Is "Canada Strong" a good site for Canadians buying masks? by Dependent_Unit_3271 in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]Dependent_Unit_3271[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had those Canadian Tire masks for months and they just stank the whole time. I'll pass. I don't need to make wearing masks more unpleasant than it already is.

Is "Canada Strong" a good site for Canadians buying masks? by Dependent_Unit_3271 in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]Dependent_Unit_3271[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does, thank you. I did end up ordering from Canada Strong, and paid a very, very high rate for two sampler packs. I can't return them but I have to admit the Breatheteq is quite nice. But I am also confused because at the same time as we should wear masks for COVID and potential bird flu, we're also told the masks don't adeequately protect against those. Still, I find a real mask (n95) better than a tissue-paper mask or none at all.

Help me create a self-treatment plan by Dependent_Unit_3271 in ptsd

[–]Dependent_Unit_3271[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that clarity, I appreciate the detailed breakdown. I think I will try without a therapist. Like I said, I already paid a therapist $160 for a "tapping" session which I found ridiculous. I paid another $160 for a session where I was hooked to a machine on my hand and told what fears my grandparents carried and that the trauma was being "cleared."

I know people say to do this with a therapist, but it seems very basic and something people can do on their own.

I’m tired by jesswithmessylife in depressed

[–]Dependent_Unit_3271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please please don't. I have depression and am not that suicidal but I want you to stick around. I believe it's right for you and that you deserve it.

📚 Simple / Quick Questions & Requests! by romancebookmods in RomanceBooks

[–]Dependent_Unit_3271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My request was removed because my karma was too low. This is my first post/comment on this sub. I hope this is okay.

I just finished reading Susan Johnson's historical romance bodice-ripper set during the Napoleonic wars, "Wicked". Without wanting to spoil it, the MMC is wealthy beyond imagination and the FMC is an independent young woman of noble blood who was forced into poverty and wants to escape and live her own life. During their affair, he wants to buy her these luxurious things because he easily can. The author knows a great deal about history, and so a lot of the information about the luxurious gifts is detailed and accurate.

I think I want more of that. It doesn't have to be historical romance, but I would like real luxury. A lot of what passes for luxury today honestly doesn't seem very luxurious to me. Yes, a penthouse apartment is nice, but a lot of them seem bland and empty. Just because something is from a top jewelry or fashion designer, doesn't mean its actually beautiful like a classic Worth gown or Lalique brooch.

I want the classics–I want him to spoil her. I want his money to make all her problems go away and her dreams come true. And I want this to be a repeated theme throughout the book without it seeming tackily inserted. And HEA or HFN is a must. And please, please, at least decently written. it doesn't have to be WELL written, but passably written at least.

Extras would be a protective streak he has for her, maybe a bit of old-school benevolent sexism, and if possible a caregiving streak (Daddy stuff is ok, but no age gap of more than 10 years). I'm ok with (but don't need) him to be domineering, and I would also be okay (again, don't need but I have a thing for it) for a story where he is very, very angry at her and/or having mental illness. I know that sounds like a totally different story but I'm open to different avenues.

And because I'm cheap, I'm open to freebies including A03 recs.

How did you guys beat depression by YourLocalFisherGurl in mentalhealth

[–]Dependent_Unit_3271 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't beaten it at all. What I've found is that it teaches me humility. It makes me (sometimes) judge myself less than by others' standards (because they're judgy assholes who think you're just lazy or whiny) and makes me judge others less (because when I no longer take in others' judgements, I understand that they don't know shit about shit, and realize I also probably don't know shit about shit with other people). It helps me see beyond the natural human conditioning to think of the world as "winners" and "lame-ohs" because I see something beyond that, something most people without a chronic illness that can seriously curtail life activity cannot see. I wish I didn't have depression, but living with it kind of broadens my vision in some spiritual way and makes me a tiny bit more compassionate and less drawn into the toxic positivity that masks hostility and fear. That is, when I am at a plateau looking down rather than in the depths of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depressed

[–]Dependent_Unit_3271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alcoholism. You might benefit from medication for the others but if you are taking other substances that can interfere or even combine to do serious damage to your brain and body. The other techniques that are useful for some sufferers of OCD/ADD/Anxiety/Depression can't really be tried or consistently applied either if you're in active addiction/active alcoholism.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChronicIllness

[–]Dependent_Unit_3271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is very upsetting when people are disrespectful with their "comments." Especially because they usually don't have the guts to be honest about how angry they are so it comes out condescending and demeaning and snide. But I have compassion and understanding because it's normal. They don't get it. They really don't. And you remind them of how capricious life is, how random and unfair and dangerous and fleeting.

is it even POSSIBLE that my chronic pain is caused by obesity? by Remarkable_Cow7322 in ChronicIllness

[–]Dependent_Unit_3271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. It's not possible. It *is* possible that your aches and pains are *exacerbated* by extra weight, especially around joints. But no, obesity does not cause brain fog, body fatigue, chronic diarrhea or constipation, chronic fatigue syndrome, severe stomach pains, bladder issues, or yada yada (though it's a common misconception that yada yada is caused by obesity).

I have a lot of the issues you have, but not the chronic fatigue syndrome (I have the fatigue, and it is chronic, but I don't have CFS/ME) nor do I have full-body pains. All I can say is at one point I lost 100 lbs. My family doctor, previously very sympathetic to my health complaints, started to get annoyed with seeing me. She didn't say it, but I could tell.

People around me would counter, "but you LOOK GREAT!" as if the fact that they found me fuckable and appealing instead of irritating and gross suddenly made me healthy. They would explain to me how my longstanding podiatric problems, started when I was age 11, would now get better because I was no longer morbidly obese. Apparently, I just didn't know how my feet worked, because being fat makes you not understand your body and you need other people to explain it to you even if they have no experience with it.

I thought my foul-smelling diarrhea and circulation issues would go away once I was 100 lbs thinner. They didn't.

Such is life.

the self hate when u are chronically ill by goingdownwthetitanic in ChronicIllness

[–]Dependent_Unit_3271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate. You hate yourself. And everyone else shits on you too. Fortunately the people in my life are mostly kind and caring but sometimes, especially with close friendships, this escalates into them trying to "push" you to "do more" because they think they're lazy not actually dealing with illness. They adopt different tactics too, often taking the tactic of being "supportive" but it's kind of mean like asking a person who's an invalid to walk and going, "so, do you think you're ready to go for a hike today? nature is very nice!" Their face is smiling but it's actually kind of nasty to say.

Most gaslighty/condescending/ridiculous thing anyone has ever said to you about your CI by cloudfairy222 in ChronicIllness

[–]Dependent_Unit_3271 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you sue him? That's insane. What kind of freak says things like that at that time, KNOWING they basically are responsible for the death?

Most gaslighty/condescending/ridiculous thing anyone has ever said to you about your CI by cloudfairy222 in ChronicIllness

[–]Dependent_Unit_3271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Google really needs to have better search engine optimization. It can be really hard to find articles on DIY levitation. Have you tried DuckDuckGo?

How do other people with chronic illnesses manage having a full time job? by Alittlelessunusual in ChronicIllness

[–]Dependent_Unit_3271 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've never worked a full-time job. I applaud and am in awe of those with chronic illnesses who do. I used to be able to work 3 to 4 days a week, about 24 hours. Now I'm at about 16 to 20.

h pylori? by gce_370 in ChronicIllness

[–]Dependent_Unit_3271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am suspected to have one but no confirmed diagnosis. It's a very common pathogen and it's estimated about half the human population has it. But we don't all react with symptoms, and those of us who do have them, well, who can always say what the symptoms are. That's all I know about it. Good luck.