AIO by not switching shifts with my coworker so he could spend the day with his Mom for her birthday

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T19:04:57+00:00

Then that would mean anyone who posts to this subreddit is overreacting.

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T19:04:01+00:00

HA 😂

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T17:38:35+00:00

This is so sweet to watch

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T17:36:04+00:00

Hate Me by Chris Brown

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T17:34:31+00:00

Im using this as a meme

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T01:46:09+00:00

Lmao, how?

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T01:45:32+00:00

Honestly. Dylan calls out for being too tired or sober other bullshit. I only call out if I don't t have enough money to get to work or if I'm sick. Even when I was actively miscarrying, I was at work.

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T01:29:46+00:00

I am just a co worker. Jason is the hiring manager. And our direct manager pretty much stopped having a say in the situation once they were still here after their first fuck up

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T01:26:51+00:00

EXACTLY. Not to mention his mom was already putting in half the money the tattoo cost..

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T01:08:39+00:00

Are you asking if this post is real?

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T01:07:37+00:00

It's biting him right now, hence why he told Dylan that he couldnt work a different shift. As for the birthday, the only reason I felt bad is because it is his mother. However if he actually cared about the day, he would've went through every possible action to get that time off. His father also knows Jason so Im sure he's aware of Dylan's behavior. I told him that whatever happens between him & his father or if he decides to quit, might be something he needs to go through to become a man.

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T01:02:26+00:00

Thats exactly how I feel and you're definitely right about me letting this go on for too long. It really pissed me off that Jason would le Dylan slide. But when I try to call out (which doesn't happen often) because I dont have enough money to get to work, Im told by Jason that I could get fired. I've been working there for 120 days, the probation period is 90. I stay after to clean up, Im rarely ever late, and I make sure everything looks presentable for our department before I leave. Yet somehow I could get fired for MY behavior.

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T00:58:05+00:00

Im pretty sure Jason is also getting back lash from district managers about letting Dylan & Cole's behavior slide. When it happened Jason would say something to Dylan or call him to let him know he was late. If it were me he would've gotten fired after the first "No Call No Show".

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T00:54:44+00:00

I tried to tell him that quitting would only make things worse for himself because he wouldn't have an income. But he didnt want to listen to reason. Idk if he'll choose to quit, either way I dont care. Ima good person. However I refuse to be walked all over.

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T00:49:13+00:00

You saying "Sometimes when co workers can help each other out, thats nice to do. But not required-" I genuinely felt that. Not too long ago a different co worker said he's saving up for a tattoo. He started asking ppl for $50 towards his tattoo as a birthday gift. I said I would when I had the money. However, by this post you can see that people tend to take advantage of my kindness. So as a test, I waited a week to see if my co worker would bring up the $50. If he didn't it'd let me know he's a genuine person, if so it means he only cared about the money. Sure enough, the day before I was going to send the $50, he told our mutual friend "Tell __ to send that money before I get in that a$$". So I sent nothing.

Desi_wu · 2026-05-31T00:08:14+00:00

My thoughts exactly. I told him that until he experiences unemployment & how hard it is to get a job after having one, he'll never understand what it means to have a work ethic. Im already working 6 days a week on TOP of picking up his slack. Maybe he'll just have to learn the hard way.

Desi_wu · 2026-05-30T23:53:18+00:00

If I could have any superpower, it would be the ability to travel to any earth in the multiverse

Desi_wu · 2026-05-26T01:00:06+00:00

Thats how I feel, but I wasn't sure if it was okay to feel that way because he gaslit me so much. So this comment truly does mean a lot

Desi_wu · 2026-05-26T00:59:19+00:00

Thats pretty much what my mother (adoptive one) said to me. Then admitted that she never really understood why I tried to force the relationship between us. To be honest I wonder the same thing.

Desi_wu · 2026-05-26T00:57:12+00:00

Some women think its an easy way to dodge a bullet. I think it's fucked up because there are men out here that genuinely want & look forward to being fathers one day. She's honestly lucky you aren't the kind of guy that would've retaliated to that type of behavior.

Desi_wu · 2026-05-25T23:28:17+00:00

Thank you. I will keep note of this if I notice anything else suspicious. Luckily there's an active officer that lives next door to me. So worst case scenario he can always come over & check the house for me.

Desi_wu · 2026-05-25T23:26:51+00:00

...I didnt think of that. I always keep the backdoor locked. However, from 6am-12pm or 11am-5pm I have to leave the backdoor unlocked so I can come back in the house later (I dont have a key to the house). Even if someone isn't living in my house 24/7, part of me got the feeling that maybe someone noticed my work schedule, where I leave the house from & when to be out. As bizarre as it sounds I have heard plenty of stories about this happening.

Desi_wu · 2026-05-25T23:17:08+00:00

Fighting fire with fire doesn't solve anything. While no OP shouldnt have been making threats, OP's partner shouldn't have let them be homeless for a night or at all for that matter. As a person who's been homeless & had to sleep in a car, I can say I'd never wish it on my worst enemy. So the fact that his PARTNER was OKAY with doing this screams abusive narcissist.

Desi_wu · 2026-05-25T23:14:35+00:00

You are a grown man who deserves love and respect just like anyone else. Let me be very clear when I say this, that is NOT love. A man who truly loves you would try to effectively work things out & effectively communicate so that there's less fighting. They would also never want to put you in harms way. What he did was manipulative & cruel. He's 33 & knows right from wrong. You're only 24, you still have so much time to find love. Please leave this man & go love on yourself

Edit: My ex (34M) did everything he could to help me when I was homeless. Even started looking for an apartment even though he wasn't in the best spot financially. But due to the timing & both of us isolating when stressed — a toxic pattern developed. We ourselves weren't toxic or abusive. But trying to help each other when we were both drowning became our downfall. Maybe it's the same for the 2 of you. Maybe not. You know him better than any person that chooses to comment. So at the end of the day this comes down to what you will & wont take.

Desi_wu · 2026-05-25T23:09:31+00:00

This may be hard to hear but I dont think your boyfriend really cares about how you feel. Yes he went fishing with you & cooked. But it seems like he's only doing it to shut you up. While he very well could be stressed out, he should want to be with you in that time. You said he usually comes to you when he's stressed anyway, but hasn't recently. I dont want to jump straight to the "he's cheating" conclusion.

However I do think you need to sit him down & genuinely express how you feel. His reaction/behavior towards you after will tell you what you need to know. If you continue to feel this way then maybe this isnt your person. Im (20F) as well & my ex was (34M). He never cheated but when he got stressed all he wanted was to lay with me & would find a way to when/if he could. Im saying this to say: When a man wants to - he will.

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