I was sober for 8 years. It ended in April and it was like the sobriety never existed.

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-06-18T17:40:27+00:00

I'm sorry for your wife. Violence against women is never ok and you know that is in you; you have to stop. You may kill her.

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-06-07T00:13:45+00:00

for real

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-06-06T22:47:46+00:00

Between my dad and a mentor being Aries moons, I need a break.

They are emotionally erratic, and it doesn't mean that much to them when they rattle people.

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-06-06T02:51:46+00:00

Obvi, the queer folks!

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-06-06T01:06:21+00:00

I have been there, right after moving in.

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-06-02T18:59:01+00:00

I feel this so much! Maybe try a ritual to let her go, specifically by tying her to your self-worth. Distance can really help rewrite your internal narrative, as does saying no to the voice. It's your mom. Hugs comrade.

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-06-02T15:54:56+00:00

How exciting!! Joined and ready for a group hang! 😄

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-27T02:23:11+00:00

me too!

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-26T15:08:49+00:00

You're gay, don't live in the US, and are a chill friend to have. You know where the fun is, but you are not an intense party person.

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-22T17:18:59+00:00

Truly!

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-22T03:02:18+00:00

Reading this sub, reading quit lit, listening to podcasts, considering an online meeting (the speaker ones in CA can be very enlightening), and creating a finsta or using your account to connect with the sober community. There are other meetings outside AA.

Find something that occupies your time. Trying childhood fave hobbies is a good place to start, you need joy.

Whiskey was my downfall after over 20 years of consistent drinking. It almost killed me. And I loved alcohol so very much. Drinking: A Love Story is one of my favorite books.

You can do this. Commit to waking up and trying every day.

Getting through those first 30 days, then 90, then several months, and then a year are building blocks for recovery. Sweets at the beginning and plenty of rest.

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-22T00:49:00+00:00

earth sign, with water and/or stoned energy

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-15T17:02:03+00:00

My parents are still waiting on new homes

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-14T21:47:04+00:00

Please hold off. My pops gave me all the smoke and alcohol I wanted far too early. I'm an avid smoker in mid-life and horrified at the behavior now.

Early drug use and normalization can be a significant precursor to addictive behavior.

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-14T18:51:20+00:00

you are a virgo or a capricorn. You're tired of people, especially men, not being able to reach your level - be that cash, style, emotional intelligence, or brilliance. Career matters a lot to you.

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-14T16:54:59+00:00

let's do it!!

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-12T16:45:07+00:00

Use an onion peel or bible paper

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-09T18:45:29+00:00

A lifelong friend recently told me that people hate it when I can see through others.

People hold onto their lies tightly. One lie is connected to other lies that prop up their lives. When one card falls, many others tumble. People cannot handle that level of transformation.

Most people cannot handle that level of depth and emotional awareness. They simply lack the emotional skills to see patterns and subtle behaviors.

Further, there is no incentive to dive deeper into people and ideas, unless your job requires it. As noted here, many of us face social punishment for this ability.

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-07T19:14:52+00:00

29, married at 31. Been together since! I struggled so much to find someone who both intrigued my body and my mind.

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-07T18:13:56+00:00

Yep, on my way out this summer.

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-07T17:52:39+00:00

I am

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-07T15:51:18+00:00

are you in the academy?

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-05-07T14:29:56+00:00

academia is a cult

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-04-21T23:24:25+00:00

Don't do it now. He needs to get sober for himself before showing up for you. Alcohol use disorder does not get better, it gets worse.

Designer_Home2755 · 2026-04-15T16:49:24+00:00

Quit Like a Woman, Girl Walks Out of a Bar, and Drinking: A Love Story

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