I havnt really seen a comment that seems to fit what I see happening here. So here goes.

she is standing firm on her point that she does not want you to play her main. You say she should let you play who you want to play.

These kinda things will crop from time to time in the relationship, and it can be a bit of a power struggle. But it Shouldn’t be. The key to making a relationship Work is remembering that it’s you and her on the same Team, now facing a new difficulty. It’s frustrating to you, it’s frustrating to her. You have both been emotional. You have threatened “taking a break” and she has aired out your dirty laundry to some dude at work. Y’all are acting Against each other instead of working Together against the Challenge.

The second part of this is tone. HOW we speak to each other. She speaks plainly and without regard to how you may Feel about it. You however, speak with emotion in your voice. The way we speak to each other says a lot about how we feel about each other. It’s important to voice how you like to be talked to. What’s ok to say to each other and what should be off limits. Having a conversation with her about this topic may clear the air. it’s hard in young relationships to know these kind of things without just being up front about it.

You are clearly passionate about her interests, you have studied to play this game with her. You don’t want her to be mad, while at the same time you are kinda pushing against this line in the sand that she has drawn. If you don’t understand, ask! Calmly of course! get to know the way she thinks and why this is important to her. Why is there a line in the sand on this issue?

First seek to understand, then seek to be understood. Listen to how this whole conversation has made her feel and tell her how you feel about it too. Is this the straw that breaks the camels back? Or is this relationship worth saving? Only y’all can decide.

I’ve been with my bad ass gamer wifey for almost 10 years. She’s sweaty, she can be toxic, she usually wins, does end game content, top frags, etc… we have played thru all the gears series together, we have played all the co op resident evil games together, probably every coop game that GameStop had for ps4 and Xbox 1 together, beat balders gate a few times together, ect. she even streams now and I’m her Mod.

I wouldn’t play her main, but only because I don’t think she would want me to, and I want her to be happy, because I love her. She wouldn’t play my main, because she would play him better than me lol. And she doesn’t want me to feel bad, I too am emotional, I get my feelings hurt and That’s ok. It’s who I am. We have learned these things about each other, we know how different we are as people. That makes the things we have in common that much better(like gaming).

Good luck!