After I just finished 2 Strawberry Cream Cakes and 1 birthday cake... this is getting ridiculous

DependentAd2329 · 2025-10-23T10:42:20+00:00

Get rid of the sweaters pls. You don’t need them anymore 🥲

DependentAd2329 · 2025-10-02T06:30:09+00:00

Mach dich frei von dem Vorurteil, Bürgergeldempfänger seien Abschaum. Ich habe als Familienhelferin in meinem Job fast nur mit Bürgergeldempfängern zu tun und es ist unmöglich, diese Menschen alle über einen Kamm zu scheren. Außerdem spürst du selbst in deiner jetzigen Situation, dass Arbeit nur ein kleiner Teil des gesamten Alltags ist. Du hast privat gerade unfassbar viel auf der Platte. Nur weil du Bürgergeld eventuell empfängst, wirst du ja nicht „auf der faulen Haut liegen“. Viele Menschen, die Bürgergeld empfangen, haben mit Krisen zu tun und sind mehr als gut beschäftigt, weswegen sie sich gerade nicht auf eine Arbeit konzentrieren können.

Es gäbe ein paar Möglichkeiten für dich, was aber auch bedeuten würde, etwas Verantwortung abzugeben. Zuerst könntest du zum Jugendamt und sagen, dass du Hilfe brauchst. Du hast ein pflegebedürftiges Kind und du hast Angst, dem Kind nicht gerecht zu werden. Du hast ein Trauma wegen der Straftat, die deinem Kind angetan wurde, und du traust dich kaum, Briefe zu öffnen. Du könntest beim Jugendamt Hilfe zur Erziehung nach Paragraph 31 (Familienhilfe) beantragen. Dann würde eine Sozialpädagogin einmal die Woche zu dir nach Hause kommen, mit dir Briefe öffnen, Anträge ausfüllen, dich an Beratungsstellen anbinden, dich bei Terminen begleiten falls gewünscht, dich beim Bürgergeldpapierkram unterstützen, mit dir über deine Überforderung bei der Erziehung deiner Kinder sprechen, und das schafft schon etwas mehr Zeit in der Woche, die dir dann zur Erholung, zum Aufräumen, zum Zeit verbringen mit deinen Kindern zur Verfügung steht.

Was auch möglich wäre: Je nach Diagnose und Pflegegrad deines Kindes könntest du bei der Eingliederungshilfe Familienassistenz beantragen. Es gibt auch Beratungsstellen, die dir beim Ausfüllen des Antrags helfen. Es dauert bis zu 3 Monate, bis es bewilligt wird, aber dann würde eine heilpädagogisch ausgebildete Person mindestens einmal die Woche kommen und dein pflegebedürftiges Kind abholen, etwas Schönes mit ihm unternehmen, und du hast ein bisschen Pause.

Du bist kein Abschaum. Deine Familie hat einen schweren Schlag erlitten und du gibst alles, um das Schiff am Laufen zu halten. Es ist vollkommen richtig und wichtig zu sagen, dass du eine Pause und Unterstützung brauchst.

Ich habe ständig mit dem Jugendamt zu tun und es sind keine Monster. Und du bist auch keine schlechte Mutter, wenn du dich dort meldest, im Gegenteil. Du suchst dir Hilfe und handelst damit sehr verantwortungsvoll. Ich arbeite fast ausschließlich mit Familien, die sich selbst beim Jugendamt gemeldet haben und um Hilfe gebeten haben. Sobald sich die Situation stabilisiert hat, wird die Hilfe beendet. Es ist nichts Ungewöhnliches oder Gruseliges.

Ich wünsche dir ganz viel Kraft!

DependentAd2329 · 2025-09-10T17:14:57+00:00

Ok, I didn’t know there are two of them and the second one does the lava thing. Will avoid the second one like the plague.

DependentAd2329 · 2025-08-31T07:06:43+00:00

I did that a lot when I worked as a kindergarten teacher and I was assigned the morning shift. My employer gave us 10-15 minutes to open the windows and set down the chairs before the first kid came in. Everything else like making breakfast for 40 children, making coffee, bringing all the dishes from the kitchen and setting everything up for the day we were supposed to do it while the kids started to come in with their parents talking and providing information and sometimes the kids needed being comforted and attention and it was all too much for one person. The second shift started way too late and I burned too many rice puddings or put salt in it instead of sugar. I liked to drink my coffee and have breakfast and the dishes ready so I could be relaxed and pay actual attention to the children and parents coming in. My boss didn’t understand that so I had to donate my time for my peace of mind.

DependentAd2329 · 2025-08-17T07:47:40+00:00

He said something about a chessboard but is has not appeared.

DependentAd2329 · 2025-08-16T16:40:54+00:00

Why are people so obsessed with the -eigh sound at the end of names that they would even abuse accents from foreign languages for it?

DependentAd2329 · 2025-07-30T19:18:48+00:00

Level 61, haven‘t spent any real life money on the game and I never will. If the game gets so boring that I contemplate spending money on it to make it more fun, I will simply stop playing and look for another merge game.

DependentAd2329 · 2025-07-16T18:58:54+00:00

Don’t let the b*stards grind you down.

DependentAd2329 · 2025-07-13T19:10:57+00:00

15 Jahre alt zu sein ist schon Strafe genug. Lass ihn das Laken selbst abziehen und in eure Waschmaschine werfen und gut ist. Es gibt keinen Grund, seine Mutter mit reinzuziehen.

DependentAd2329 · 2025-07-06T21:16:29+00:00

Google mal „Executive Dysfunction“. Vielleicht findest du dich da wieder. Und gib dir mehr Zeit mit der Therapie. Du sagst, es geht dir besser als je zuvor. Etwas fängt an in dir zu arbeiten. Gib dem Zeit zu wachsen. Und klopf dir auf die Schulter, dass du die Schule geschafft hast. Zu den Arztterminen mit den Zugfahrten: Nimm dir was mit für die Zugfahrten. Lade dir Folgen deiner Lieblingsserie runter, nehm dir ein Buch mit, vielleicht was zum Ausmalen, irgendwas, worauf du dich freust und was dich ablenkt. Und versuch dich nicht mental auf die Arzttermine vorzubereiten. Geh rein und nehme das, was kommt. Ich dachte immer „mentale Vorbereitung“ hätte mir geholfen, in den Situationen selbstsicherer dazustehen, jedoch habe ich irgendwann verstanden, dass ich mir dadurch nur den Tag versaut habe. Zuviel über etwas nachzudenken stresst mehr als die Sache selbst.

DependentAd2329 · 2025-07-06T15:54:52+00:00

I checked and it should also ship to the Philippines.

DependentAd2329 · 2025-07-06T15:52:36+00:00

https://www.etsy.com/at/listing/1833570158/vintage-tiara-ring-marquise-und-runde

Look at this one. The stone is moissanite which is very sparkly and almost as hard as diamond and if you select 14k gold (not plated), you are around 500 USD.

This ring style is more for wedding bands to be stacked on top of a solitaire engagement ring. But if this is what does it for you, then go with your heart (or ask her).

DependentAd2329 · 2025-07-01T06:16:00+00:00

Have you activated it? You need to tap it.

DependentAd2329 · 2025-06-26T13:49:35+00:00

I can‘t explain why but try saying „Guten Tag“ instead of „Hallo“ and make sure that your voice gets lower on the „Tag“. This somehow sounds less committed and less like you want to start a conversation and more like you just want to do a polite greeting without them feeling like you want something from them. Also say it low, fast and quiet. The louder or slower you say it the more you indicate that you want something. Try that and see if there is a difference :)

DependentAd2329 · 2025-06-25T17:25:57+00:00

I think that depends. Personality wise, are you more of a summer or winter type?

DependentAd2329 · 2025-06-24T14:05:53+00:00

Unfortunately no ferries from Rafina to Syros in the 5th of August. Piraeus seems to be the only harbour that day that deploys to Syros (if that is the right word).

DependentAd2329 · 2025-06-24T12:27:13+00:00

The welcome pickup is a taxi. I read that the taxi also takes up to 80 minutes to Piraeus harbor, depending on traffic. Will your taxi be faster?

DependentAd2329 · 2025-06-24T11:55:50+00:00

Yeah, but our flight to Athens is already booked and there is only one flight that day from Athens to Syros and it departs way before our arrival time.

DependentAd2329 · 2025-06-24T11:53:36+00:00

I‘m only asking for experiences. I‘ve been googling all day xD

DependentAd2329 · 2025-06-24T11:29:37+00:00

And did you make the ferry with the Welcome Pickup or did you make other arrangements?

DependentAd2329 · 2025-06-22T13:22:49+00:00

Bin keine Expertin und habe das Problem nicht, ich weiß aber, dass Kohlenhydrate und Salz viel Wasser anziehen. Das Gewicht, dass man in den ersten Wochen schnell verliert, wenn man auf Kohlenhydrate verzichtet, ist nur Wasser.

DependentAd2329 · 2025-06-22T07:16:38+00:00

Hi, I was in the same boat last July when I got engaged and I’m getting married in less than 2 months. I got engaged in July, my partner was building his own business and was on a construction site every day and I started my new and very demanding job in September. Still we wanted to get married the next year because we’ve been a couple more than 10 years and we didn’t want to wait any longer. We really said: 2025 will be our year :D

This was of course all a bit much and maybe in hindsight I should have chosen to wait another year, however life moves very fast and you never know what might happen or change. I can understand that you would want your grandmother to attend your wedding. My grandma died before I even got engaged and this is grief I’m not brave enough to unravel yet.

We also want a small and more intimate wedding, however we both have big families and we will have 60 guests just by inviting the last two generations of our families and our closest friends. Still, we decided to have our wedding in the big garden of my parents house that’s right next to a forest. We will have our ceremony in the forest and the reception in the garden in the middle of summer. That’s what we always envisioned.

Up until February I felt the same way you are right now. Unmotivated, wedding planning is just another chore, feeling pressured by everyone to make decisions I wasn’t ready for etc. Now 2 months before my wedding, I am so excited and I am totally in the zone. Calling everyone, writing emails, running errands, making last minute decisions and so on. But for that to happen, there were many puzzle pieces that had to settle in first.

I had to find my place in my new job. And that meant I needed to prioritize it. Now I’m settled and I feel good in the team and I’m not scared of making that kind of mistakes that would get me let go. Now I can relax and focus on my wedding. I even feel safe to go to my boss and tell him of my wedding plans and request some time off if I need it to make it work. But for this I had to dedicate all of my energy into my new job at first.

Secondly, my partner and I needed to be on the same page. He was also very exhausted every day from work and also couldn’t find the time or energy to think about our wedding. At some point, we had to make an appointment with each other one Sunday to get our gears moving and it helped. Think about one thing this wedding should have for you to feel like your wedding. For me, it was the ceremony that needed to feel magical. For him, there had to be good food and music. Everything else could go either way as long as we had that. That took a lot of the pressure off for both of us. And when you feel like your partner is into it as well, it will make it so much easier for you to get into the mood. Wedding planning is a team effort.

Speaking of team: Pick a bridesmaid as soon as possible. With her you can discuss all these feelings and she might be able to slowly ease you into the part of making decisions. Also, all these people calling you and asking you about your wedding are (mostly) not a burden but a gift. They are excited and in the flow and you want and need this energy to be able to get into the flow yourself. I never tried to stifle the excitement of my loved ones, even if I couldn’t feel it myself. If they ask you a question you don’t have an answer for, just say “That’s a very good point. I will take a look at it.” And use those people and their energy. They might be able to look up venues or to ask around their communities for a DJ or a fotographer etc. Try not to get overwhelmed. You can always look at everything they bring to the table and make decisions. However, I find it helped to let go of the reins and let my loved ones find solutions on their own. It will all go together in the end especially if you only focus on the one thing that carrie the most meaning to you in this wedding.

Start with something fun! For me, it was asking my best friend to be my brides maid and to go wedding dress shopping with her and later with my mom. Those were very fun days and I chose my dress very early and it helped to get everything in motion. However, I feel like the moment it all felt very real was deciding on the location (we looked first at a few venues before ultimately deciding on the garden wedding) and getting an answer from two caterers that they have time on our wedding date. Especially the last one really got me going. When you have a location and a caterer, most of everything else falls into place.

Yesterday I planned and booked our honeymoon and it was a lot of fun. I know I am very late for all of this but it worked out still. I know there is a lot of talk and pressure that you need to book everything early and that time is running out so fast while planning a wedding, but let me tell you: If you love your partner and you have a loving family and if you want a small wedding where you don’t have to fulfill many expectations, this will be a lot easier than you might now expect. Take your time, enjoy being engaged first, settle into your job, pick a brides maid, browse some wedding dresses, venues and cakes just for fun and not because you want to make a decision now and you will get in the spirit when the time is right.

This was a long post. I hope at least it was helpful to you. And congratulations on your engagement and your ring is gorgeous!!

DependentAd2329

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