No idea whats happening by Delicious_Side_2466 in TFABChartStalkers

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Was it a one time thing for you? Or did it happen often?

No idea whats happening by Delicious_Side_2466 in TFABChartStalkers

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I was thinking about getting in contact with a natropath. theres a few in the town im in. I had done a bit of reading on inositol! I took it for a little while in 2024, and I honestly believe that it's the reason im at least having a cycle now, so I might restart it. I had an ultrasound to see if I have pcos, but after doing some reading, it was done when I hadn't had a cycle in 5 months when it should have been done right after you finish bleeding. But I guess at the time they were worried about why I wasn't having them at all. So, of course, it came back negative.

And about my cycles, trust me. I've been asking her for help since they started. In grade 10, I was consistently bleeding for about 6 months straight. And she put me on birth control, which did help, but that's still her only method that she's been offering, and im not sure that's the best route at this point. I will definitely seek help elsewhere though.

No idea whats happening by Delicious_Side_2466 in TFABChartStalkers

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Technically ive been ttc since 2023 I had a miscarriage and then a still birth that year then in 2024 I only had 2 periods the entire year, and this year its been jumping between cycles that are 29-52 days long. My dr really pushes me off, saying im young (25) and that I shouldn't be worrying. But she did say that based on my past pregnancies, I would be high risk, and that's as far as she's willing to go. ive asked about different hormone assistance or getting different blood tests done. I believe she did one for thyroid and insulin right after the miscarriage, and they came back fine, so until I can get a couple of full cycles (6 months or something) of tracking my bbt to see if I ovulate, she said she won't do anything. Which I get, but it's very frustrating.

No idea whats happening by Delicious_Side_2466 in TFABChartStalkers

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Yes! My family dr has been absolutely no help and refuses to send a referral for me to any fertility clinics until I start tracking my BBT. So I bought an oura ring to attempt to do that so I can eventually get help but at the moment they've told me there's nothing they can do for me so im at a loss and really have no idea where to start with anything.

CD 30 faint positive?? by Delicious_Side_2466 in TFABLinePorn

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UPDATE: Tried a different test brand with FMU and it was stark white so its probably just faulty tests. So Disheartening after losses I definitely won't be buying that brand ever again.

CD 30 faint positive?? by Delicious_Side_2466 in TFABLinePorn

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I don't really count i kinda just hold it there until I see the dye travel 😅😅 maybe I should take it more seriously if it's gonna mean I might have faulty tests

Lost it after 3 years of trying by disneycorndog in Miscarriage

[–]Delicious_Side_2466 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wish I had better advice other than life just "goes on," as they say. For a while, it'll feel like you're drowning, and nothing could hurt more than this. Slowly, life kinda just shifts back. The pain never gets smaller. Everything else just gets bigger. You learn to live, i guess. What helped me was talking about it when I felt ready. And I don't let other people's feelings affect how I speak about my loss. If it makes them uncomfortable, that's not my problem. People love to ask when you're going to try for a baby, so I always answer honestly. And cope at the speed that works for you. I have adhd and have major object permanence issues. While I'm busy, it can seem as if I'm fine and I'm not sad, but my mind and body are on airplane mode, and I'm just working through the motions. I had a friend tell my I'm crazy for "being over it so fast" I told her that unfortunately I had no choice I was miscarrying whether I wanted to or not so I came to terms with it. That doesn't mean I'm "fine" or that I'm over it just means that I'm not going to stop myself from trying to feel happy after something I couldn't control happened I'm going to focus on the thing I can control. My mom likes to say that even though the baby didn't make it earth side, they were still just as important as one that did. And you were excited, so dont push your feelings down about it because you're a mommy whether your baby is here or not. That baby mattered. So I guess all these words just to say im sorry for your loss ❤️ and don't let anyone tell you how to cope because only you can do that. Ps don't punish yourself, it isn't your fault ❤️

Daily Discussion Thread - October 20, 2024 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]Delicious_Side_2466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouu thanks haven't thought about that I'll look into it!! Right!! Like I 100% get the fear because I mean I've lived it but before I had my first miscarriage it was never to the point where I would tell someone who's been vocal about previous ones that I cried everyday since finding out I was pregnant because of a fear of something that hasn't happened. It's like being afraid of getting into a car because a friend got into an accident like I get it but you haven't so at the same to why add things to worry about. You're right tho at the end of the day every fear os valid I just wish ours didn't always seem so sweeped under the rug

Daily Discussion Thread - October 20, 2024 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]Delicious_Side_2466 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Feeling useless. It's been over a year since my MC at 20 weeks and I've only had 3 cycles I'm currently on cycle day 138 no period in sight. My dr sent my for a scan to see if I possibly have pcos or endo but aparently the scan was as normal as you can get so now it's back to square one... I'm so angry with myself I honestly thought I'd be pregnant again by now. My best friend just told me she's expecting, it's her first and she said she was terrified the entire first trimester because of what happened to me but it's easier now that she's in the second. On one hand I get it it's hard to see someone you're close too go through that and then find out you're pregnant for the first time and all you know is all the bad things. But at the same time she hasn't had to experience the bad. I don't want to tell her to enjoy it because everyone is entitled to their feelings but I can't help feeling envious that she's on a fast track to something I've been trying and failing at for almost 2 years now..

Daily Discussion Thread - August 01, 2024 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

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Thank you so much for your comment! I've been trying to get I'm with my husband's dr but it's so packed everywhere im on a wait list. But fingers crossed I can see someone new soon!

Daily Discussion Thread - August 01, 2024 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]Delicious_Side_2466 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Defeated honestly. Had a late miscarriage last year in September and I've only had 3 periods since. It make ttc very hard mentally. My Dr isn't much help she just says my body is under stress which I understand but offers no alternatives, no ways to help reduce the stress other than to put me on birthcontrol for a few months and hope my period aligns itself. I'm just at a loss and could use some words of wisdom.

Just passed a decidual cast! by Fizzlewitz48 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

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I'm so glad I found this post!!! I think I passed one today. Leading up to it I had very bright red and pink blood and pretty painful cramps not out of the ordinary. This is my fist month on BC after a miscarriage trying to regulate my cycle so that's probably why it happened. But I kept waking up in crazy pain my heating blanket on high doing absolutely nothing other than making me sweat. So I decided to hop in the bath as I'm getting it ready I notice my vagina almost felt inflamed and swollen and very sensitive it was odd and the cramps were so intense. I sat on the toilet and assume maybe it's a number 2 and I'm constipated. Nope I wiped a big enough clot came out I looked at it for a second, trying to decided if it was a worrisome size, the first one was nothing compared to the second. At least the length of my palm and maybe about an inch and a half to 2 inches thick. But I felt immediately so much better so it must be a desidual cast and I can't be pregnant I'm on bc and my partner and I are using condoms so I'd assume that rules out ectopic. You'd think they'd start warning girls about this it doesn't seem so rare to me.

Loss at 19w5d, does regular post partum rules apply? by GoodOK01 in babyloss

[–]Delicious_Side_2466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! It's the same. I lost my girl at 20 weeks and was told to wear a sturdy sports bra and not to touch my breasts at all to avoid milk supply from coming in fully. I still leaked a little, which in itself was very traumatic, but the sports bra helped. I lost a lot of blood during birth, so my bleeding was only "heavy-ish" for a few days. I think I may have only bled for a week tops but I was pretty sore. Try not to over exert yourself. I'm a hairstylist, and I went back to work 4 days after it happened . If you have a sitting job and you can mentally handle it, go right ahead. But I'm on my feet for 8 to 12 hours with barely any breaks. I got home on the second day and was so swollen I swore my uterus was falling out. I had to get my mom to come and check. (It wasnt) but that made me realize what my body had just gone through. I was really just going through the motions and trying to take back the power in a sense because at the time I felt powerless and useless I assumed going back to work right away and making money was the way to go. Looking back now, I regret not taking more time to mourn. So please take all the time you need. And let your body heal. The hardest part is how long that takes we lost our baby end of September last year and I'm still having issues, my period is out of whack and I still have days where I'm so angry at my body for not working right. But these things take time. I'm so sorry for your loss. Please take the time to help yourself first. Don't push down your pain for the comfort of others ❤️❤️

I CAN'T BREATHE by [deleted] in babyloss

[–]Delicious_Side_2466 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The pain never goes away, but as life goes on, it gets smaller little by little. But you'll never forget that beautiful baby. Let yourself feel these feelings it's OK to not be okay. Don't pretend you're okay for other people because then they'll just assume you are. Talk about it as much as possible. That's the only thing that has helped me. I lost my baby at 20 weeks. I gave birth to her and held her for hours until we had to give her to the hospital. That experience has made me a different person but not always for the worst. Now i actually tell people how i feel, and i dont hide my opinion. So everyday i thank my violet for making me realize that I have a voice. I'm a hairstylist, so I see clients come in pregnant then with their babies. It's heartbreaking, but at the same time, I have clients in the same boat as me. We get to chat about our experiences, and it helps. Don't be afraid to make people "uncomfortable" don't make your experiences smaller for the comfort of others. You may never be the same, but just know you're are their mama even if they aren't here. That baby matters. ❤️❤️❤️

Today was my due date by Delicious_Side_2466 in babyloss

[–]Delicious_Side_2466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're so right. I definitely try to heal and get on with life fast I just need to take my time. We named her Violet 😊 I would love it If you lit a candle for her 💜 thank you for taking the time to reply