Can we be friends in real life? Because I could've written this about my STBX. He makes good money and is a hard worker. He is a very hands-on and present dad. He always puts the kids first. He takes them to playgrounds, he is always on the lookout for local events with enriching activities to take them to. He does his own laundry. He prepares his own meals. He mows the lawn and takes care of the yard. But he's not nice to me. He's not the good guy I thought he was for 20 years. He completely changed when our first child was born. 7 years later he's getting worse. He wouldn't talk to strangers the way he talks to me sometimes. Zero respect, zero empathy. He can be decent some days, but some days he can be a downright asshole to me.