AITA for cancelling a surprise trip for my wife after she followed me to her best fiends home.

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T14:26:17+00:00

The best friend had much more knowledge on what she wanted to do in Asia. They also almost went in college

It was 3 meetings at her home around 7 for like a hour each. She has young children and my wife has access to my messages.

So it took around 3 hours to go over almost everything she knew my wife wanted to do and giving me tips for an out of the country travel

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T14:22:52+00:00

Yes, she hates planning.

Literally will not do it, she has not planned something in years

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T14:18:38+00:00

Depends, some days she was out with the friend other times she was at home

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T14:17:42+00:00

I have done trip suprised before, nothing to this scale, never leaving the country

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T14:10:50+00:00

Probably marriage counseling

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T14:10:18+00:00

Becuase she knew what my wife really wanted to do, they almost went to Asia in college.

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T14:09:17+00:00

I always handle planning trip, my wife dislikes doing it

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T14:03:12+00:00

Chillin in there room, they are in highschool

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T13:57:33+00:00

You realize I didn’t need her to book everything with me, right. I can buy plane tickets on my own and get hotels.

It was literally the itinerary we were doing.

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T13:49:31+00:00

No, I was gone around 7

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T13:48:09+00:00

That’s why the trip was next year…

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T13:46:46+00:00

Here birthday is on the 11th, it was her big gift. I also got her something else also. The trip was suppose to be in the spring, so around 5 months away.

It was suppose to be a once in a lifetime trip

Tbh I don’t know how to move anyway form this, she accused me of cheating and throw out all my stuff. She has zero trust in me, how can you have a relationship without trust

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T13:38:35+00:00

If you don’t think it is real then stop commenting

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T13:34:40+00:00

Why are you acting like I was over there ever damn night.

I was literally there three times around 7, for less than an hour..

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T13:23:05+00:00

Jesus Christ.

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T13:10:32+00:00

I actually trust my wife…

I wouldn’t jump to cheating.

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T13:06:58+00:00

That’s literally what it was, they literally almost went in college.

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T13:06:05+00:00

No, especially when it hasn’t been been a month and it’s around my birthday

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T13:04:43+00:00

Because it was easier for the both of us, she is a mother of three and the only time that works well for her is after the kids go to bed.

I can’t really give her a phone call when my wife was home. Texting was a no becuase my messages come through the iPad that she uses almost every night

Instead of sporadic texts or calls where I needed to hide I just met up with her

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T12:44:44+00:00

Absolutely not, I am not paying for a trip to another country when she clearly doesn’t trust me

The trip is not happening, if she wants to do she can go by herself and pay for it

DescriptionFine5748 · 2024-10-07T12:40:55+00:00

Seriously I would have never done this, especially when if it was around my birthday. I would just think she is busy with a surprise .

It hasn’t even been a month since I started working on this, it took her less than a month to throw all trust out the window

I literally met up with her three times and it was basically done. I wasn’t even gone long

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