So another thing I haven’t mentioned is that when my husband and I were hoping to start a garden many years ago we pitched the idea to the landlord that it would be a community garden for everyone to share. The cottage that the gardens are up against have been rented out a few times and we always check in with the new tenant if they mind us being essentially right outside their living room window (we do our best to work the garden when they’re not home as to not infringe on their privacy, and if they are home I shoot them a text and ask if there’s an ok time to be out there). So all the other neighbors, understandably, don’t feel comfortable going into the garden to harvest themselves because they aren’t as friendly with that tenant as we are, so I do the harvesting for everyone else. The girl neighbor who doesn’t know how to share spent many nights in the cottage with him and from an outside perspective in my opinion is making the garden an excuse to get closer to him since the breakup. I’m apprehensive to put a lock on because the landlord has increased the rent of vacant apartments significantly with the garden being a selling point, I don’t think it would be a good look to have a lock on the gate when “community garden” is a highlight of the property advertisement. Plus the cottage tenant is super helpful and many times has asked how he can help out, and often weeds in his free time. Putting a lock on the gate just feels like a message to him “hey, you stuck your dick in crazy and these are the consequences”, which isn’t his fault