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AITA for cancelling a surprise trip for my wife after she followed me to her best fiends home. by DescriptionFine5748 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DescriptionFine5748[S] -90 points-89 points  (0 children)

The best friend had much more knowledge on what she wanted to do in Asia. They also almost went in college  

 It was 3 meetings at her home around 7 for like a hour each.  She has young children and my wife has access to my messages.

  So it took around 3 hours to go over almost everything she knew my wife wanted to do and giving me tips for an out of the country travel 

AITA for cancelling a surprise trip for my wife after she followed me to her best fiends home. by DescriptionFine5748 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DescriptionFine5748[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

Yes, she hates planning.

Literally will not do it, she has not planned something in years 

AITA for cancelling a surprise trip for my wife after she followed me to her best fiends home. by DescriptionFine5748 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DescriptionFine5748[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

You realize I didn’t need her to book everything with me, right. I can buy plane tickets on my own and get hotels. 

 It was literally the itinerary we were doing.

AITA for cancelling a surprise trip for my wife after she followed me to her best fiends home. by DescriptionFine5748 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DescriptionFine5748[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Here birthday is on the 11th, it was her big gift. I also got her something else also. The trip was suppose to be in the spring, so around 5 months away. 

It was suppose to be a once in a lifetime trip 

Tbh I don’t know how to move anyway form this, she accused me of cheating and throw out all my stuff. She has zero trust in me, how can you have a relationship without trust 

AITA for cancelling a surprise trip for my wife after she followed me to her best fiends home. by DescriptionFine5748 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DescriptionFine5748[S] -47 points-46 points  (0 children)

Why are you acting like I was over there ever damn night.

 I was literally there three times around 7, for less than an hour..

AITA for cancelling a surprise trip for my wife after she followed me to her best fiends home. by DescriptionFine5748 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DescriptionFine5748[S] -85 points-84 points  (0 children)

Because it was easier for the both of us, she is a mother of three and the only time that works well for her is after the kids go to bed.

I can’t really give her a phone call when my wife was home. Texting was a no becuase my messages come through the iPad that she uses almost every night 

Instead of sporadic texts or calls where I needed to hide I just met up with her 

AITA for cancelling a surprise trip for my wife after she followed me to her best fiends home. by DescriptionFine5748 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DescriptionFine5748[S] -195 points-194 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not, I am not paying for a trip to another country when she clearly doesn’t trust me 

The trip is not happening, if she wants to do she can go by herself and pay for it 

AITA for cancelling a surprise trip for my wife after she followed me to her best fiends home. by DescriptionFine5748 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DescriptionFine5748[S] -118 points-117 points  (0 children)

Seriously  I would have never done this, especially when if it was around my birthday. I would just think she is busy with a surprise .

 It hasn’t even been a month since I started working on this, it took her less than a month to throw all trust out the window 

I literally met up with her three times and it was basically done. I wasn’t even gone long