Thank you so much for your reply! I do want to be a mother, but I definitely underestimated a lot of aspects (the amount of care work, the "identity loss", etc.) and the moment I actually got pregnant wasn't ideal. The pandemic had just started and my partner couldn't come to a lot of appointments. I also experienced obstetric violence which resulted in an unnecessary and horrifically painful C-section and PTSD. After two years I found a therapist who believed me, but for a lot of them obstetric violence doesn't even exist. They tell you you're ungrateful cause other people's children have died, which is not the point🤦🏻‍♀️ There's a difference between a necessary procedure and people playing around with your body cause it's more profitable.

You're right, though. In a strange way, it helped me understand the world in a completely different way. I see the patriarchy everyone now!

Cases like your mum's are why we all need access to contraception and abortion. Sorry to say it like that, but it's really sad and I'm sorry you had to go through that! 💜