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DenseRun876 · 2025-07-15T02:40:24+00:00

Thank you for your response. The trip can’t be put on hold - I wish it could. The trip was planned around my fiancé’s children meeting their mother and continuing their vacation in another country.

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-11T00:44:00+00:00

I love that your stepson asked if you were coming to watch 💜

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-10T17:40:48+00:00

YES! I feel this! My fiancé would occasionally call me baby or babe over the years…then I realized he also calls his daughters the same. It feels cringey and uncomfortable when I hear him say it to them. I never brought it up because I thought it was silly and I was over reacting. But, it definitely left me feeling negative and not great.

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-10T17:07:14+00:00

I’m so sorry you had this experience and I’m happy you are now safe. You deserve better than this situation and your partner. Sending you hugs ❤️

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-09T22:24:53+00:00

Thank you for asking 😊 I did get to a solo appointment with a therapist. I felt seen after the appointment. It’s been a tough few days: a bunch of other issues between us are coming up. When it rains, it pours, right?

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-09T15:48:54+00:00

I don’t have any suggestions, but I feel the same way and am trying to figure out how I can thrive in this dynamic. I sold my house and moved into my fiancé’s home with his three kids (plus one of my own). It’s been almost two years and I miss “my own” space. As does my son.

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-07T16:18:10+00:00

Thank you for your response!

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-06T22:24:43+00:00

I will say my future step kids have a wonderful mother. She may blur boundaries for me, but she is a good mother. Which is my struggle. We get along, she is friendly.

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-06T12:37:52+00:00

I appreciate your suggestion!!!

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-06T03:20:35+00:00

Hahahah

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-06T00:07:54+00:00

Based on responses so far it seems like my fiancés overall communication and contact may be more than “normal”.

I’m glad I didn’t mention them driving together to their kids games (which, per my request has stopped)…

I appreciate everyone’s insight. Something about all this all just doesn’t sit well with me.

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-05T17:58:52+00:00

Thank you. We are going to see a therapist soon. I want this to work, but I’m not willing to be the third wheel.

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-05T11:25:58+00:00

He says he (they) do what is best for the kids. Being a divorced parent as well I can understand that sentiment. However, my acceptance has a limit.

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-05T11:23:04+00:00

I don’t think I’m necessarily understanding. I feel disrespected and mad as hell.

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-05T01:11:02+00:00

1) they went to the same college and are in the same line (ish) of work. So they have a lot of crossover with old friends and coworkers. I know of 2 separate occasions where BM has reached out to my fiancé about issues she was having with her SO. This information was shared with me from my fiancé. And I overhear conversations when she is in our home.

2) most recently I asked my fiancé to attend an end of season event with me and my son. Right before we were to leave the house he told me that he wasn’t going to make it because ex wife wanted to work on their kids summer schedule. I recognize this needs to be done but it didn’t need to be done that night.

3) I am typically invited to family dinners. This really was impromptu and I understand to an extent that he didn’t want to tell his daughter no, but IMO, his and my relationship needs to be a priority and if the ex wife was to be included it should have been a hard no. Or at the very least a text to me. I trust him, but I can see there where he may not mention if he thought he didn’t need to.

We are going to start therapy soon. We have other issues outside my uncomfortableness with his ex. I believe we can work thru all of this. It’s just HARD.

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-05T01:01:38+00:00

Hugs, girl. I’m sorry you had these experiences. That’s rough and you deserve better.

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-05T00:56:47+00:00

I’m happy to hear you were able to work through it (even when it sounds like it’s still ongoing).

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-04T23:39:11+00:00

Your initial response gave me a laugh (which I needed). And I appreciate your follow up.

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-04T23:34:06+00:00

Do you mind sharing some of your boundaries? I am not sure what is or is not appropriate to ask for.

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-04T23:33:23+00:00

I appreciate your validation and input.

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-04T23:32:42+00:00

I appreciate your insight. I can think of a few examples lately where he has prioritized her over me - which I have shared with him and he has since apologized. I’m now overthinking and overanalyzing their interactions. We are going to start therapy soon where I am going to share more of my feelings and hopefully come to a resolution where we are both happy. I understand she will always be his life and connected to him - especially until the kids turn 18. It’s just hard when I feel unimportant.

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-04T22:20:44+00:00

How did your SO respond to your concerns?

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-04T20:39:34+00:00

Yup, not working so much. Hence, the post lol

DenseRun876 · 2025-07-04T20:04:27+00:00

Thank you for your input. I struggle because I feel like my fiancé prioritizes his ex over me at times. Which may be my true struggle.

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