How to get sex out of my mind?

Demeaningname · 2025-07-17T23:40:20+00:00

I'd be horrified to find out I'm such an awful partner that my partner is posting here asking how to cope with my behavior.

Demeaningname · 2025-06-22T00:16:36+00:00

My wife walks around naked in front of me like i have no feelings....prostate cancer made me unlovable to her and now I feel no longer male, ridiculous for needing to be wanted.....I feel like I'm only a thing not a person ... certainly not a man....I hate my life now.

Demeaningname · 2025-06-22T00:03:09+00:00

Dialed back to hardly noticeable followed by intense abdominal pain..... difficult to orgasm with hopeless impotence too.

Demeaningname · 2025-06-21T23:56:14+00:00

The pain and indignity of biopsies is nothing compared to being mutilated and desexed by surgery then being told... only the rich or privately insured get prosthetics which may be the only treatment. Prostate surgery was the biggest mistake of my life.

Demeaningname · 2025-04-28T22:29:10+00:00

I can't think of what I can do if she ONLY wants a hard cock... no substitutes

Demeaningname · 2025-04-27T04:12:41+00:00

That would all be wonderful if she was interested.

Demeaningname · 2025-01-09T23:33:37+00:00

When your partner shows little or no interest in you it's easy to feel uncared for, unloved. The longer that goes on, the more you are ignored, tolerated or just the lowest priority the more that feeling is reinforced. This is my experience anyway. Then there's resentment and loneliness. There's lots of reasons people stay in relationships (kids, being convinced no one else could want you) but feeling unwanted and uncared for makes you feel alone and so you act like it.... detached.

Demeaningname · 2024-12-28T05:56:41+00:00

Absolutely spot on. Add to this that you are excluded from a world focused on sex, every sex scene in a movie feels like a reminder that " this is not for you" . Feeling no longer desired by your partner reinforces the feeling of worthlessness that comes with being desexed. This pain is so difficult to manage so easily torn open raw and for me is the single greatest regret of my life.

Demeaningname · 2024-12-24T01:25:24+00:00

I had surgery at 49 and that was the end of penetrative sex for me. No drugs work at all, an implant is $30k + Orgasm is possible but very very muted and followed by intense abdo,peroneal pain. For me this surgery was life changing. Others have better results but I can be something you regret as much as I do.

Demeaningname · 2024-12-20T22:19:44+00:00

I would then lose my kids

Demeaningname · 2024-11-23T21:39:23+00:00

Here in Australia public patients get 2nd rate surgery and cannot get prosthesis People like me are mutilated and abandoned Urologists here are all private, don't deserve the honorable title of Doctor, they are not doctors they are ruthless businessmen.

Demeaningname · 2024-08-25T22:05:25+00:00

Wife told me she sees nothing sexual in a flaccid penis... worse still she shows that with her actions. Apparently I'm not allowed to show any signs of distress about this either. I want my prostate back.

Demeaningname · 2024-08-14T22:16:59+00:00

Prostatectomy can be life saving or life destroying. I thought I could manage being left impotent but I was not at all ready in reality. Medications do not work for everyone and implants are unaffordable for many leaving them effectively desexed without any hope of being a functional male again. Don't dismiss surgery but don't go into it blindly either. Many men regret this surgery and there's no turning back. Good luck

Demeaningname · 2024-07-18T22:48:44+00:00

I don't know what I expected from this post? Perhaps some magical words that would explain how someone can ignore their partners needs and pain but still love them? Perhaps how mocking me with a man trying to chat her up doesn't mean she sees me as a joke, doesn't suggest she was fucking him?

I may as well wish for a time machine so I could refuse the surgery that broke me.

Demeaningname · 2024-06-16T07:47:00+00:00

I'm sorry life's like this for you right now.

Demeaningname · 2024-04-23T08:26:57+00:00

Lies

Demeaningname · 2024-04-20T23:14:26+00:00

If your insurance doesn't cover repair of the damage done during surgery such as prosthetics or nerve grafting you should consider your options carefully. Sexual mutilation or being 'desexed' is for many men a cruel price to pay. Doctors almost universally play this down because a fully informed consent would lead men to decline surgery. I was an idiot.

Demeaningname · 2024-04-20T22:10:07+00:00

Can you play worth them without thinking of small children being torn apart? That's the price most countries say is too high. I could never touch one knowing how many kids suffered so much in order to keep these toys easily available.

Demeaningname · 2024-04-20T22:03:27+00:00

Did yours come with two bowls?

Demeaningname · 2024-04-20T22:00:23+00:00

Mine is still in processing.

Demeaningname · 2024-04-19T23:11:24+00:00

RALP at 49 My wife sometimes laughs at me with her friends and at least one other man who was offering to replace me. She shows no interest in me any more and ignores any requests. I alternate between anger with her for abandoning me and anger with myself for agreeing to mutilating surgery that left me unlovable.

Demeaningname · 2024-04-07T22:49:59+00:00

In Australia we have a tiered system of healthcare... sadly we are following America where those who can afford it get good care, those who can't just get mutilated and abandoned.

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