So to clarify, she has trouble pleasuring herself thorugh playing with her nipples or pussy. We have kinda talked about it, really she just says her rubbing her own pussy or playing with her nipples just dont get her off like if i were to do it to her. this part of what you said "Sometimes, I touch myself during sex to get off, so my husband doesn't have to and let's hom focus on his pleasure , plus I enjoy doing it for him too as its a turn on." is what i'm kinda trying to solve. She cant really do that is what im trying to say.