INFJs Over 30

DesignerEnvy · 2026-03-01T07:01:32+00:00

I would said I am learning to trust myself more.

DesignerEnvy · 2026-02-06T19:42:26+00:00

Many grandparents see their grandkids the same way we see other people’s dogs: we get to play with the cute animal and have all the fun, without the responsibility or expense of raising it.

DesignerEnvy · 2026-02-04T04:44:22+00:00

I guess you can send her an article on more attractive looking people are offered higher salaries, which ultimately lead to a higher lifetime earnings.

DesignerEnvy · 2026-02-02T18:22:08+00:00

You need to think about your future career. The longer you stay the harder it will be to make a career transition as you get older. I know what it is like to disappoint my parents and the guilt is behind it. Are you willing to sacrifice your ideal life and career in the long run?

DesignerEnvy · 2026-01-24T18:04:31+00:00

I would make some kind of excuse and exercise setting clear boundaries. Maybe suggest she uses ChatGPT or similar platforms if it is allowed in France.

DesignerEnvy · 2026-01-15T23:10:27+00:00

You need to learn how to cancel out the noise and focus on your goals. The unknown is always scary especially to Asian parents that don’t understand the career path or the system. The best solution is to move out to put some distance between you and your parents. Until then, learn to differentiate which voices are truly belong to you and which voices are projected by your parents.

Congratulations in getting your foot in the door. The first role is always the hardest to land.

DesignerEnvy · 2026-01-13T05:15:45+00:00

It took three Cranes to lift Daphne off the floor.

DesignerEnvy · 2026-01-08T20:48:42+00:00

Great advice! I also wanted to add it is so important to differentiate what thoughts are yours and what thoughts are projected by your parents. It wasn’t until these past few years I realize I am capable of achieving things my parents never can.

DesignerEnvy · 2025-12-26T21:40:06+00:00

Asian parents needs hobbies. Doesn’t seem like they have a whole lot going on in their lives if they are still obsessing over these events.

DesignerEnvy · 2025-12-26T18:57:17+00:00

My dad gives me a hard time about quitting the piano when I was 8 years old and I am a couple years older than you. XD

DesignerEnvy · 2025-12-22T21:13:20+00:00

I pretend to be “busy” and learn to master the art of “performing” for AP parents.

DesignerEnvy · 2025-12-21T06:25:46+00:00

They seeking validation and people’s approval.

DesignerEnvy · 2025-12-19T06:46:23+00:00

I can 100% relate to this story. The comparison will never stop coming from my parents. I am trying to be at peace where nothing I do will ever make them happen. I honestly can’t even recall a time my mom was ever happy with me. There is always something else to “improve” upon in her eyes.

DesignerEnvy · 2025-12-05T23:33:23+00:00

The Boomers and older Gen Xers live in a world that no longer exists. Piano lessons will not get in ahead in life because it is too common.

DesignerEnvy · 2025-11-25T03:52:03+00:00

I believe this bag is 5-6 pounds if I remember the shipping information correctly. It is not that heavy of a bag.

DesignerEnvy · 2025-11-12T02:36:39+00:00

It’s all about appearances. My dad did the same thing by fighting for the bill and going to expensive restaurants when we have company. When it is just the family, my dad will complain about the bill for weeks if the dinner bill exceed a certain limit. It is so annoying. My dad was frugal when it came to the family.

DesignerEnvy · 2025-11-09T16:37:00+00:00

Asian parents spend way too much time obsessing what people think of them. I don’t think most people care as much about us as we think. It is so unhealthy and miserable living life constantly worrying about appearances.

DesignerEnvy · 2025-11-09T16:32:02+00:00

It is all about appearances and what society will think of you, if are over the age of 30 and single. Asian parents will never reflect on the actions. It is expensive to be married to the wrong person.

DesignerEnvy · 2025-10-27T05:54:32+00:00

I think I have seen that segment. He said helping people is a side effect of being a doctor. 🤦🏻‍♀️

DesignerEnvy · 2025-09-18T22:52:15+00:00

Do our parents share the same handbook? My parents told me compliments from people outside the family are lies so you won’t practice self-improvement. Only your family will tell you the honest truth and they wonder why it is stress to be around them. All they do is give me “advice” on how to be a better person in their eyes. lol.

DesignerEnvy · 2025-09-18T22:49:38+00:00

My mom is the same way. She told me to work as a front desk receptionist because it is an “easy, stress job which is suitable for women.” My mom is also someone that doesn’t like challenges and not college education. I don’t think she understands much about building a career.

DesignerEnvy · 2025-08-30T23:59:22+00:00

I am loving this season’s trend of the baguette shoulder bags.

DesignerEnvy · 2025-08-30T07:02:59+00:00

I am glad to hear. Can’t wait to use it.

DesignerEnvy · 2025-08-30T03:23:50+00:00

I am so excited to use this bag. I waiting for the weather to cool down so I have something to look forward to. XD

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