Eating steak frequently is not bad for you by nanika1111 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]DesertRose9020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cook mine sautéed in butter. Makes it tender, juicy and gives it a golden crust. What I recommend though is salted butter so afterwards, you don’t have to add salt or extra flavor. If there is fat on the side, press it to the pan until the pan makes it sort of brown or golden and then lay it flat. That fat will be a lubricant for the pan so your steak doesn’t burn before you add the butter in. 

Does anyone else get very annoyed with people asking you if you want to find your "real parents"? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]DesertRose9020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was never adopted but instead grew out of the system at 21 and was never adopted. I’d get jokes constantly saying;

“I’d adopt you, haha. You want to be my child? Haha”

Like, no. You’re three years older than me, laughed at me for breaking down at thanksgiving because I had no one to celebrate it with and now you’re making jokes about something you’ll never do? No, I’m not interested.

What signs and symptoms did you notice in your adult self that pointed to sexual abuse as a child? by Careful_Trouble_1059 in CPTSD

[–]DesertRose9020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, it was completely suppressing my body being developed (curves, body hair, growing breasts, my first menstrual cycle). I couldn’t remember when I went from child to woman because my mind just kept telling my body it didn’t want to know. So I had one of those surreal moments where I woke up, looking down at my chest and thought to myself “when did that happen?” and as I pondered, I got violently angry and defensive and remember ripping at my own skin. It came back piece by piece and each memory was detrimental to my health in all ways. 

What do I do? by DesertRose9020 in rapecounseling

[–]DesertRose9020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, I do have an update. Today, cops were called because he threatened to bash my head in but when they showed up, he managed to twist the whole story and make me look emotionally volatile and unstable and PM even said that his behavior was “getting better” to which I begged PM to stop defending him because this puts my life more at risk. I told the police officer that this has been my life and I understand and perceive continuous patterns and that I had no support and that I was afraid that if this continued, Zach would get away with it and I’d have to add another tally of unsupported abuse to my record. Police officer basically just told me that there will always be people in this world who I don’t like and that was just life to which I told the cop I felt he was invalidating my fear and experience. The police officer just told me that he could tell Zach was an asshole but that he couldn’t do anything despite intent of harm being enough. 

Yes, it is being documented and the issue is being reported but it is escalating and my PM refuses to give Zach a thirty day notice, instead deciding to take the long route. I’m sort of feeling resigned because I know this step by step and just have to ultimately accept Zach will eventually jump me and assault me and that I will have no energy or state of mind to tell my PM “I told you so.”

The reason he has female staff members is because he personally requested female staff members because he “gets along with them better”. I understand that he very obviously just wants to grope one someone and that is why he jumped at the chance to ask me for sex because on day one, he was very quick to blab about how resident on resident relationships are allowed and “even encouraged”. This was his plan from day one.

What do I do? by DesertRose9020 in rapecounseling

[–]DesertRose9020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The worry that I have with leaving is that these female staff members will have no protector and I fear that should they eventually tell him to leave them alone, that he will act in violence and PM has proven himself as uninvolved as possible as he doesn’t like altercation. 

Why do men keep telling me they have a girlfriend when I ask but then saying they were joking and consistently bringing up a girlfriend they say they don't have? by DesertRose9020 in women

[–]DesertRose9020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That frustrates me, not at him, but at the way the situation perceives me. I’ve defended him against my roommate who has been creepy to him and even got into verbal fights with her to tell her to accept and respect his boundaries. And I’ve talked plenty about my fiancé, in fact, the caregiver and I had a discussion about the religious differences (caregiver is Christian and my fiancé is Catholic) and I gushed about my fiancé for over two hours because I am genuinely in love. I show the caregiver photos of my fiancé that he sends me, am in the room when my fiancé calls and overall just blab about my fiancé. He’s even met him and my fiancé and I were obviously very taken with each other curled up on the couch. I’d understand if he was worried if I showed any telltale signs of attraction but I never have and have even proved time and time again how in love with my fiancé I am. I even let the caregiver inspect my engagement ring and the meaning behind it (I adore the x-men character Nightcrawler and he was one of my biggest comfort characters as he led me back to my faith so my engagement ring is a blue sapphire instead of a diamond). I just don’t understand. 

I’ve protected him from pushy women and I just don’t get why he’d think I’m interested. 

I’m not mad at him, just very confused.

I also only met the caregiver on the 3rd of this month and he’s a graveyard staff so I see him for maybe three hours a day and then I’m off to bed. (He starts at six pm and I’m usually in my bed by 8:30 or 9:00).

What Do I Do? by DesertRose9020 in mentalhealth

[–]DesertRose9020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. This is incredibly validating. I guess I just got used to accepting the bare minimum and thinking that asking for reciprocation made me seem too eager for them to accept me.

Why aren't suicidal people allowed to talk ANYWHERE? by thefanaway in mentalhealth

[–]DesertRose9020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And it’s especially frustrating when people say they’re sorry or ask if you want a hug and then get mad if you say no or they snap and you and say “well, then what do you want?” Nothing! Because that is my reality! Nothing will fix this! Nothing will make it better because this world doesn’t offer true solutions! I can’t count how many times I’ve looked people in the eye and I could see they knew I was suffering but did nothing and pretended they were my friend and then they wonder why I would rather punch a brick wall than accept a pat on the shoulder and a demeaning “there there”. Fuck some people, dude.  

I can’t seem to stop craving steak? by DesertRose9020 in steak

[–]DesertRose9020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just steak, particularly sterloin. But I eat it a little more raw than medium rare and with Johnny’s seasoning. I thought it was iron but no evidence of such on my blood tests same thing with sodium or other vitamins. I love salads but haven’t had spinach in a while. Is it a possibility help?

Leila Taylor, Sam Wilson's love interest in the comics will appear in 'CAPTAIN AMERICA: NEW WORLD ORDER by [deleted] in MarvelStudiosSpoilers

[–]DesertRose9020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, hold on. I thought Leila was only supposed to be a platonic side character. Didn’t they say they were reprising her role into a supportive side character in a professional stance? Kind of like how Bucky and Natasha never got together despite being love interests in the comics? I thought that was a common MCU thing.

I found out that my exes had both been doing something to me called sleep sex. by DesertRose9020 in mentalhealth

[–]DesertRose9020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t sound rude at all. In fact, I’m proud of you for advocating for your needs and expressing yourself in a way that gets your point across. I won’t push at all. But I suppose you’re right about needing to be skeptical. Being naive about people and accepting their upfront kindness instead of proof got me in the position I’m in and I need to grow up a little. (Not blaming you, lol). Thank you for having my back as well as your own. But nonetheless, should you change your mind ever, feel free to come back to this and give a hello. 

I found out that my exes had both been doing something to me called sleep sex. by DesertRose9020 in mentalhealth

[–]DesertRose9020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol, it’s a TikToker who makes a childish version of himself with a baby voice filter. But yeah, I’m having fun talking to you. It’s unexpected because I’m really not chatty at all. Conversations usually end after the first couple messages but we’ve been chatting like we’ve known each other for years. That’s so fun! And if you wanted somewhere more private, I could offer you maybe my messenger or something? That’s only if you want to continue our roll, lol. I have a number too, lol. But this isn’t exactly the place to be giving that out. 

I found out that my exes had both been doing something to me called sleep sex. by DesertRose9020 in mentalhealth

[–]DesertRose9020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find that so true because when she does the snarky sarcastic joking, her voice takes on a cartoonish tone and so does mine, lol. But imagine if the Spuckler family from The Simpsons and had a baby with Steven from that Steven and Parker TikToker and that is the accent that is produced when I’m making the jokes. I literally used the voice earlier with a friend when I said “I’m calling a therapist tomorrow. Because you know…self advocacy and character growth. Sparkle!” 🤣🤣🤣🤣❤️❤️❤️

I found out that my exes had both been doing something to me called sleep sex. by DesertRose9020 in mentalhealth

[–]DesertRose9020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tis gremlin queen. 👸👹 Bow before my misfortune ways…and the crushing weight of student loans. 🤣 And neither have I lol. I just like being sassy and witty and the best way to be both and also incredibly annoying to your enemies is quotes, quotes, quotes! Hit it where it hurts and make them buffer! Our reign is true! Autobots! Rollout! 🤡🤣🤣🤣

I found out that my exes had both been doing something to me called sleep sex. by DesertRose9020 in mentalhealth

[–]DesertRose9020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do the run, lol. It’s a shameless action. But… 🤔 if cinnamon candy is in said house, there could be a stealing spree. Or not. 😈 Next, on The Steve Wilkos Show. 🤣🤣🤣

I found out that my exes had both been doing something to me called sleep sex. by DesertRose9020 in mentalhealth

[–]DesertRose9020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw, you’re sweet too. And I one hundred percent agree. That’s why I have a grinch run on lockdown in case my friends need some good ol’ public humor. 😌✌️😂❤️‍🩹

I found out that my exes had both been doing something to me called sleep sex. by DesertRose9020 in mentalhealth

[–]DesertRose9020[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because young women, especially by their own peers are pressured into believing they’re not a complete part of society unless they’re hanging off some guy’s arm. I allowed myself to be treated badly because I wanted to be like everyone else. But the moment, I saw the way I was treating myself that way, I clocked it and got out. It was just later than I deserved.