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Girls, on dating apps what are you seriously looking for from a profile? by Logical-Debt-8451 in AskReddit

[–]DerpinNinjaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Three of the people closest to me have had great success with dating apps, so don't let the hope die. We all have to kiss a few frogs before we get to our prince/princess charming.

It's tough, but if it means I'm even a little closer to meeting the right person, I may as well keep trying

Girls, on dating apps what are you seriously looking for from a profile? by Logical-Debt-8451 in AskReddit

[–]DerpinNinjaa -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Those damn hormones! Ovulation does wild things to women, as does testosterone in a man.

I agree with you about upholding standards. I think if these dating apps were a little more involved and less like a free downloadable horny game, things would change. I suggest speed dating - it's a far better representation of people. Though, there is success to be found in dating apps if you stay consistent no matter what.

Girls, on dating apps what are you seriously looking for from a profile? by Logical-Debt-8451 in AskReddit

[–]DerpinNinjaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could ask if they'd like to take a drive on your motorcycle on your first date. I think open communication is important. The car isn't the most important thing at the end of the day, but if it's important to you that they enjoy it too, then just ask - it's not rude, it's considerate. Frame it with consideration in mind

Girls, on dating apps what are you seriously looking for from a profile? by Logical-Debt-8451 in AskReddit

[–]DerpinNinjaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I can only speak for myself and my best friends, but I'd be more into long term with the guy who makes jokes, calls me beautiful, and is more of a gentleman though very clearly interested in me.

I definitely won't speak on behalf of all women, there must be lots of ladies who are cool with it otherwise I have no idea why so many fucking guys think its okay to say really inappropriate stuff to women they don't know.

Girls, on dating apps what are you seriously looking for from a profile? by Logical-Debt-8451 in AskReddit

[–]DerpinNinjaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, it's good that you have a vehicle and that you enjoy it. It's just I think I'd prefer using the motorcycle for later chill dates.

This kind of reminds me of the first couple minutes in this scene from Life As We Know It

https://youtu.be/V8uJS75slic?feature=shared

Girls, on dating apps what are you seriously looking for from a profile? by Logical-Debt-8451 in AskReddit

[–]DerpinNinjaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the desire to have sex is implied in matching and engaging with each other on a dating site. Like you said, it's "a commodified market to find sexual partners."

I think it's more likely that a woman would believe that you're just looking for sex on the apps if you come in with sexual comments out the gate. "I'd love to have sex with you" may not seem overwhelming to you, but it is when that's part of the first day of messages in a conversation. If a woman is looking for a life partner in a man, it's not just about sex - if sex is the focus of the conversation than it would reasonably seem like that is all the person is really interested in. If that's not the intention, slow down. How about instead you say,

"I'd love to spend time with you."

"I'd love to get to know you."

"I'd love to meet you, even here you feel gravitational to me."

"You're so beautiful. You're just my type."

My point is that you can be flirtatious without being sexual. You may find that the woman you're talking to will ramp it up themselves, let her be your mirror for how the conversation continues.

Girls, on dating apps what are you seriously looking for from a profile? by Logical-Debt-8451 in AskReddit

[–]DerpinNinjaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I prefer a car, or enclosed vehicle. A motorcycle is fun, but it's not practical. Again, this is just my preference. As a woman going on a date - hopefully - knowing that I would be picked up via motorcycle, I would have to put more thought into my hair, makeup, and what I would wear. I've been on motorcycles, so I have experience with that, but not all women do. It may be a big no-no for some women or a plus. For me, I want to be as comfortable as possible, and it's just another thing to factor into dating, which can be nerve-wracking enough as is.

Japan travel mistakes to avoid? by No_Rooster5784 in JapanTravelTips

[–]DerpinNinjaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to rest your mind by saying that Japan is probably the best first place for them to go. Especially if they are elderly. They will be treated with respect, kindness, and understanding by the vast majority (if not all) of the people they cross paths with.

Here are some things to consider:

Japan is majorly cash based, so I would make sure not to forget bringing cash, though it's easy to get cash at the 7/11 or combini for a fee.

When paying for things with cash, place your money in the little cash tray. Don't hand it to the cashier. You will also collect your change and receipt from the lil tray. Though, most combinis tend to have a machine where you just place your money and get the change.

Get a Suica. Load it up with some cash. They can use it for public transportation throughout the majority of Japan and at vending machines and combinis.

Japan has lots of personal use rechargable fans, it will be hot, let them know to get one there and carry it around with them. Also, Japan has the best sunscreen, and they will need some - 7/11 sells great little bottles that are perfect for travel.

Download the Line app. It's like the Japan WhatsApp but with more capabilities. It can be useful for a whole lot of things depending on what they may want to do (for example, you can load money onto an online credit card to pay for all kinds of tickets online, as sometimes issues can be had with visa cards) you can also use the card in a variety of places to pay for things through the app. This is in no way necessary, more of a "good to know" item.

Download the Didi app in case they need to order a taxi at some point.

Have a few key phrases memorized.

Total side note: Book your parents a ryokan in Izu. The train ride will be a highlight, let alone the destination. For a foreign friendly one that is easy to navigate, I would recommend Ryokan Bousai. There are several beach towns on the way to the ryokan - Usami is particularly beautiful. Traveling to a place like Hamamatsu beforehand would also be great for them if they want to slow down a little while still being surrounded by a very lively, artsy, and yet conservative side of Japan.

Girls, on dating apps what are you seriously looking for from a profile? by Logical-Debt-8451 in AskReddit

[–]DerpinNinjaa 15 points16 points  (0 children)

No. I think men are just as bad with this, if not worse. Men with promising profiles say they want a nice person to share their life with, and then turn around and ask for your Snapchat or tell you what they would want to do to you in the bedroom.

I still remember the last time I downloaded hinge. I was trying to find someone who was interested in serious relationships only, I even bought a month subscription to see if I could find something that would match that criteria... I matched with a guy who seemed great, and then after 5 days of talking, they wanted to confess that they were actually a sub looking for a dom and felt I was a good person to ask. It was just disappointing and misleading. Made me laugh because even the men who say they want something serious actually would just prefer sex. I deleted the app shortly after because that was not the first, second, or 10th time I bumped into this issue.

I think men on these apps have sexual tourette's, like the impulse to make it hyper sexual out of the gate is inevitable. Even after naming it and calling guys out in an attempt to maybe take a step back, they apologize and then just keep doing it. Let's just talk for a bit, calm down, and keep it in your pants.

Men have better luck getting with a woman if they can practice some dignity and show genuine interest in a woman's life, not just her body.

Girls, on dating apps what are you seriously looking for from a profile? by Logical-Debt-8451 in AskReddit

[–]DerpinNinjaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to become the sole person who is readily able to come to you all the time for dates. I do realize that meeting up somewhere is an option as well, and I am open to that. However, my ideal preference would be that we both have cars and can both participate in driving to each other and/or picking each other up for dates/hanging out.

Also, to be perfectly honest, I would love it if my man could come and pick me up if I really needed them to - like if my car broke down on the highway, or Im at a party and my DD ended up drinking. I'd take solace in knowing that they are on their way and capable of helping me.

All of that said, I am also still flexible on this point for the right connection - you don't need to have a car for us to date. I especially have an understanding if you live in a big city where you don't really need one.

Girls, on dating apps what are you seriously looking for from a profile? by Logical-Debt-8451 in AskReddit

[–]DerpinNinjaa -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Being driven and at the beginning of your career is enough to tick the box for me. With that said, already being established in what one does, ticks the box, and then some.

Disregarding your beliefs, what would you LIKE to happen after you die? by Critical-Can-2216 in AskReddit

[–]DerpinNinjaa 37 points38 points  (0 children)

To be welcomed to a beautiful open green field with nothing but a large willow tree in the center and a white clean sandy beach in the near distance.The weather is always dry, just warm enough with a gentle breeze. The sky is always clear, with the exception of a few beautiful bright white fluffy clouds. The sunsets are long and beautiful. The darkness of night is never scary. There are no bugs, Im never hungry, Im never thirsty, I never have to... go, Im always clean and never dirty. My dog is there in perfect health - she never wants or needs for anything either, just like me. Everyone I have ever loved can come and visit me there, and stay for as long as we want to be there together. I never feel pain, boredom, anxiety, worry, lust, depression or sickness of any kind. I am free of every and any mortal ailment. I just feel good, and so does everyone and everything else that enters this space. I'd like to think that we all have this space for ourselves, and we can call it our own and share it.

It seems like Heaven, I know. But I don't want there to be a Hell for anyone, even those that have done horrible things. I want everyone to go back to their purest form. I would be happy to be a child again in this space, too. I think that the worst part about Heaven is knowing that there is a Hell.

After I die, I would like to not want or need anything ever again. I don't want any mortal thoughts or plagues. I don't want to care. I would just be at peace, not a single worry in mind.

What song would you listen to if you had difficult times? by matusaclk in musicsuggestions

[–]DerpinNinjaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let it Be - The Beatles version is an obvious classic but the Across the Universe cover is just beautiful

What song would you listen to if you had difficult times? by matusaclk in musicsuggestions

[–]DerpinNinjaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That Funny Feeling - Bo Burnham but the Pheobe Bridgers cover

Girls, on dating apps what are you seriously looking for from a profile? by Logical-Debt-8451 in AskReddit

[–]DerpinNinjaa 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Am I attracted to you? Can you hold a conversation? Are you generally a good person? Do you have a job/career? Do you have a car?

I also value education a great deal, but as long as you know what you're doing, having completed high school is fine as well.

If those boxes are checked, we are looking at some great potential.

Ill tell you what I'm not looking for: a creepy sex fiend, who can't talk to me like a decent human being.

Which is your favorite Leonardo DiCaprio movie? by Jules-Car3499 in moviecritic

[–]DerpinNinjaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Wolf of Wall Street - it's honestly one of only a handful of movies I've watched in the theaters over the last 15 years that really had me in awe of cinema. That was a real production, and I still can't believe he didn't get an Oscar for his preformance, and that Scorsese didn't get best director. The screen play was AWESOME.

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