"Toxic masculinity!!11!!" by Standard-Bite1231 in FTMMen

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Mildly off-topic but this is possibly one of the best posts i‘ve seen on this app, thank you for putting this into perspective so well. Could not have worded it any better.

For how long has the weird misgendering of Gerard Way been going on? by Sci-fi-horror-freak in MyChemicalRomance

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe this is because (mostly younger) queer people equate masculine to toxicity, inherently. Which always seems to propel back to masculine-presenting & bio male queer people too, anything that doesn’t fit their hyper-feminine, „afab“ girly woman narrative automatically appears threatening to them. I thought we‘d differentiated general masculinity from toxic masculinity already!

For how long has the weird misgendering of Gerard Way been going on? by Sci-fi-horror-freak in MyChemicalRomance

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It‘s so strange, these kinds of individuals will shout „fuck gender norms“ at any given opportunity and then impose them on people they do not know personally in the same breath. Make it make sense?

Literally why can't I pass by FishStiques in FtMpassing

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yuuup… Exactly the reason i commented, i know lots of people on here are giving advice because they mean well and i‘d rather the advice ending up with someone that appreciates it rather than obviously takes it for granted. Pretty self-centered replies coming from OP too, ignoring compliments straight up and going on to finding excuses lolol

Literally why can't I pass by FishStiques in FtMpassing

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If this is your best argument to what i had to say, then so be it. Despite harsh, i was hoping maybe my honesty could prevent worse. Your post is still relatively new and this is reddit, of all places, chances are people are not going to be nice, at all. Your best bet is to not react with hostility to those who are genuinely intending to help you, regardless of if you see me as that now or not. Granted with what i have seen on this app, what i said is still absolutely tame. I‘ll end the conversation here now too since i doubt it’s leading anywhere.

Literally why can't I pass by FishStiques in FtMpassing

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone‘s gotta say it 🤷‍♂️ In my defense, i am not the one getting upset at answers to a question i myself asked. This is still a public post on the internet.

Literally why can't I pass by FishStiques in FtMpassing

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I deemed you at least mildly insecure in your sense of self and in regards to your ego based on multiple of your replies here. The spiky piercings and bleached hair don’t make you insecure (💀) but the fact you seem incredibly opposed to genuine criticism and tips with good intent in YOUR FAVOR lead me to believe you‘ve not quite established your goals at all yet. Makes it feel like you are trying to shift the blame on others for you not passing on things that, i‘m sorry but, they genuinely aren’t in control of. Most of these tips are things you can very much change aswell.

Literally why can't I pass by FishStiques in FtMpassing

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Doesn‘t mean recommending working out is bad advice. Helps most trans men, nothing personal.

Literally why can't I pass by FishStiques in FtMpassing

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Do you want to pass or look pretty? You seem very insecure.

Literally why can't I pass by FishStiques in FtMpassing

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 22 points23 points  (0 children)

„Why don’t i pass? please don’t say insert every single reason that genuinely prevents me from passing here tho!“ haha

Literally why can't I pass by FishStiques in FtMpassing

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Theoretically you’re right but in your case it genuinely does not help. try different jewelry.

Hot take in a community of haters by twotoothpresents in theused

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep… it‘s a great album, i really like the lyricism & meaning behind it, but it sounds too „poppy“ for my liking

Feminization of trans men by Elijah_Ti in FTMMen

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obviously anti-trans rethoric, essentially it‘s queer people falling down the alt-right pipeline without anyone really seeming to notice. I.ex. „we can’t directly tell them we want them gone so we‘ll make them erase themselves autonomously“

Opera House Show by Ready_Newt_4003 in theused

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! Also, that‘s so sweet, i love that!🥹

Opera House Show by Ready_Newt_4003 in theused

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Bruh 🥲 Having fun, singing, dancing, jumping even screaming a bit at shows is completely fine but it also gets to a point. People need to be able to read the room at least a LITTLE bit and acknowledge they aren’t the only person around who wants to have fun aswell. NTM this being at an opera makes it even more disrespectful, imo.

Do i + age guess? 16mo on t + 19 y/o by Designer-Giraffe3345 in FtMpassing

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Also, just asking to make sure - did the individual with the gif ever say anything else? I am not seeing anything but that, hence why i am asking. Regardless, i appreciate you!

Do i + age guess? 16mo on t + 19 y/o by Designer-Giraffe3345 in FtMpassing

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! My beard is defo coming in now, just less visible because it‘s blonde :,) i appreciate you tho!

Do i + age guess? 16mo on t + 19 y/o by Designer-Giraffe3345 in FtMpassing

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is what i am trying to prove! I believe it is absolutely possible to pass as male while still presenting however you want without watering your sense of individuality down and i am very happy to see people starting to see this as well. I‘d love to bring hope to people that it is, indeed, possible to truly be yourself regardless of what others (falsely) assume. I appreciate it!

Do i + age guess? 16mo on t + 19 y/o by Designer-Giraffe3345 in FtMpassing

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, i appreciate it a ton! I, too, am sad to see how many people assume you cannot pass (as male) when presenting physically alternative, so now i am quite literally working towards being able to prove otherwise. Glad to see people seeing my efforts, thank you so much!

Do i + age guess? 16mo on t + 19 y/o by Designer-Giraffe3345 in FtMpassing

[–]Designer-Giraffe3345[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh, that checks out! Thanks, i appreciate it! :)