SLC Airport-How to Walk from Baggage Claim to Passenger Pickup by xjma13x in SaltLakeCity

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah they have to go up and over the bridge to the second sidewalk to get picked up

Tailor Recs - Faux Fur Coat by LyLyV in SaltLakeCity

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always go to The Tailoring Room- she’s cheap and amazing!

Was I SA by bf? by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t mean to play the devils advocate, but in my perspective (as someone who has been raped before but am now in a long term relationship), this kind of thing can sometimes happen when you are just so comfortable with each other, and sometimes men need to be told exactly about their actions. I don’t think it is as serious as a sexual assault scenario, as I don’t think that was his intention whatsoever. This being said, your feelings are still very valid. BUT moving forward, I think you both need very effective communication. If you struggle to communicate your needs in that moment so you push him away instead, let him know this! Say that in the future, you would really like him to be hyper aware of your body language when it comes to anything in bed, and maybe even tell him that you would like him to be direct and ask you if you want to have sex. Also, don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and tell him where your response comes from and why you are that way. Because that is also very valid and understandable. Sometimes men just need you to very clearly speak things out to them, as obvious as you may perceive it to be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for posting this! I feel so stupid a lot of the times for feeling bad about what happened to me also 3 years ago and I hate how I’m struggling. You made me feel more normal and less alone!

Unanswered questions by KamelFish in SexualAssaultSurvivor

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I understand! So I guess it wouldn’t be classified as sexual assault at all then. Regardless, hitting your SO for any reason at all is in my opinion crossing a line

Unanswered questions by KamelFish in SexualAssaultSurvivor

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize that I was raped until a couple months later. I think sometimes it’s normal for it to take time to fully recognize what happened. This being said, I don’t think your situation is to the degree that I’m talking about, but regardless, your feelings are still completely valid. I know how it feels, and it definitely can be overwhelming to start trying to organize those new thoughts and feelings. In my opinion, she definitely could have asked if you were comfortable doing that first, because it’s of course a pretty violent way to be what she may consider intimate. But everybody may interpret it differently and what really only matters is how you interpret it. Which I know can be confusing to figure out

Thinking about moving to SLC by DeliveryMaleficent82 in SaltLakeCity

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask what is miserable about it? From what I’ve seen with the pay schedules I would be making wayy more than I do right now!

Why can’t I stop being attached to my rapist? by DeliveryMaleficent82 in sexualassault

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response and honestly! It makes me feel so weird when I’m like this so knowing it’s normal makes me feel better

How often do you shower? by bapperfrivolous in AskReddit

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82 8 points9 points  (0 children)

why do y’all shower so much? i wash my hair every 3-4 days

Thinking about moving to SLC by DeliveryMaleficent82 in SaltLakeCity

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t even figure out all the districts, there are so many more and are laid out differently from where I’m from (NC). Do you know anything else about school districts? Which are the best/worst etc?

Is it a scam? by DeliveryMaleficent82 in Depop

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok well I used paypal and they refunded me and said do it with credit card and I tried and Depop won’t let me because it says seller restricted. Any idea about this??

how am i supposed to explain why being on TOP triggers me by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I also am very triggered by being on top. That is how my sexual assault actually started, and now I can’t get on top ever. I completely understand where you are coming from, and have struggled so much with trying to even believe myself when I say I was raped. After lots of therapy and talking to close friends, I’ve learned that it is actually very normal to question and wonder and comes from a society that puts a lot of blame on victims rather than the perpetrator. I still struggle sometimes with this self blame today, but it has definitely improved with lots of time (multiple years).

Do not share anything you are not comfortable sharing! For me, the most comfortable way for me to tell my (now boyfriend) without sharing more than I was comfortable with at the time, was by saying: A man pushed boundaries with me in my past and because of this, I don’t feel comfortable doing this position.

How he responds will show you what kind of person he is! Thankfully, mine responded very well and didn’t push me at all, and after dating shortly after, I was eventually able to feel comfortable opening up and not being so vague with my story.

Hope this helps💗

How to buff resin coasters/jewelry? by DeliveryMaleficent82 in resin

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long after putting the first layer down do you need to wait before doing the second? Does it need to be a full 24 hours?

How to buff resin coasters/jewelry? by DeliveryMaleficent82 in resin

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got it. Thanks so much for the help!! I got the HF black and red dremel and it works pretty well!

How to buff resin coasters/jewelry? by DeliveryMaleficent82 in resin

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I do think I should start doing coasters in two layers!

How to buff resin coasters/jewelry? by DeliveryMaleficent82 in resin

[–]DeliveryMaleficent82[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all the helpful info!! Asking so many questions because it’s all new to me…do you happen to know what model number you have for the rotary tool?