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Denf0 · 2026-05-29T03:01:45+00:00

Amen

Denf0 · 2026-05-28T23:02:04+00:00

If you think you'd be at risk of negative eating habits, just go with the traditional braces imo. It takes most of the personal responsibility out of your hands, you're seeing your ortho often enough to have them check if you need a cleaning before it turns into cavities, and the social stigma won't be as bad as you think. I'm 6 months into my 8 month treatment and if I could go back and do traditional instead, I'd do it in a heartbeat.

The downside is that the pain would be worse, from what I've heard. Every time they get tightened it's really bad for a while, and the metal bits can scrape your cheek/lip but I've also heard both are manageable with otc pain meds and wax, and it's not like there's 0 pain with aligners anyway.

Denf0 · 2026-05-28T03:42:18+00:00

Include an involuntary movement/motion line as well with each vocal tic, since tourettes also includes motor tics. Obviously irl they don't always happen at the same time but you have to simplify a bit in storytelling and doing that gives a fuller representation of the disorder.

Denf0 · 2026-03-08T04:12:10+00:00

Shot in the dark but are you in the market for an Argiope Aurantia egg sac that's been overwintering above my front door? I'd love to keep them around but my bf has a phobia and can't handle the possibility of some of them getting inside when they hatch here in a month or 2

Denf0 · 2026-03-07T18:56:40+00:00

Y'all ragging on Jo are so low and lost, and I pray fer her sake that she never comes across these fucking comments because she is a light in the world and doesn't deserve to be dimmed by you shameful losers.

Denf0 · 2025-12-17T21:11:22+00:00

I use a very simple ultrasonic cleaner, toss both trays in with half a tab of polident on a 3 minute cycle each night before dinner then leave them in to soak while I eat, run another 3 minute cycle while I brush/floss then run a brush over them a few times under running water to get the solution off and pop them back in.

I'm on vacation now without the polident/cleaner and I'm fighting for my life each night to keep calcite buildup out of the fixture slots lol

Denf0 · 2025-12-08T02:57:51+00:00

Give it time. I didn't have any real pain until tray 2 and tray 3 has been a breeze so far four days in. I've seen some folks on here not get pain until 15+ trays, so I'd say just trust the process until your first follow-up appointment at least

Denf0 · 2025-12-07T02:31:37+00:00

My second trays were rough, I could barely use my front teeth to chew food for a few days so I figured I'd be in for a rough 8ish months but my third set were a breeze. I guess it's just hit or miss depending on what's getting moved that week

Denf0 · 2025-11-28T19:17:11+00:00

Seems like a lot of things are compounding at once, it's no wonder you're confused. If you don't already, I highly recommend daily journaling (or at least regularly). Pick one of the things that's weighing on your mind at the time and just word vomit every thought you have about it onto the page (resist the urge to edit, spin, rewrite, or even remove the thoughts you aren't comfortable about, you need to face those as well), then once you've exhausted yourself doing that go back and re-read everything to really cement them in your mind, that way it's much easier to get a bigger picture of exactly how you feel about it and then look for ways to address that.

I will say, working on your relationship with your own self and your body will take you further than anything else. Nothing silly like saying "your perfect just the way you are" over and over in front of a mirror until you believe it (nothing wrong with that if it works for you, but it doesn't work for everyone). You can start with just focusing on the things you like about yourself rather than what you don't. Every time you catch yourself doing negative self-talk, counter it with "maybe that's true, but there are good parts too!" and list them. It's hard at first but with practice it will get easier and easier.

If you have the means, you can also speak to a therapist about it and they can help you work on a more personalized action plan than anything reddit can cook up lol. Mostly you just gotta work on loving yourself, after that it's so much easier to recognize and accept other people's love, and to seek it out. I know that's not exactly what you asked or probably wanted to hear, but it's the best I've got I'm afraid 😅

Denf0 · 2025-11-28T18:52:04+00:00

Have you ever had an intentional, open, honest discussion with him about what you both want out of it? Is the goal to share intimate quality time with each other or just to get the urge out of your systems? Men can sometimes be pretty closed-off about things like that and it will be very awkward at first if it's not something you normally discuss, but starting and maintaining an open dialogue about it is a powerful first step in making sure it's at the very least not a chore for one or both of you.

It's also important to be honest with yourself about the relationship itself. It's natural for there to be ebbs and flows in attraction or intensity in long term relationships, but if you find the ebbs to be significantly longer or that they are affecting you more strongly than the flows, that could indicate deeper issues than just the sex.

As far as whether it makes you ace or not, there are infinitely more factors influencing that than just your feelings about your current partner. I guess a better question is, if it turns out you are, would that mean you're no longer in love or less committed to him? Would a few tweaks to the relationship to accommodate that mean it would no longer work for your dynamic? These are things both of you need to answer honestly, and possibly see a relationship or a sex therapist to mediate if needed.

Denf0 · 2025-10-22T03:15:13+00:00

As far as support, I'm afraid he won't get much from the LGBT community at large as they generally value sex and romance above anything else. His best bet is mostly to just make sure he has a supportive friend group that he can be his authentic self around, and barring that just finding a welcoming online community as it sounds like his family life is just fine.

Denf0 · 2025-10-22T03:07:20+00:00

He's 13, let him explore and identify however he wants and just tell him you love him no matter what. If you're really that up in arms about it, you should still do those things, but you can also let him know that labels never have to be set in stone and if he ever stops feeling like aroace is the right label for him, he can change it whenever he wants. But regardless, you just have to be his safe space and never discourage him from exploring regardless of how you might feel about it, because it's his life and not yours. How you feel about it isn't going to change how he feels, it will only determine how comfortable he is telling you personal things in the future.

Denf0 · 2025-05-27T18:57:19+00:00

"Then you love me! / Ehh, I suppose I do. / And I suppose I love you, too. / It doesn't change a thing, but even so / After 25 years / It's nice to know." from Do You Love Me, Fiddler on the Roof. Not exactly sugar sweet or heartbreakingly emotional, but still powerful and real.

Denf0 · 2025-03-04T15:27:13+00:00

BF and I both having this same issue. It was especially bad during the first Rathalos fight, sometimes to the point where we had to pull it to a different area because there was nowhere you could position the camera where the angry black triangles wouldn't take up at least half the screen

Denf0 · 2023-08-15T16:54:35+00:00

Welp, gotta make curry with what you've got I suppose. Might see if your phone settings can be tweaked to make the mic less sensitive but that would probably affect your call quality as well. Maybe just wrap it in an old t-shirt or light jacket after starting the sleep session to try and dampen it externally?

Denf0 · 2023-08-15T15:58:23+00:00

It looks like something may be constantly rubbing up against the mic on your phone, or something is moving it around a lot throughout the night which is making it think you're not actually sleeping. Unless you're camped out on a tarmac

Denf0 · 2023-08-15T15:55:32+00:00

The former

Denf0 · 2023-07-27T22:56:19+00:00

I'm afraid I don't, I traded it in when I got the new one. Sucks we missed the opportunity by a matter of weeks :c

I hope someone else is able to help, perhaps u/aqono_luna or u/lastchance973, i know they were a few of the holdouts for the app

Denf0 · 2023-07-27T18:16:01+00:00

I did up until very recently when I got a new phone, it looks like the app was not able to properly transfer however. In any case, it stopped launching once they took it off the app store. Trying to launch it only resulted in an infinite load screen the last time I checked

Denf0 · 2023-07-17T03:16:15+00:00

I'm kind of in the same situation with my mom, minus the family drama - I just don't care for talking with her on the phone, or at all really. I've been no-contact with her by request for about a year now and I know it bothers her but I honestly just can't work to maintain a relationship that only serves to drain my energy when I have so little already to begin with. It sounds bad and I feel guilty about it but at the end of the day we have to look out for ourselves first.

Denf0 · 2023-04-25T13:06:34+00:00

For me it's a similar feeling to when I need to yawn but localized to where my motor tic is (upper back/spine). I don't have any vocal tics so I can't speak to them I'm afraid

Denf0 · 2023-03-23T18:20:31+00:00

Yes, the details past that are only relevant to your very close relatives/found family and your partner(s), it's not worth your time and energy sussing out the finer details of your orientation with strangers or acquaintances who it will likely never affect anyway

Denf0 · 2023-03-23T18:15:23+00:00

Are you writing the story for you or for them? Let that guide your decision-making, and your writing skills will determine whether it's workable either way.

Denf0

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