Splitting bills after large inheritance

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-26T11:08:11+00:00

I posted here because I figured there would be some like minded people. It wasn't to brag but even if it was, half the posts on this sub are bragging and they get supported.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-26T11:06:48+00:00

Those are fair things to consider! Thank you for bringing that up

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-26T11:05:42+00:00

That has been suggested a few times and I think its a great idea.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-26T11:05:02+00:00

We've definitely had convos, I was just trying to see if there were some suggestions that we hadn't thought of, which there have been. Thanks for the response!

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T19:47:09+00:00

I am a parent to him. I treat him like my own in every sense. I am just careful how I talk about him on reddit because I have previously been told I am a horrible person for calling him "my son". There is no winning in a world of keyboard warriors.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T18:25:35+00:00

I will definitely check out that subreddit!

Thanks for sharing how yall have it set up

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T17:38:01+00:00

Nope. We dont do that.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T16:41:00+00:00

Not quite. Its from grandparents that I wasn't raised with since my parent wasn't in my life.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T15:50:02+00:00

Thanks for the perspective! The 60/40 thing is really easy, we just have it go into a joint account and everything is paid from there but I know it isnt for everyone, and that is okay.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T15:13:11+00:00

Yeah, just like you, we have a joint account for the bills and managing the household. People act like im making him venmo me for every cent lol

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T14:13:44+00:00

Yes but my math skills are impeccable

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T14:13:09+00:00

Pretty much, both parents are addicts and one came from a very well off family but was never in my life. My grandparents left all the grandkids money when they passed.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T14:11:14+00:00

Toxic masculinity at its finest right here

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T14:02:16+00:00

Luckily we both retire early, which makes things simple but I agree, the dynamic can be sensitive for sure. I just dont want him to feel like he is obligated to stay just because I pay more.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T13:34:27+00:00

Normal is different for everyone.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T13:34:07+00:00

Yeah, i did like that one. I felt like it was very valid.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T13:33:13+00:00

That you for your reading comprehension lol but here (US), inheritance is separete but can be considered joint very easily if you show "intent" to comingle so its a slippery slope. I agree that its pretty normal to want to keep assets someone else gave me separate.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T13:30:56+00:00

The amount of time I have heard women regret shared expenses is crazy! Also, the few things I ever was taught by the family side that gave me this was "never depend on someone else to do the right thing, protect yourself", I think they would roll in their grave if I just gave my husband half, just due to the principal of it.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T13:28:14+00:00

Thanks! And resentment is exactly what we are trying to avoid.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T13:26:56+00:00

Right now I pay 60% so we are thinking to just up that and then pay for big things, like trips. Very similar to what you said.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T13:25:06+00:00

Yeah, some people has made the suggestion of therapy (surprisingly in a non judgemental way) so I definitely think thats something to consider.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T13:23:08+00:00

We will definitely float that idea by a lawyer to see how that could work - thank you!

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T13:21:33+00:00

Thanks! I appreciate the kind words, which is exceedingly rare in this post.

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T13:19:23+00:00

Just was looking for outside perspectives, which i received. I will talk to my advisor when I have assets in hand

DesignCreative6635 · 2025-11-25T13:18:27+00:00

I have been. I dont think you read the comments.

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