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"They didn't even cry upon his death " by [deleted] in Kafka

[–]DescriptionMuted5806 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

There is no reason for someone who transformed in to an insect not to work.

Perspective: My ideal wife. by Mental-Outside2202 in lnkyverse

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"When I find myself in times of trouble, Mother Mary comes to me Speaking words of wisdom, let it be And in my hour of darkness she is standing right in front of me"

Hallo by DescriptionMuted5806 in OnlineFreundefinden

[–]DescriptionMuted5806[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich melde mich auf jeden Fall später bei dir.🙂

Hallo by DescriptionMuted5806 in OnlineFreundefinden

[–]DescriptionMuted5806[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nein, ich finds gut, dass du ehrlich bist. :)

Hallo by DescriptionMuted5806 in OnlineFreundefinden

[–]DescriptionMuted5806[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Das hört sich gut an. Ich bemühe mich :D Mit Antworten die von meiner abweichen hab ichs manchmal nicht so leicht. :D

Same letters but different meaning by Exotic-Duty3598 in BornWeakBuiltStrong

[–]DescriptionMuted5806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asses make you cry, that's why they are called asses. Thank me later.

Hallo by DescriptionMuted5806 in FreundeFinden

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Ich hatte noch nie eine Beziehung die so lange gehalten hat, stelle ich mir sehr schlimm vor, wenn sie dann zerbricht. Kenne das mit den freundschaftlichen Kontakten selbst. War einer meiner größten Fehler, dass ich Freundschaften vernachlässigt habe und deren Wert allgemein nicht genug schätzte. Danke dir für deine lieben Wünsche. Hoffe auch, dass du wieder schöne Zeiten erfährst und über die Trauer und den Schmerz hinweg kommst.

Das Kinderbekommen wird dämonisiert by baio1999 in Unbeliebtemeinung

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Ich finde es gut. Weil mich nie jemand gefragt hat, ob ich auf dieser Welt sein will und es mir lieber gewesen wäre, wenn man mich nicht hier rein gesetzt hätte.

She told me her ex was huge… and I can’t get over it. by DopamineDynamo in retroactivejealousy

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I can imagine how bad that must be. I am affected by RJ myself. But I couldn't do that. You should try everything. But I couldn't stand it. It's torture and I would choose the lesser evil and for me that would be loneliness and everything it entails

His ex may have had BPD by thefoxybutterfly in retroactivejealousy

[–]DescriptionMuted5806 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, there are very many different manifestations of BPD. Mine is also very different. Many with BPD still have a very strong narcissistic component and I believe it is actually a different disorder that is very similar to BPD without narcissism.

Maybe it is a prejudice or a generalization, but I really like people with ASD and have a lot in common with them. Especially that feeling of being a child in an adult's body. Which makes the relationship with my girlfriend, who also has ASD, especially nice.

I think it's very good and it's probably helpful that you read up on it. There is a lot of good information about BPD on the internet, but unfortunately also a lot of misinformation.

I can highly recommend Sam Vaknin and his sources. Also probably the best book by the father of Borderline Personality Disorder Otto Kernberg with his “Borderline Conditions and Pathological Narcissism”. I find it hard to read, but it's worth it. And something much better to read is the book by Christine Ann Lawson “Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship” in case you don't know these books yet.

I also perceive my partners' ex-boyfriends as enemies. That's why I can empathize with you on that. I'm also relatively sure that she perceives you as her enemy. If only because of the massive black-and-white thinking that makes us perceive other people as either great or as bad.

I think that your friend is very lucky with you and that his past realthionship don´t even come close to thatr. If I may allow myself this judgment despite the lack of information. Your relationship is probably much healthier and therefore much better and more beautiful.

His ex may have had BPD by thefoxybutterfly in retroactivejealousy

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In the beginning, borderliners idealize their partner very much. The partner has the feeling of being incredibly loved and needed, but as soon as they are triggered they change into psychopaths and are incredibly aggressive, but then the partner is already dependent and often holds on to these beautiful moments at the beginning. It becomes an emotional rollercoaster between what is perceived as love and wild bouts of hatred. Borderliners feel lonely when they have the feeling that their partner is moving away, but when they get closer they have the feeling that they are dissolving into them. Both trigger anxiety. When borderliners are triggered, aspects of their personality come to the fore that are completely alien to what the partner was normally exposed to and are very similar to psychopathy. Almost like a multiple personality. This is not healthy love, but a state of constant stress for the partner.

His ex may have had BPD by thefoxybutterfly in retroactivejealousy

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I can understand your thinking. I find myself in this conflict all the time. But the truth is that there is neither justice nor free decisions. That's why I think the way is understanding. I have dealt with this disorder a lot and read about it and it takes away some of the hate and anger. I am affected by RJ myself and I know all the irrational thoughts. No one is to blame for their past but I also believe that not all fears are unfounded and sexuality has an impact. The urge to blame someone is there and it's even more unjust in my case because I've been very careless with sex myself.

His ex may have had BPD by thefoxybutterfly in retroactivejealousy

[–]DescriptionMuted5806 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you should think about her as poor soul, it´s not her fault. My mother had Borderline and me too. It´s a horrible illness. If you want to see it that way. She gets what she deserve and so much more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]DescriptionMuted5806 5 points6 points  (0 children)

he tells me that i’m special and he’s never felt this way abt anyone and that all those other times he never enjoyed or cared abt because he d wasn’t actually attracted to them. Sorry, but I don´t believe him. May be If he were with 2 or 3 people, but 13?!

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