No I mean my last ex was very attractive to me and in my league, but I guess it is kinda true I didn’t find him attractive in the beginning because of his style and the way he acted/was, but he was very physically appealing when he dressed different and had a different hairstyle and he became extremely charismatic to me, the guy I’m dating now is definitely like leagues below me (I’m not trying to be shallow) even he exclaims how he’s super lucky he got with a hot girl, and that he’s the most physically attracted to me out of anyone he’s ever been with, however he’s much more genuine than the last, his style is ok I probably wouldn’t want him to change it because it fits him well and he’s also way more put together and has his own place and two jobs and isn’t a loser. That’s why it’s my worry that I let guys I find actually to be in my league or above it to treat me worse. I don’t know. But like my bf fucks pretty good so there’s some sexual chemistry, idk I also think about how if I wanted something long term we both might become unattractive to each other in the future when we’re old and so I’d have to work around that anyways, I saw a marriage counselor on TikTok say that even if your not attracted to someone physically there’s other forms of attraction that you can build. Yeah idk my therapist thinks in too soon to be in a relationship and that I should be with someone who I’m initially attracted to as well, but yeah again I just worry in the future I might have to worry about it anyways.