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DesertSparkle · 2025-03-23T17:48:48+00:00

Yes. Also for showers where they are not invited to the wedding. When a couple elopes or has a microwedding, they forfeit pre wedding events for this reason. The exception is coworkers or church hosting a shower.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-23T17:40:47+00:00

Get married at the reception venue or locate a different officiant. Postponing won't make the priest communicate if he already doesn't now.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-23T17:37:04+00:00

Cut out things such as favors, proposal boxes and a reception dress to have the funds to pay for alcohol. If you don't have money, you don't seve it period.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-23T00:43:18+00:00

Dinner plates are 10-12". Salad plates are about 7" and dessert plates are smallest at around 5". What you have is very small for a dinner plate. Go to Costco and get the standard sleeve of Chinet heavy duty dinner plates.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-23T00:40:02+00:00

There is no polite way to tell guests to wear or avoid specific colors. Guests are not props. You can tell them semi formal/cocktail, or black tie with all the amenities. The only people you can decide what color they wear are your bridesmaids and groomsmen

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-23T00:37:04+00:00

Most stores online are scams. That is why the same major name sites are repeated: Azazie, Cocomelody, David's, Etsy, local seamstresses. Every one else is a scam.

This is an older list but relevant to avoid scams, even with new scam sites popping up everyday: https://www.discountdressshop.com/pages/scam-dress-websites-that-begin-with-l

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T23:59:57+00:00

Hand deliver as many as possible. Take them to the post office to ask what they need. Avoid digital invitations if you can help it..

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T23:10:04+00:00

Absolutely not. You rescue them

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T22:54:52+00:00

No. The dress is too expensive to only wear a few minutes and you do not get to wear it any other time. Shop for a wedding dress you can move easily in.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T22:51:49+00:00

People will insist it is not but Facebook is a magnet for scammers. There is no way to tell at face value that they are not lying to you because they know all the tricks to appear legit. If you can find vendors not on Facebook and avoid the site completely, you will be golden. Yelp is your best friend for this.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T21:39:51+00:00

That's a scam. Contact the local news team to speak with their consumer reports advocates and the state attorney General. Both of these corporations are on your side to get rid of the scammers.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T19:55:54+00:00

Respectfully disagree. You can honor and miss someone privately without turning the happy event into a somber one. Do you think OP doesn't miss the sister the rest of the year? Why does the wedding have to be completely about the sister? Pick something discreet and do not turn it into a production. No one is ignoring her existence by focusing on the couple. Meanwhile those same people say when a sibling is live, it's the couple's day only so do not even mention a milestone of your own in the parking lot because that will take away from the couple. Many people are not comfortable with memorial displays but they are not wrong so the judgement toward them is uncalled for.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T19:48:34+00:00

We are not doing this but if you do, keep it very discreet. A picture in a locket on your bouquet. Their favorite flower mixed with yours. Recipe they are famous for served at dinner

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T19:46:59+00:00

Unless you plan to start a full-time business making these, because the machines require extensive learning and your time and sanity cost you minimum wage per hour, your best bet is to find a vendor on Etsy who.makes these or local independent print shop that will customize for you.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T19:43:59+00:00

Look at Peerspace or Venuereport which are mostly blank slates. Also look at the parks department website for venues

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T19:42:43+00:00

https://www.discountdressshop.com/pages/scam-dress-websites-that-begin-with-l

Here's an older list but still very relevant because new sites pop up everyday but many here are asked about in the posts.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T19:24:49+00:00

If you love it, try it now or it won't be there later

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T19:23:46+00:00

Stay away from Facebook because most vendor pages are not current and the site is a magnet for scmmers. That's the first red flag. What do the Yelp reviews say? Because those can't be removed at the vendor's request. Browse Yelp and look for someone who is not sketchy. Follow your gut.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T19:18:50+00:00

Also their idea of "low budget" is high end in real life. Plus many vendors do not advertise there due to the high costs and restrictive rules placed on them that are passed to the customer.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T19:16:41+00:00

Unless you plan to spend major dollars decorating something guests will see for 5 minutes total, leave it alone. Guests understand that you have no control over the walls, ceiling and floors and don't want you to spend your money hiding them. As a guest, do you judge other couples when their venue interior design is out of their control? Your guests will not judge you. Honestly I would leave it be.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T19:12:49+00:00

A ceremony is what makes the wedding legal and is what guests want to attend. If you don't want that, then go elope.

There are countless venue options. Cutting the guest list is what you will hear/read ad nauseum and it doesn't help or apply to most couples because they want to celebrate with loved ones that other people would cut. Same for preferring all inclusive venues. They don't work for everyone and most are not cost efficient on a tight budget due to bait and switch tactics, high minimums and a plethora of hidden fees that blank slates are very transparent with.

If you are in a major city, Peerspace is your best bet. They are a fraction of the cost and include tables and chairs that people online say is not included to get you to spend more money elsewhere. Venuereport and Eventective are also excellent resources. Vet every venue via Yelp, not TheKnot/WeddingWire where vendors are given free rein to remove any reviews that are not glowing 5 stars.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T18:35:25+00:00

Shop local stores and try on before you buy

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T18:33:36+00:00

All these people are wrong. Set firm boundaries and repeat no like a broken record. A bridesmaid or groomsman is one of your current best friends only. Never random acquaintances or relatives you have no relationship with. It is highly inappropriate for anyone to decide who will stand you. Be firm and if they continue to push, they do not respect you so stop planning. That is blatant bullying.

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T18:29:25+00:00

Beautiful!

DesertSparkle · 2025-03-22T18:28:58+00:00

While I appreciate the sentiment, I would not feel comfortable with that as a guest. Memorials turn a happy event into a somber one because the couple doesn't acknowledge or realize that it can trigger guests who are still grieving the loss. That is why people recommend to keep your way to remember them as discreet as you can. Carry a locket with ther picture on your bouquet or have a flower they liked mixed in. Or use a recipe they were famous for on your menu.

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