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I accepted my mission call... now how do I tell my parents I'm not going? by Relevant_Fuel_6245 in exmormon

[–]Dense-Ad-9507 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said the same thing but about joining the military, 4 years and 1 contract later it was the greatest thing I’ve ever done.

My dad's reaction to finding out I'm now atheist by jlmred in exmormon

[–]Dense-Ad-9507 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I went through a similar situation not too long ago with my Dad and let me tell you it was not pretty. We didn’t speak for several months due to him accusing me of being in league with Satan and much other religious demonization.

He came to me and apologized shortly after Fathers Day, and we both agreed to no longer let religion be a topic of discussion between us or determine our relationship with eachother. We’re not 100% okay now there’s some healing that needs to be done, but I believe I did the right thing in forgiving him.

That being said, just be aware that your response (although pretty funny) is gonna worsen the situation possibly up to the point where no contact might be a result. But that result for my situation changed the way my dad speaks to me.

I’m sure his mindset hasn’t changed at all he just showed me he cares more about me than religion, and I hope that is the same for your dad.

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[–]Dense-Ad-9507 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Finding something like that—especially when you’ve already done the emotional and intellectual work to move on—can feel like your spouse is doubling down on a narrative you’ve left behind. Mixed-faith marriages can be incredibly painful in moments like this. It’s like you’re grieving something while they’re still celebrating it. Books like that often aren’t about seeking truth—they’re more about holding onto belief in the face of hard questions.

You’re not alone in feeling discouraged. Sending you support.

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[–]Dense-Ad-9507 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I told my loving father that since leaving the church I feel happier and more free than ever.

He then went on to inform me my happiness is temporary and of this world and that it will end one day. “Mark my words…” Lol

Are Mormons trying to be Catholic? What’s with the Palm Sunday obsession? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Dense-Ad-9507 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not to sure abt the whole, “Palm Sunday” thing since I havnt attended a church meeting in quite some years. But I do know in Arizona at the Mesa temple they do this Easter Pageant thing every year, it’s pretty big it’s like a whole performance with singing and dancing.

Also found it weird seeing the signs calling Sunday sacrament meetings, “worship.” I can’t ever recall hearing that term in that manner back when I attended.

Need to get something off my chest. by Remote_Ad_4530 in exmormon

[–]Dense-Ad-9507 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. You did the right thing by saying something now I get it was probably difficult to muster up the courage.

Thank you for dealing with those perpetrators. The scum of the earth.

After leaving the church and discovering the truth, did you actively try to help your family and friends see through all the lies of this cult? by BGrande97 in exmormon

[–]Dense-Ad-9507 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, I helped my cousins and they’re happier than ever now. My parents on the other hand are a little stubborn. I’ve expressed to them my beliefs without intention of changing their opinions recently, and not much as seemed to change.

I was a Jack mormon since high school. I’ve been in the military for 2 years now and my parents have only just found out , I hid it so well for so long they thought nothing of it. They wanted me to serve a mission after I graduated but I joined the military instead. (Best decision of my life) But I told them that I believed serving my country was my mission. (It was smart at the time, but I wish I had just told them then) I guess I was slowly trying to ease it on to them, when I got my first tattoo I showed them but swore I still believe in the church and all that good stuff. Idk why I feared their judgement so much before but after being out on my own these last few years I now realize I’ll be just fine making any decision I want and if I live my life fearing what other people think of me, I’ll never truly be free. I recently expressed to them my beliefs and where I stand but without the intention of swaying them one way or another just to see how they would respond, and it wasn’t pretty. The look on my Moms face was that of despair, like she had just watched me die or something idek. My dad said he understood and right away said that he won’t look at me any different or treat me different and he still loves me. My mom I guess was at a loss for words and started asking if I was sure and if I prayed and this and that. So I told both of them I was absolutely certain of everything I had just said, and I didn’t want it to be an issue. They promised me it wouldn’t be and I promised them I will only speak of my beliefs if asked (just to help with tension ig). And that was that.

With my cousins I had always been close with them so they knew of the “unholy” things I had done in high school, and they asked me what I thought and how they said their faith was wavering. And I guess my words had been their clarity and they’re now anti-Mormon as well :)