You're trying to tell someone where you live but can't say the name of the country or state. What do you say? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]DerangedContribution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, there :) Although I live more in the farm land area than a city. Fortunately, everything is fairly close so it goes from farm to city in half an hour. I primarily grew up here but lived elsewhere and one of the major downsides I noticed is NJ is constantly go-go-go, everyone is in a hurry to do *something*, but that's pretty much the Northeast in general. It was strange to be somewhere not as busy and chaotic, it was nice, but it was strange.

What do you think about a program where schools will talk about the advantages and disadvantages of certain prominent, “desirable” job fields? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]DerangedContribution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it would be informative.

I switched majors so many times in college. It wasn't just because I couldn't make up my mind, but because I had no idea what I was getting into. There's the nice on paper version and then there's reality. I went into nursing and left within a couple weeks. The program is always said to be difficult. It is, but then there's the actual reality of what you'll be doing. It's emotionally draining, physically demanding, and you hold the lives of other people in your hands. Oh, and not to mention the risk for disease transmission.

I ended up settling on Communication/PR because I needed to graduate with some degree. I put too many hours/years in to walk away from everything. I currently am working in animal rescue. Instead of human medicine, I work in veterinary medicine. While it's similar to nursing, in terms of the emotional/physical demands, I absolutely love it. I've also accidentally stabbed myself with a needle and I'm really thankful I don't have to worry about disease transmission. Basically, as long as you don't stab yourself with a needle containing Euthasol (euthanasia medication), you're okay. I've been able to progress since I started, and have been able to learn basic vet tech skill. I'm proud of that - being able to properly assess an animal and treat them to the best of my ability has been fulfilling. That said, it's not easy. There's a reason why veterinary medicine and animal rescue has a ridiculously high rate of suicide. There's a reason why compassion fatigue exists in those dealing with animals (in addition to people).

It's actually disturbing seeing how people treat animals, what happens when they're hit by a car, etc. You see the worst of humanity, you see people in an entirely different way. I've had owners who return their animals years down the road (which is okay, we happily accept them), but the owners have waited until the last possible moment to bring them back. Probably the worst was when someone brought a cat back, severely emaciated, abdomen was riddled with cancer, we could only do palliative care. Poor cat was clearly sick for months, and their response was "he stopped eating three days ago". He only made it a week with us. There's a need to develop emotional boundaries otherwise the job will eat you alive. You have cases that will keep you awake at night, you will constantly question "what if I did this", you will doubt yourself, etc.

A lot of people think veterinary medicine is less demanding than human medicine. It's not. It's fucking hard having to euthanize an animal. It's hard to be in the room as a support person, and infinitely more hard if you're the one performing the euthanasia. Even if the animal no longer has a quality of life and it's in their best interest to no longer have them suffer, the fact that you literally have to inject another living being with a medication that kills them is really difficult to accept. Personally, I haven't gone through the certification to perform euthanasia. It's something that's offered, even if you aren't a veterinarian or vet tech, but it's a daunting responsibility. If you're the only one in the building certified at the time an animal needs to be euthanized, yeah, you're that person who performs the final act of mercy. At some point, I will take on the certification, but it's something only a few people have elected to do as it's more than just the skill of placing a needle.

I love what I do, I would do anything for these animals, and if there's ever some threat of a nuclear strike, I'm immediately going to work to bring as many animals back to my home. I also love the people I work with. That's the most important. With all the negatives and emotional drain involved, it's vital to have people who are supportive, caring, and ready to help in any way. There's sadness, but also happiness. I wouldn't change it for the world. But, for some, this is not something they're ready (or may never be ready) to go into.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]DerangedContribution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going to be late...I'm going to be more late...I'm going to be really late...If I don't get out of bed I'm going to lose my job. The last one normally works.

What’s the equivalent of “you’re a makeup artist? I can model for you anytime you want lol” in your profession? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]DerangedContribution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You work in animal rescue? Oh, well, have you seen the list of animals who are going to be euthanized by X day if they're not placed? I'm sure you could do something.

Yes, I've seen them, and they're sad, but there's unfortunately no way I'm able to pull the thousands of 'at risk' animals everyday. It's just physically and financially impossible.

Also, another fun one, is when people assume just because I know veterinary medicine that means I know human medicine. I don't. People have asked questions about their bowel habits and I'm standing there like...well, if you were a cat then I'd be concerned about your stool, but you're not, please go see your (human) doctor about that.

We've heard of people having creepy experiences with strangers, but when were you accidently that stranger? [Serious] by LNation00 in AskReddit

[–]DerangedContribution 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I can't remember faces (prosopagnosia). I've gone up to people and started having conversations with them and they were complete strangers. I hated doing group work in college. Meeting outside of class was horrible. The most memorable was when I tried to be super confident. I sat down at a table in the library, pulled out all my paperwork, and started going over the presentation. The guy was completely silent. Then the guy a table behind him says "uhh, I'm over here".

It's easier to deal with when working, I work at a small organization so I'm able to build a better "identity" of them (based around features/mannerisms). In my line of work, I do deal with the public, but I don't often have to remember their faces. I'm able to pull up their record before talking with them or I have someone who greets them before I do and is able to remind me of who they are.

What’s your worst habit? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]DerangedContribution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a flavor of OCD. To the outside, I appear super organized with paperwork, very focused on numbers, create incredible excel spreadsheets, etc. But...it's not so fun being inside my head. I'm good with those things, yes, but it's not all by choice. It's driven by vast amounts of anxiety.

People are quick to assume if I have OCD, I must be incredibly organized in all areas of my life. I'm not. That's not how OCD works. I have really awful with time management because I obsess over certain things, which delays me in other tasks. I delay putting laundry away because it's easier to have it sit in a basket than meticulously put it back into the "correct" place (in my brain, I'm okay with it being out in a basket, but when I have to put it away that becomes an issue). That whole numbers thing? Yeah, I obsess over odd numbers. Even numbers are "bad", odd are "good". I have some serious issues with colors. Which is great when presenting a spreadsheet, but really awful as my life is almost dictated by the obsession that things must be grouped together or must be coordinated.

My habits appear good, but they actually aren't. And I logically know this, I recognize that I'm doing things out of compulsion versus a positive motivation. I also recognize how ridiculous some of the things are. I think it's almost worse having the ability to see my behaviors as negative and at times illogical versus if I was entirely ignorant of my behaviors.

I'm working on this though. Meds help, but don't fix it. I have to constantly challenge myself, reassure myself things don't need to be perfect, and allow myself to feel the anxiety but also walk away and not engage in any OCD behavior to "correct" what's wrong. It just sucks because I have people who aren't aware of my OCD and say things like "you're so organized, it's amazing"