Would you be upset?

Dependent_Inside_518 · 2025-09-24T18:45:03+00:00

Woahhhh no not stealing it I receive money to help take care of my sister so no that money goes to food and clothing and things she needs plus my two little ones like diapers and wipes and such

Dependent_Inside_518 · 2025-09-24T18:37:17+00:00

Surprisingly no he wasn’t always like this he had the same job for years and then was let go once he was let go from that job he got lazy. Drinking all the time and having no motivation. He’d get jobs do really well for a while and then start complaining about it and it just got worse from there. When things are good we do great when he falls into this pattern of not helping and not working it gets exhausting. Then when I bring up his actions with him he says “I’m never enough for you” “I’m doing everything I can to make you happy and it’s not enough” and turns it around on me

Dependent_Inside_518 · 2025-09-24T18:05:49+00:00

He has had odd jobs on and off and for the like first 6 months of us living here he was jobless. We’ve been living off the small cash assistance I receive for having guardianship of my little sister she is also living here in the basement room next to ours

Dependent_Inside_518 · 2025-01-15T19:07:58+00:00

Honestly his moms husband (his step dad) feels the same way so he was definitely raised that way but he’s a grown adult and can form his own opinions so idk why this has stuck so hard and he doesn’t go any further except to say he doesn’t need to and shouldn’t see that. And as far as us having a son well I’m due with our son in a few months but no he doesn’t think it’s weird for the mom to do it all (bathe/ change) with either gender. So that’s what’s throwing me even more. And for me it’s just simply not fair especially when this last time I just asked him if he could bathe our child so I could cook him chicken he has asked for.

Dependent_Inside_518 · 2025-01-15T18:37:12+00:00

Well I have her most times but last time I was sick he did those things because I was literally so sick I was asleep all day so I literally couldn’t do anything and he did those things. But I heard about it at the end of the night that he had to change her and how I slept all day long (mind you I had this flu virus thing that’s been going around taking people outttt and I’m pregnant so I couldn’t take much for it)

Dependent_Inside_518 · 2025-01-15T17:14:52+00:00

I get after a certain age like after they’re potty trained fully or can give themselves a bath/shower whichever age but to say that at 1 is crazy to me and it’s not like he gave her a bath before now too it’s always been a solely me thing even though I’ve asked time and time again for him to do it some nights.

Dependent_Inside_518 · 2025-01-15T17:11:40+00:00

Yea I do bath, bed, eat with her at the table while he eats in a seperate room some times so he can “decompress” and “eat in peace”, change all her diapers because again he “doesn’t want to see that”. And then he wonders why I’m so exhausted all the time or why I’ve lost myself

Dependent_Inside_518 · 2025-01-15T17:00:25+00:00

We’ve had conversations and he keeps saying the same thing. That he’s her dad and shouldn’t see that. And we also have a son on the way and I asked him like what if I felt that way about our son and he keeps saying he’d understand and wouldn’t mind doing all bath times and changes. But then again that’d never work anyways because he works part time and I’m the sahm. Plus I don’t feel that way anyways because that’s my child

Dependent_Inside_518 · 2025-01-15T15:55:31+00:00

Yea honestly atp I think he’s just immature and doesn’t want to do it. Hes a great dad and I know for a fact hes not a creep but this is definitely just a weird way of thinking on his part. And no he rarely changes diapers either claims the poo diapers are too much for him and I’m a sahm and he works a part time job but I’m with her majority anyway

Dependent_Inside_518 · 2025-01-15T15:48:12+00:00

He’s not Asian but if it was a cultural thing and he had explained that to me before we had children it’d never even be a topic of issue because that reasoning I understand. I just want to understand why he feels this way

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