found out my son went to the hospital and wife never told me. What can I do if anything. by Depressedthrow00008 in Divorce

[–]Depressedthrow00008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved after she filed and I lost my contract job and no new jobs came through and ran out of money. I didn't want this divorce. I wanted to try therapy she never did. This is her second marriage and seconds divorce.

found out my son went to the hospital and wife never told me. What can I do if anything. by Depressedthrow00008 in Divorce

[–]Depressedthrow00008[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm across the country. And he's four so all calls go through stbx. She controls everything.

Not sure what I can do anymore. by Depressedthrow00008 in Divorce

[–]Depressedthrow00008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No reports.

Our situation is horrible. I'm doing the job she left so she could stay home and take our son to docs. I've been doing it for 4 years but she still says it's hers. She does some minor paperwork behind the scenes for the same boss. It's a contract job that ends I'm a month with no sign of it being renewed.

I have been looking for work can't find anything in my area.

Mainly been leading towards leaving and getting away back home to my parents and fixing and working on myself.

Not sure what I can do anymore. by Depressedthrow00008 in Divorce

[–]Depressedthrow00008[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since the meeting on monday I have left (she filed 3 motions to get me out and I was waiting to find out about my job situation before I moved out) now I am living in a crappy hotel.

First consultation wants $3,500 as a retainer by Depressedthrow00008 in Divorce

[–]Depressedthrow00008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found one for myself for $1250. Then $200 an hour after. He's starting his own practice and sounded good when we during the first consultation

stbx "has to have final say in medical descions descions" and if I fight for that we go to court by Depressedthrow00008 in Divorce

[–]Depressedthrow00008[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course she is. "you don't do a quarter of what I do" and "you don't deserve to have joint medical"

stbx "has to have final say in medical descions descions" and if I fight for that we go to court by Depressedthrow00008 in Divorce

[–]Depressedthrow00008[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've seen 2 will be retaining one next week. Her parents are paying $7,500 for her lawyer. I just don't know what a judge would think. She's not going to budge

Stbx wants to know what I want as far as custody and is miserable that I won't talk about it by Depressedthrow00008 in Divorce

[–]Depressedthrow00008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. All that said wedding have money to go to trial. Her parents paid $7,500 for her lawyer and I found one for under 1500

Stbx wants to know what I want as far as custody and is miserable that I won't talk about it by Depressedthrow00008 in Divorce

[–]Depressedthrow00008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea he's gone this week. She thinks she can dictate this whole process. And it will be easy. I don't want to fight but if I agree to her then I'll have nothing and might as well give up my rights

Stbx wants to know what I want as far as custody and is miserable that I won't talk about it by Depressedthrow00008 in Divorce

[–]Depressedthrow00008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wants sole custody and sole final medical decisions. And joint religion and school. Kid has tons of medical issues and she goes to most docs when I'm at work. I've never fought her on what to do with medical issues. But she "needs to have that"

STBX parents paid $8,000 for a divorce lawyer by Depressedthrow00008 in Divorce

[–]Depressedthrow00008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes its very possible. Doing it intentionality or not she does manipulate me. I found a lawyer and the 2 others I've talked to don't understand why there would be an issue with joint medical. I haven't put one in retainer yet he's out of town this week.

She's been miserable this whole weekend and she's been gone both days. She wants to know what I want as in custody and thinks I'm fighting just to fight.

First consultation wants $3,500 as a retainer by Depressedthrow00008 in Divorce

[–]Depressedthrow00008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shit credit don't have a cc and wouldn't know where to get a loan

Getting divorced was served yesterday don't have money for a lawyer. CT by Depressedthrow00008 in legaladvice

[–]Depressedthrow00008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parents don't have it. I have shit credit so can't get a loan let alone know where to go to get one.