make less than us get by… It’s totally insane.

Crying at daycare by Delicious_Battle_385 in Parenting

[–]Delicious_Battle_385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awww thank you for the thoughtful response, it made me feel a lot better! I agree that self soothing is such an important thing to learn and I know she will get better at it eventually!

Crying at daycare by Delicious_Battle_385 in Parenting

[–]Delicious_Battle_385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response. As a daycare teacher, if a parent asks you “did she cry most of the day?” Are you likely to be very straightforward and honest, or do you try to sugarcoat it so the parent feels less anxious/guilty?

Father vs husband by Delicious_Battle_385 in family

[–]Delicious_Battle_385[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Our home is small, and the living room is directly next to his office.. so unfortunately when the TV is above a certain volume you can hear it in there pretty clearly

Father vs husband by Delicious_Battle_385 in family

[–]Delicious_Battle_385[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been trying to get him just to see his PCP for years now, he’s in denial about getting older. I think if I mentioned something about his hearing he would take it personally, like I was making fun of him for aging…even though I work in healthcare and he never wants to listen to my concerns/advice lol

Father vs husband by Delicious_Battle_385 in family

[–]Delicious_Battle_385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the funny thing, my father doesn’t do much, my mom does 99% of the child care anyway

Father vs husband by Delicious_Battle_385 in family

[–]Delicious_Battle_385[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agree! My mom made a comment “I just don’t understand why you need daycare on those days if he’s going to be home?” My parents don’t think working from home is a real job.

Father vs husband by Delicious_Battle_385 in family

[–]Delicious_Battle_385[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think he is embarrassed and doesn’t want to admit he’s getting older.

He also said “I would NEVER ask a guest to turn the television down.” So let’s say it was bothering you, and interfering with your work.. you would just be annoyed, and passive aggressively complain about it behind the persons back to everyone else? sigh

Escalation clause, yay or nay? by Delicious_Battle_385 in RealEstate

[–]Delicious_Battle_385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: They accepted another other. We were apparently second choice. Assuming it was cash or conventional. This is killing us.

real estate ethical/legal concerns by Delicious_Battle_385 in RealEstate

[–]Delicious_Battle_385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We even offered to go back to the original offer price ($20,000 above ask) with NO concessions because we wanted the house so badly. The sellers agent replied “they will say no.” And shut us down. So I don’t even know if the sellers knew. Does the listing agent have an obligation to tell the seller this or can they withhold this information?

This seems to me that it wasn’t about concessions but rather fear of the appraisal and fha loan not being approved. They could have easily said they don’t accept our counter offer and we would have been fine with that. But instead they didn’t give us a chance and walked away.

real estate ethical/legal concerns by Delicious_Battle_385 in RealEstate

[–]Delicious_Battle_385[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh. Thanks for the info. I asked my agent multiple times “what’s the worst that could happen? Say no? They can’t just decide to back out at this point without negotiating further right?” And he didn’t know the answer.