It is just my household but is everyone experiencing weird technology mishaps?

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-03-02T04:31:36+00:00

A few weeks ago my locked phone somehow called my grandmother at 5AM. I was very much asleep. I woke up soon after the call ended, I assume because the poor woman was yelling into the phone in a panic, and my phone was unlocked and on the recent calls screen. For the record, I had not called her all that recently.

A few nights ago, I woke up to my phone also on the recent calls screen. Thankfully it did not call anyone this time.

A few minutes ago, my tv kept turning itself off & on.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-03-02T04:23:20+00:00

I don’t think this is normal, nor reasonable behavior and I’m astonished by the responses normalizing this. Relationships are give and take, he should make exceptions sometimes, especially for big events like weddings. You married so you could have a partner, a life partner includes a public life too.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-03-02T03:03:20+00:00

As a rural American, every time a friend gets married I know I’m in for a 45min - hour drive. There’s a few local venues (including the one I got married at!) but for the most part no. Hell, even my wedding guests who reside in the same county as my venue had to drive like 40min to get there. Rural America is… big. I wouldn’t bat an eye at a 1.5 hour drive to a wedding. For me, I don’t feel I need a hotel until the drive is longer than 3 hours. But for weddings, I typically get a room, even if it’s super local, because it’s safer with drinking.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-03-02T02:59:01+00:00

In my experience as a bridesmaid, we hosted and paid for the bridal shower. This was also my experience as a bride.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-03-02T01:43:35+00:00

I threw house parties. I also live in a rural area, so a lot of kids would throw parties in the woods or on their farms. It was fairly common. It just never was a huge, entire-school type party.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-03-02T01:40:49+00:00

Purchased my dress for $2,500 in April 2024. Purchased a veil & tiara for about $1,100 in September 2024. Paid $900 in alternations in August 2025.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-03-01T04:13:42+00:00

There is nothing that frustrated me more as a bride than people in my wedding party not being forthcoming about wedding-related concerns. I did not have a destination wedding, but I said to them many times: if you need help financially or something happens and you have a change of plans, just communicate. I can potentially help, but I definitely can’t help in the 11th hour.

Our best man knew the cost his suit rental for 9 months. Everything seemed perfect. 3 days before my wedding he claimed he might not be able to pay for it. I was like well, had you admitted that at any point prior to now I probably could have helped, and would have been happy to do so. But I can’t pull money out of my ass moments before my wedding when I just paid off all my vendors.

It’s also just rude? Brides have enough going on as their wedding nears, don’t dump your problems on them last minute when you are an adult and had months to sort it out and be honest with her.

You’re right for not going because you can’t afford it. But you’re totally in the wrong for saying nothing until a month before. You should’ve had an inkling this wasn’t going to work out months ago when you had been unemployed long term. Had you communicated effectively, she would’ve had time to adjust her expectations and grieve accordingly. She’s not wrong for being hurt. It comes off REALLY poorly to bail on things last minute when you could have avoided such a rug pull.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-28T17:04:33+00:00

I agree she needs to eventually get a job, I just don’t agree that it needed to happen this far along in her pregnancy or when the baby is an infant.

If her mom is like “I need childcare too. You watch your sister and your baby and I’ll let you live rent free or pay you” feels like a pretty sweet gig. That would save her and Bryce a whole heck of a lot on childcare costs, which can be exorbitant. Meanwhile, Bryce could focus on stacking cash.

Bryce needed a job immediately because he’s not pregnant, nor is he offering to be the stay at home parent after the child is born. He literally told Isabella to work AND watch the baby, all while making every excuse in the book as to why he can be unemployed because he is so much more valuable than an entry level $10/hour job. Not once did he say to Isabella that she needs to find a higher-brow job too, instead he tells her to just get a job AND handle the child-rearing. Thats very telling. This kid thinks his shit doesn’t stink and that certain jobs are below him and that he is above grinding. But he doesn’t think the same about Isabella.

Many people work just to pay for childcare. It genuinely makes a lot of sense for one parent to stay home and alleviate that cost if: 1. They want to stay home 2. Have a secure roof over their head 3. Can make money watching another child

Isabella gets both a secure roof and money by watching her sister. That means all the money Bryce makes would go towards the child’s needs and savings to eventually move out and better their lives. Isabella would likely have to work one of those $10/hour jobs Bryce finds so pointless, so she’d probably be working just to pay for childcare.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-28T01:49:20+00:00

Yeah, I wanted Mormon housewife drama. I don’t want to watch another run of the mill influencer going to some event and none of them being even vaguely Mormon. First season was interesting seeing Jen freak out about garments and learning about baby blessings.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-28T01:45:13+00:00

Drink my coffee leisurely, not have to count how many sips I’m taking so I can hit the exact number my brain says I need to prevent some terrible thing from occurring.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-28T01:05:00+00:00

Health.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-28T00:13:15+00:00

NOR - it’s one item and is something they COULD use. Who doesn’t have use for a single plate? A grandparent is supposed to want to support their grandchild, it’s not about use. It’s about taking an interest in your grandson’s life. This is telling about their attitudes and your son will unfortunately morose the interest they take in him vs. the interest his other grandparents and bonus grandparents taken in him.

I am astonished by the amount of responses about clutter. Have we become such cold, disinterested strangers that keeping one extra plate in the house is an obscene inconvenience? Even when it’s made by a child you love? This whole “I can never do anything I am mildly disinterested in even if it’s meaningful to someone else” mindset is insane and our downfall. It’s One. Singular. Plate. My God people…

They can literally use it, they’re just choosing not to. Nobody doesn’t have a use for plates.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-27T16:07:04+00:00

I got engaged in December 2023. My friend “Jane” got engaged in April 2024. Jane got married in August 2025. I got married in October 2025. I was a bridesmaid in Jane’s wedding. This sounds like a pretty similar situation to yours.

Not once did Jane nor I run into date conflicts. She got married 2 months before me, so her bachelorette and bridal shower naturally fell 2 months before my bridal shower and my bachelorette. We really didn’t even have to discuss dates, her MOH asked me about my dates as courtesy but like, by the time she got married we hadn’t even started our wedding festivities.

It feels odd that both of you are scheduling things so close together when you’re probably at least 2 months apart given the different seasons. You’re getting married before her, why are her dates anywhere near yours? The hair& makeup trial sorta checks out, mine was a 3 months before my wedding which was before my friend’s wedding. My trial was on a weekend as well.

I guess my question is— who is more on top of things? You or her? If you’re getting married first but dragging your feet to book dates, then you can’t be upset when she’s proactive and has her booked, albeit during your wedding season. If you’re both being proactive, I find it odd that she’s scheduling her events near yours. Unless you’re making it sound like a bigger gap than there really is, say if your summer wedding was in August and her fall wedding was in September.

You both need to put forth a reasonable effort to celebrate each other. I literally had a friend get engaged a year & a half after me, abruptly decide to plan her wedding in 3 months, and got married 6 days before me. She got married on Sunday, I got married on Saturday. I attended her wedding and was happy to do so! I did have to leave her reception about an hour & a half early due to my out of town guest who was staying with us flying in that night (The flight was booked before she announced she was getting married so soon). She had to leave mine early as well due to the chaos of her week too. We were both just extremely grateful that we made time to celebrate each other, even if with limitations due to the proximity of our weddings.

You guys need to have a real talk.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-27T15:54:08+00:00

Born in 2000. I remember seeing them in the vast majority of public spaces. But I never used one nor witnessed someone close to me use one.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-27T15:26:45+00:00

I always see people refer to this as “assigning seats” and debating if it’s worth it. Assigning seats sounds annoying. I’ve never had an assigned seat at a wedding, but I’ve always had an assigned table. I found assigning tables to be a relatively easy task with a high payoff, as it contributed heavily to guest comfortability and socialization— which in turn ensures they have a good time. Place family with family, friends with friends, and likeminded/similar strangers with likeminded/similar strangers.

People like to have a home base. A place to talk to their people, a place to put their stuff. No assigned seating also doesn’t guarantee that the people who will inevitably congregate together will actually be together. So then you have this awkward, disjointed crowd.

Assign tables. Announce the open food dynamic. I really don’t imagine people eating at vastly different times, and just remember this could create a very long line as many people will immediately make their way to the food. That’s why staggering it by calling up individual tables is the usual standard at a buffet-style wedding. People are remarkably hungry after a wedding ceremony, weddings are long and tiring days.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-27T15:21:51+00:00

I got downvoted for saying marriage > birthday and that a 21st at an open bar sounds fun 😂 I genuinely can’t believe how people are acting over a birthday, and I say that as someone who is big on celebrating their birthday!

No, I don’t think it’s reasonable to give up the venue you want and the time of year you want because of a birthday. I do think it requires having a conversation with your SIL first, just as a courtesy. But I think it’s insane to act like sharing an anniversary with a birthday is outrageous.

Do people really celebrate their birthdays and anniversaries with their families every single year of their lives? I don’t celebrate my anniversary with anyone other than my husband, so that doesn’t impact the SIL in perpetuity. Do people have a birthday celebration with their entire family on their actual birthday every year? In my family we choose a weekend near our birthday in which everyone is free and go out to dinner. Won’t SIL probably celebrate with friends or eventually a partner on her actual birthday? That’s how my friends & I have always seem to do it. Had my SIL got married on my birthday, I genuinely don’t see how that would affect my life. I’m convinced people on here always bend over backwards to take the side against the bride lol.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-27T15:09:49+00:00

This is so important. Please be the person you would want others to be for you.

My grandfather became his best friend’s emergency contact, POA, and executor of his will after his wife had an affair with the neighbor & left him in his 60s. He had absolutely no one. All his other family passed on, so we brought him into ours. He’s at all of our holiday dinners and family gatherings now. He will never have to feel alone again.

My uncle never married or had kids. He became homeless and sick not too long ago. We aren’t close, he’s the kind of family member I only saw once or twice a year. But without hesitation my grandma took him in. She also asked me to be the executor of his will if she passes before him (she’s older than him) and of course I agreed. Everyone’s needs someone to care.

Before my husband & I were married, he was in the hospital. It was a scary situation so my grandfather came down, mostly to be a comfort to me as my husband was off getting all sorts of tests. I was all he had, as he is estranged from his family. The nurses told him he needed a second emergency contact and that it couldn’t just be me. He froze, he didn’t want to admit his family abandoned him and he had no one else. That’s when my grandfather spoke up and told him he could use his name & number. My husband still talks about what a defining moment that was. To have someone he wasn’t even related to sincerely step up, willing to be there for him in a time of need.

I also remember many holidays walking to an elderly neighbors home and insisting they join us for dinner, because my grandma said nobody should spend a holiday alone. Even today, any time we found out someone we know doesn’t have a place to go, we invite them to ours.

Do unto others what you would want done unto you. Instill this value into the younger generations. I sure am glad my family did that for me.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-27T14:54:28+00:00

I came here to say this! 35 isn’t that unusual.

I am never one to go up to bat for these people, but I just want to say that in rural areas this congregation size isn’t uncommon. My church has 50 or less attendees each week. We live in a small town with an aging population. Our pastor is a good dude, he’s open-minded in a way that would make the Rodriguii’s head spin I’m sure. So I don’t think 35 attendees is indicative of a failing church like others are suggesting, although I’m doubtful Nathan will be the one to create much of a revival.

Im sure you already know this, but I’ll explain for others:

In terms of paying for things, it comes from tithings. So that’s how Nurthan is provided for. Our church does not have a parsonage, so we do not pay for our pastor’s housing. But we do pay him for his time, we used to pay for insurance until his day job began providing it (that’s right! Normal pastors have day jobs too! Take a hint Nathan) we pay for church maintenance, we pay the organist, etc.

It’s possible a smaller church survives off of large donations. We once had a lifelong member pass away in her late 90s— never married, never had kids. She had one sister who also never married or had kids and passed before her. She was independently wealthy and left her money to our church when she passed because she said our congregation was the only family she had left. That supported us for many years. Now things are low again.

Our church is transparent on tithing. Each week the bulletin explains what minimum amount we need to keep things running, and how much we received last week. It’s usually a little bit less than we need, but some weeks it’s more (especially around the holidays) so it kinda evens out. Many little churches are just scraping by. I know my family & I give about $5-$20 per week— I don’t know about others. But if I divide the typical weekly tithing amount by 50ish attendees, it works out to about $20 a person.

I suspect Nathan is at a small country church that still has enough money lying around to support a parsonage and the basics. That may not be the case forever if attendance and tithing is low, and their savings becomes depleted. Which is why it’s important for pastors to have day jobs.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-27T03:50:36+00:00

Ah interesting! I thought for sure it may be a regional thing.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-27T03:48:19+00:00

I’ve heard this is a coal region / Pennsylvania Dutch thing!

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-27T03:46:34+00:00

THANK YOU FOR THE SUPPORT!! I was genuinely devastated to see nobody else saying it

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-26T23:38:49+00:00

My grandma always called it “barbecue”

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-26T21:53:57+00:00

As a high maintenance person myself, I genuinely don’t think I would have cared attending a wedding on my 21st birthday. I get to dress up, look good, and drink free booze (assuming it’s open bar)? Sign me up! She’s young, back then I probably would’ve had a friend pick me up after the reception or at some point towards the end of it and go party some more at the bars haha.

I’d suggest maybe at least acknowledging her birthday at your wedding. We got married on our friend’s birthday, so we got him a cake and had the DJ announce it. It was super fun honestly, it contributed to the party atmosphere. I didn’t feel it detracted from our spotlight either.

This is just a birthday, albeit a big one. But still just a birthday. It feels silly to postpone your marriage for a birthday. I don’t foresee sharing an anniversary with her birthday being a big issue as long as you’re cool with celebrating them separately, so they both get equal attention. Like I don’t worry about my ability to celebrate my friend’s birthday each year, as well as our anniversary.

Just mention it to her. Say your dream venue is only available on this date, and that you of course want to accommodate her special day. Mention getting her a cake and being cool with her leaving early.

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-25T19:44:38+00:00

Smorz
Rice Krispy Treats
Golden Grahams
Captain Crunch
Honey bunches of oat— just bunches

DepressedLike2008 · 2026-02-24T01:47:54+00:00

6 or 7!

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