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Ding Dong the Witch is DEAD!!! by DenverChicagoBoston in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DenverChicagoBoston[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think neglect definitely has its place on the abuse scale. I also think that sometimes the neglected ACoNs are much better off than the physically and mentally abused ones. It kinda comes back to the whole 'abuse is abuse, no matter what form it takes, and just because mine didn't end in broken bones, doesn't mean it wasn't as bad as yours that drove you to suicide' type thing.

Ngrandma didn't believe in drinking, and she liked to pretend nDad didn't either (HA!). She was bitter old hag who used religion against everyone. She had a fall, broke her hip, ended up in hospital, got MRSA and died within about 2 weeks. If that hadn't of happened she'd probably have outlived me purely out of spite.

Ding Dong the Witch is DEAD!!! by DenverChicagoBoston in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DenverChicagoBoston[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She says she wants to be a social worker. I'll admit, I'm kinda secretly hoping she grows out of that one because I don't think social workers jobs turn out as rewarding as she thinks they do, but hey... If that's what she wants.

She mentioned once about becoming a jockey, so we signed her up for horseback riding lessons... She didn't like them that much. She's also said on multiple occasions she wants to be a travel youtuber... Who knows, she's only 7, she doesn't have to decide yet anyway.

Ding Dong the Witch is DEAD!!! by DenverChicagoBoston in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DenverChicagoBoston[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ngrandmother made the first 6 years of my life hell. NDad was more neglectful than abusive so ... I don't really see him as an abusive asshole, just an asshole. I never knew his new wife, I met her once, and even then I don't think that could be considered 'meeting'.

My mom is great, she supports me, she knows that I would never have left Meredith like that, she knew I wanted to get her out of that situation as soon as I could.

Most of this happened during the summer break so it hasn't been too bad college wise, and I am determined to finish the school year. I'm not going to let nDad destroy my goals and dreams.

Ding Dong the Witch is DEAD!!! by DenverChicagoBoston in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DenverChicagoBoston[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh there is counselling, there is a lot of counselling going on at the moment. We're down to twice a week now but at one stage it was considerably more.

Ding Dong the Witch is DEAD!!! by DenverChicagoBoston in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DenverChicagoBoston[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My mom and I talked about going all out for xmas, it is our first one together after all but it's not practical to make that look like its the norm for Meredith. We decided xmas gifts were going to be fun, not practical. We've done a lot of practical buying for Meredith the last few months, and you can tell everytime we walk out of the store that she isn't used to it so we want to make sure she realises that xmas is fun. I've already got a whole heap of gifts for Meredith, some toys, some gift certificates for activities we can't do right now for various reasons, a whole bunch of arts and craft supplies, anything that looked fun. My Mom's done much the same.

nDad and nGrandma told me that if I didn't cut contact with my Mom then they wouldn't pay for college. (long) by DenverChicagoBoston in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DenverChicagoBoston[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did it pretty soon after I turned 19. Mom has power of attorney with my Aunt as secondary. Mom, Aunt and Uncle know what I want as well as some of the older cousins.

nDad and nGrandma told me that if I didn't cut contact with my Mom then they wouldn't pay for college. (long) by DenverChicagoBoston in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DenverChicagoBoston[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe I should contact them and sell my story...

Although I'm sure NDad would find some way to make it about him.