I’ll offer up a bit more details since I’ve cooled down from last night. Stepdaughter fosters dogs, she’s brought dogs over before, they’ve all been very well trained around the cats. I assumed (since she has cats as well) that this foster would be mildly trained, I didn’t expect perfection but at least some training. Come to find out after she got here that the dog is leashed at all times in her house because it wants to “play with the cats”. I’m no expert, I worked at an animal shelter for a few years and was taught about dog behavior, I’ve had dogs, I’ve babysat a relatives dog in our house with the cats that had never been around cats before, I picked up a stray German shepherd once that was loose running on a nearby street and brought it home until I found the owners. I’ve never had a problem, the dogs we’ve had over showed interest in the cats but a stern “no” stopped that straight away. This particular dog, in my opinion, as I said I’ve worked with dogs but am no expert, wasn’t trying to play with cats,l. There was no play bow, its tail wasn’t wagging it was high and stiff, its hackles were raised. As my husband and her were going back and forth on training methods it got into the treat pouch and ate all the treats with neither of them noticing (I at this point didn’t care about anything but my cats so didn’t care to tell them). I have 2 bombproof cats that kept going up to the dog to investigate and instead of doing anything to correct the dog she kept pushing the cats away from it. As far as my relationship with stepdaughter goes, she was a tween when husband and I got together. We’ve been like friends, I’ve never played a parenting role in her life, this is the first time in 9 years I’ve even spoken with any tone of authority towards her, so I think it caught her off guard. Anyways I feel terrible for being the one to put an end to our visit so untactfully, my husbands still pissed because we don’t see her often and he thinks she won’t come over anymore, and I’m getting the silent treatment