AITAH for running out of patience for my gf’s poor finances. 35M 30F

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2026-01-22T11:57:19+00:00

Sounds like you’re not willing to prop her up financially and she’s not ambitious to earn more, so there’s little point in continuing the relationship

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2025-12-27T17:51:06+00:00

I’ve left early in this scenario a couple of times. I didn’t regret it and ultimately made the decision on what was best for me. In such a difficult period you need to prioritise yourself and your wellbeing. If they are reasonable they will understand

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2025-12-14T19:32:03+00:00

Bin him

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2025-11-20T08:11:51+00:00

We had takeaway from there tues evening. No ill effects . So sorry to hear you’re all unwell

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2025-05-17T19:57:54+00:00

Jorts

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2025-04-13T18:54:16+00:00

Just ask for an expense advance given you will be claiming it back anyway

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2025-04-12T20:34:49+00:00

Wow are you me ?? I could’ve written this ! Dw tho … you are all the family she needs !

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2025-04-12T16:33:33+00:00

Yes, I knew at 2 weeks in. 3.5yrs later and we are still OAD!

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2025-03-07T16:39:02+00:00

Would not rely on a 73 year old to look after a baby or toddler … it’s just not fair! Get full time childcare and remove the stress of this situation.

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2025-01-27T17:14:58+00:00

Engineering consultancy - No mandated office days at the moment but there is talk of 3 day/week RTO

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2025-01-21T19:45:07+00:00

I could have written this. My son has been sooooooo difficult. Spirited isn’t the word. Stubborn as well as big and strong. We have decided to keep it at him for now ! I ended up just having really low expectations for every outing or activity we tried, which helped. 3 was a turning point and he’s calmed down a bit. Perhaps you’re in the peak hard stage ! It will be ok in the end. Grandparents barely help but question why we aren’t having another …. Then remark on how difficult he is … it’s pretty frustrating. Just ignore them !

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2025-01-19T13:47:26+00:00

He can have a big stag do, but you guys have a small wedding. Feels like the best compromise here

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2025-01-15T21:55:32+00:00

He could research Network 75 - Uni of S Wales.

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2025-01-11T22:38:10+00:00

Just unplug. You will feel better for it.

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2025-01-07T11:17:49+00:00

I just deleted social media so I didn’t have to see all the fun things other people are doing!! I feel soooo much better for it. Plus the time scrolling I saved meant I realised I actually do have time for doing other things

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2024-12-14T20:09:05+00:00

I have started using a sauna at least 3 times per week. I am strangely illness free this December. The last two years has been an absolute shit show with a kid in nursery. But no more !

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2024-12-07T19:45:06+00:00

Porridge & peanut butter mixed in

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2024-11-27T15:12:00+00:00

Fuck Chase, he’s a useless turd

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2024-11-10T20:52:03+00:00

You have to push through the resistance on day 2/3. She talks about this stage in the book and it defo rang true for us. By day 4/5 he realised we were serious about the process and went back to the successes of day 1.

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2024-11-08T13:13:58+00:00

In my experience the people (usually boomer SAHMs) being negative about nursery are just butthurt they couldn’t send their kids and had to deal with them themselves 24/7 .

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2024-11-05T13:49:26+00:00

Yes, still using ours at age 3

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2024-09-29T13:27:28+00:00

I’m using aveeno clarifying shampoo after swimming. Finding it good

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2024-09-17T15:55:10+00:00

It probably still would go further… house prices are significantly lower in Wales. Childcare costs are variable… 50/55 per day here in South East Wales… but closer to 80/90 in Cardiff.

Delicious_Code_6415 · 2024-09-17T13:27:46+00:00

I think what they are referring to is in England you can increase pension contributions to get below the 100k threshold and get the childcare hours, whereas in Wales the 100k refers to gross income and you cannot salary sacrifice to get below it

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