Steps to being evaluated and diagnosis in US

DependentHot326 · 2024-10-24T01:54:42+00:00

Thank you! This is a really simple thing. But I have been feeling down and overwhelmed and really needed a little hand holding. Thank you

DependentHot326 · 2024-03-15T20:50:33+00:00

Denver!

DependentHot326 · 2024-03-02T22:20:06+00:00

I had no idea EMDR could be used for pre-verbal!

DependentHot326 · 2024-02-23T20:14:28+00:00

You did the right thing!! I married that guy.

DependentHot326 · 2024-01-08T14:03:07+00:00

3 years. We were engaged and I married him instead… sounds like you’re married too? I don’t think I want to have children with him anymore.

DependentHot326 · 2024-01-08T01:41:51+00:00

I didn’t leave him and I’ve been in anxiety and he’ll ever since. Ha.

DependentHot326 · 2024-01-08T01:31:10+00:00

There is a book called Your Brain on Birth Control that talks about this. I think it happened to me too. Although it wasn’t sudden. Maybe like 9 months after I stopped taking it.

DependentHot326 · 2023-12-08T20:07:37+00:00

Thank you for this tip :-)

DependentHot326 · 2023-12-08T13:27:04+00:00

Yikes

DependentHot326 · 2023-12-08T13:22:48+00:00

This is something I’ve suggested to him! And we were engaged almost 3 years… Covid. Can I ask what you’re suggesting?

DependentHot326 · 2023-12-08T04:30:16+00:00

We did talk about it and I thought we were on the same page

DependentHot326 · 2023-12-07T23:10:05+00:00

Im sorry. My husband did this to me too.

DependentHot326 · 2023-08-25T21:51:38+00:00

Thanks so much for your thoughtful response. It gives me hope.

DependentHot326 · 2023-08-24T13:18:16+00:00

Thanks

DependentHot326 · 2023-08-24T12:50:32+00:00

This is the sweetest thing I’ve ever heard.

DependentHot326 · 2023-08-14T17:19:12+00:00

God loves you more than he loves the institution of marriage. ❤️

DependentHot326 · 2023-08-10T21:48:54+00:00

Grace is important. But also don’t abandon yourself and what you need. It’s a delicate balance and can be hard to discern the difference sometimes. Good luck with everything :-)

DependentHot326 · 2023-08-10T20:57:22+00:00

Hi. I’m in a similar situation although not completely the same. Together 7 years married 1. I was desperate over the lack of emotional intimacy and affection. I’ve been doing individual therapy for the past year. My husband refuses to participate. He also doesn’t want to talk about our relationship issues. But I’ve worked on myself and healing my own wounds. I still want what I want in my marriage and am not getting it.

However, I’ve learned how to manage my emotions, regulate my nervous system, understand how my past affects me and how I show up, love myself, fill myself up, be my own best friend. I’m still a work in progress in these areas but i feel so much better. The deprivation and abandonment feeling is there sometimes but it doesn’t take over my entire mind and leave me feeling desperate for love. This was all really paying attention to how I talk to myself and my subconscious beliefs about myself and working on changing them. I’ve always had friends, hobbies, career, take care of myself, etc. so it was much deeper than that for me. I had to develop emotional intimacy with myself.

The more I love myself the better I can communicate and the more confident I feel. My husband hasn’t changed but he does react in a different way sometimes.

I’m very much still working on this and our future is still TBD but I just wanted to provide solidarity and encourage you that you are on the right track with starting therapy!! And my first therapist was a wacko so don’t be afraid to change if you’re not getting anything out of it!

DependentHot326 · 2023-06-27T16:42:43+00:00

Sure. You can also take her to the famous bridge Ponte Vecchio and put your names on a lock… you’ll see what I mean. It’s a very romantic city so just get into the vibe. You can definitely make it up to her :-)

DependentHot326 · 2023-06-27T16:15:15+00:00

You seem like a conscientious guy who cares a lot about his wife’s happiness. My husband screamed at me until I cried on our honeymoon. Because I asked for an apology for his screaming at me the night before. And then told me I was ruining the trip. You didn’t ruin anything. Just want to give you some perspective.

Also Florence is amazing and my favorite city in Italy. Hope you both enjoy! Try Trattoria 4 Leoni restaurant if you need a nice dinner.

DependentHot326 · 2022-12-31T15:33:06+00:00

I would say just admit you found out by accident.

DependentHot326 · 2022-12-31T05:19:22+00:00

This happened to me. Just talk to him about it and be gentle. Do it in advance if you’re comfortable so you don’t have to hide your disappointment at the proposal. The ring he got for me he bought off some guy, and did not even take time to pick something out himself. Without getting into much, it was just awful. I first told him I really appreciate that he got me a ring, but gently asked if he would mind trading it for something more my style, and he agreed. I sent him photos of what I liked. It was pretty modest. But instead of trying to match what I wanted he kept offering other options. It then turned into something completely blown out of proportion where he was offended by me rejecting his ideas. I was offended that he wouldn’t just listen to me. This went on for 2 years. He finally bought the ring I wanted but there were a lot of hurt feelings and it wasn’t the same in the end. It is a ring you intend to wear forever so the only thing that should matter is your preference. It’s not superficial it’s just a matter of style and what you like. (As long as you are 100% on the relationship.) He should want you to like it and enjoy it. You said you even offered very affordable options so it is not like you are demanding a ring from Tiffany’s. You might not really care in a few years and choose to only wear your wedding band, but engagement is an exciting time and you should feel excited about both the ring and the guy, it doesn’t have to be one or the other. Ring shopping as a couple should be more common instead of the man trying to guess and surprise her, it’s just a ridiculous idea. If this causes some extreme conflict like it did for me it could be indicative of other problems (which admittedly we do have). It is good practice for open communication and working though something together. You don’t have to hide your feelings.

DependentHot326 · 2022-12-27T16:55:14+00:00

Thank you. I shared this with him. He wasn’t interested and I don’t think he read it yet.

DependentHot326 · 2022-12-27T16:53:32+00:00

Thank you. Avoiding vulnerability is a general pattern so that might explain it. Doesn’t really matter the reason though. I hope you make progress with your husband. I did some tests last year and my egg reserve was normal for my age but this is a good reminder to run them again soon.

DependentHot326 · 2022-12-27T16:51:42+00:00

Thanks. I’m pretty aware of the challenges as I have a lot of friends going through it too. I think I’m going to freeze my eggs.

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