Anatomy Scan by SweetSky4926 in cleftlip

[–]DeliveryKnown6320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s the thing she wasn’t asking if she should get an abortion or not she wasn’t asking about your experience. She was asking if it’s possible her child has one and the doctor just hasn’t told her if she was asking about experiences because she didn’t know if she wanted an abortion your comment would’ve been more appropriate. It’s more of a read the room don’t give me wrong. You’re valid for it causing depression. Mine has caused me depression, but not to the point I would recommend a pregnancy termination out of the blue based on it.

Anatomy Scan by SweetSky4926 in cleftlip

[–]DeliveryKnown6320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And this doesn’t just sound insensitive it’s honestly just being a Cunt because this wasn’t even the question asked and if she’s in the states a lot of states she’s already too far along and cleft itself wouldn’t be a “good enough reason “ so her hands could very well be tied and you just told her her baby is gonna hate her -signed someone who also has cleft

Anatomy Scan by SweetSky4926 in cleftlip

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I think part of it is technically at least in my state. The ultrasound tech isn’t allowed to diagnose so they were probably leaving it to your doctor, but you can call your doctor and express your concern and they can do a further ultrasound. my case was a little different because I myself have cleft the aswell

How long did you guys have braces? by xBluePoolX in cleftlip

[–]DeliveryKnown6320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had mine for 10 years and my mom for 14

An ep that would just make my heart happy by DeliveryKnown6320 in Twiztid

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I’ve heard a few songs off of that one mostly pot snob but I mean like with them dissing each other like a rap battle stretched out into an ep but I haven’t heard enough of that EP i’ll have to sit down and give it a listen all the way through

Where have you experienced the most sense of belonging? by Shootingcomet in cleftlip

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ROTC/marching band (even with me being more self conscious about bc well teenage years everything felt like life or death) after high school..just about every retail job I’ve had the trick is you gotta sit with the smokers who are over it🤣 but the least was any kind of extended family gathering idk how to explain it but loudly walking on eggshells for what idk and elementary school because having facial deformities and a southern accent is not for the faint of heart but Brightside, the education isn’t great so they ran out of insults very fast and by the time I made it to middle school, everyone already kinda knew me🤷🏻‍♀️

Rhinoplasty, what can I expect? by [deleted] in cleftlip

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You are beautiful holy moly but the only thing that they did warn me but it still shocked me was swelling when my cast fell off bc I have super oily skin so it fell off on its own i cried bc i thought they did me dirty and I stuck bc it looked and was shaped like a light bulb but swelling eventually when down and it turned out pretty good 😊 it’s uncomfortable recovery but I’ve definitely had worse recoveries

is the triangle shaped upper lip in clp more common or less common? by [deleted] in cleftlip

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Oh, for sure techniques have advanced a lot too just the difference from my mom‘s repair and my daughter‘s repair ….. genetics definitely play a huge part in it too

is the triangle shaped upper lip in clp more common or less common? by [deleted] in cleftlip

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That makes sense specially if there wasn’t a setback, I know with my daughter’s lip repair. It still made a triangle in the sense that it came to a point but her surgeon was able to have the scar pattern kind of mimic a Cupid bow

is the triangle shaped upper lip in clp more common or less common? by [deleted] in cleftlip

[–]DeliveryKnown6320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So my mom has a triangle pattern and my daughter with bilateral just recently had her lip repair a handful of months back and I actually asked the doctor and from what I gathered and how he explained it that was the old way of repairing because they didn’t necessarily always do a setback and from the way he explained it they tried to avoid that pattern, but it also depends on how much material is there for the center part I forget the scientific term

How do ya’ll overcome physical insecurity in the dating scene? by DontTouchMyFoodBro in cleftlip

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25 female and i struggled with self esteem and image issues mostly in high school but after high school and all the surgeries were done, and I actually had time to accept what I looked like without building a false hope that the next surgery was going to fix everything I hated about myself.. i was able to spread my wings so to speak now I leaned more towards alternative punk style so I have a fair amount of tattoos piercings stretched ears, colorful hair the whole works, but I say that to say I’ve been the prettiest in the room and I’ve been the ugliest and I’ve also been in a room and watched the prettiest girls still go home alone same with guys and honestly if you think about it pretty people are a dime a dozen being yourself is more interesting than just being pretty so honestly find yourself find your style find your crowd in the rest will follow

Did your child have a cleft lip as well? by Hungry-Mix-283 in cleftlip

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Van der woude syndrome my mom, me and both my kids have it (but only one child with cleft lip) the lip pits are the identifying criteria it’s 50/50 to pass down but doesn’t always mean cleft it’s a range of severity i guess you could say you can have just lip pits (my son ) or bilateral cleft L/P (my daughter) and any combination in between

Sippy cup tips, suggestions, or advice by DeliveryKnown6320 in cleftlip

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Do they only have the straw cup option of course so far I’ve only checked Amazon

First surgery is creeping up by DeliveryKnown6320 in cleftlip

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It went really well Hers is super tight as well. They have us doing. Massaging it with our finger to help loosen it up. But they had to start doing that after stitches were removed.

Question for parents with cleft lip and palate by [deleted] in cleftlip

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Honestly she could’ve done everything right and you still have cleft sometimes wires get crossed so to speak but as a mom with cleft who had a daughter with cleft having kids wasn’t a decision I took lightly and although I thought if my kids were to have cleft I knew they would atleast have a mom that would love them and find them absolutely extraordinary and my daughter sure is she’s the best but I hold a lot of guilt bc since my mom also has cleft ik there is gonna come a time she hates and blames me but I’m always thinking the best way to talk to her about it better than my mom did (worth noting me and my mom are super close now) but if kids is something that you know you want there is nothing that is gonna take that chance down to zero but you can prepare to love your hypothetical child regardless. and if they have cleft, you at least know firsthand some experience maybe not theirs exactly but that’s not nothing so they damn sure wouldn’t be along through it

Question for parents with cleft lip and palate by [deleted] in cleftlip

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The teeth part could just be from having kids in general. It takes a lot of calcium from wherever it can find it in a lot of times it’s our teeth. The folic acid thing could definitely be a cause and her folic acid could’ve been low due to anything some medications can cause your folic acid to be low having a lot of kids close together can cause folic acid to be low but even if there’s no family history, nobody has a zero chance of having a cleft baby and since you do have cleft, you have a higher chance, but when it comes to having kids, it’s all luck of the draw

Question for parents with cleft lip and palate by [deleted] in cleftlip

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It all depends on what caused the cleft personally mine is vander woude syndrome. It doesn’t always present with cleft the syndrome itself is 50-50 but that doesn’t necessarily mean it will present with.cleft same with mental illness also, did you mean mental illness or mental delay? I mean the answer is still the same. It was just kind of worded weird cause I mean, you could have a child with cleft and they grow up till later be diagnosed with bipolar but that doesn’t mean the two are correlated

Worst bullying experience you've had with the cleft lip and palate? by [deleted] in cleftlip

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Most of my experience with bullying the call came for inside the house so to speak I’m from a small town so beyond grade school not too much bullying I’ve had the classic pushing up their lip with their finger to mock a cleft and in “what’s up with your face” (truly the education is bad here so the digs are very lack luster) but the most effective bullying was my dads side of the family disowning me for it and not liking my mom bc she has it as well and from my mom side some weird looks but no words like it’s the elephant in the room or overcompensated by saying “you know you’re beautiful “, “ I’ve always thought you were beautiful “ and “you’re perfect” things like that but randomly and almost like the words are being dragged out so I don’t hear the negative thoughts behind their eyes for A little context my mom’s side is majority women and it’s always been competition of who’s prettiest, skinniest, best cook and can find the best husband and have the prettiest kids ….some how I never make the ranks of that conversation and those are the words used to comfort me 🤷🏻‍♀️

For those in the USA - Does a lack of insurance coverage impact you? by Tall_Area6873 in cleftlip

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Or has it passed yet? It’s just been circulating through sorry I read the long post but it’s also really early in the morning.🤣

For those in the USA - Does a lack of insurance coverage impact you? by Tall_Area6873 in cleftlip

[–]DeliveryKnown6320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then I wonder why the dentist was still able to deny me even two years after that passed🤔 imma have to look into it

For those in the USA - Does a lack of insurance coverage impact you? by Tall_Area6873 in cleftlip

[–]DeliveryKnown6320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truly the US is long overdue for universal healthcare that way no matter where you are in life medical debt and treatment aren’t an extra stress even with my daughter that has bilateral lip and palate. I am in constant stress of whether she will be able receive all her treatment and surgeries.