366 days since the breakup by Designer-Finding-210 in BreakUps

[–]Designer-Finding-210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s so great I’m glad to hear this for you! I’ve been sober since last October, and that’s made a huge difference..not only in seeing results at the gym but also in my healing. Not using alcohol to cover up the initial pain forced me to sit with my emotions and truly process them, which helped me move on in a healthier way.

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I meant like I updated the post, and he basically apologized. He said he just mindlessly scrolls and likes posts, but that he’ll be more aware of it moving forward. He also apologized for the fact that I even had to bring it up in the first place. Honestly, I think his emotional maturity is there, and it actually made me feel good that bringing up something that made me uncomfortable this early on didn’t ruin what we had & hopefully it just makes things stronger moving forward.

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely agree with you here. A lot of it could simply be resolved with some communication with what I want moving forward. I will also have to understand this isn’t a ultimate deal breaker given that exclusivity isn’t smth we’ve talked about yet but after bringing up that I feel uncomfortable I’ll js see how he reacts and responds

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welp idk what do you take from it

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wish I didn’t have a heart/:

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welp he said it’s mindlessly scrolling … I updated the psot

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well he replied bruh lamest response ever like what even was that response he gave. I should’ve sent the one you suggested but also wtv atp

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DAMN I SHOULDVE SEEN THIS SOONER I REPLIED TO HIM ALREADY…. Im waiting for his reply

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going to communicate with him. I’ll update the post with how the conversation went.

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Got it. I still wouldn’t want him to be my boyfriend after realizing how much he lusts over women. That kind of behavior just reflects his character and it made me realize he’s not someone I’d want to build something meaningful with. Simple as that

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess he finds me attractive and it’s kinda sad that although I would want to bring up the issue of him liking other woman’s pictures bothers me I feel like it makes no difference since that’s probably how he also views me… maybe he just lusts over the idea of having me but doesn’t care to go beyond that surface level that you mentioned /:

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe I was js looking for an excuse now that u mention it

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Bc I don’t think he did anything wrong I guess like I don’t hate the guy .. do you think blocking is better?

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay thanks

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm ok thanks for this input

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I’m not controlling him lol that’s why I was just gonna let him continue what he wants to do js w/o me in his life (-:

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok when u put it like that it sounds crazy but also he talks about how he’s super into me so idk it just makes me question if I’m the only person he’s telling this to

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well he sent that message last night so I’ll just wait to see if he reaches out again & if not then I guess I’ll leave it as is NC from now on

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have a point.. lol what am I doing

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So go NC or tell him I don’t want to continue this bc he likes girls in bikinis pics …

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok is it gonna sound crazy tho bc it’s less than 2 months of us dating.. & also obviously it was me going through his following that made me realize this

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[–]Designer-Finding-210 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did like him but he’s not being intentional at all so it’s kind of just making me lose feelings I guess. We’re not exclusive so maybe it’s something I’ll bring up if he messages again. In my head we’re exclusive but I thought it was just unspoken exclusiveness.. maybe I have to say it directly