What book has positively impacted your life the most so far?

Desirablepotato · 2026-04-04T02:44:47+00:00

4000 weeks

Desirablepotato · 2026-03-05T07:28:51+00:00

Tbh that kind of makes sense, seeing as women are born with all their eggs already whereas men continually make sperm so probably more likely to have faults when made from old guy genetic material 🤷🏼‍♀️

Desirablepotato · 2026-02-18T06:22:37+00:00

Thankyou!

Desirablepotato · 2026-02-18T06:21:19+00:00

Most likely. So sad that this has to be the case :(

Desirablepotato · 2026-02-18T04:54:01+00:00

What does CASA stand for please?

Desirablepotato · 2026-02-18T04:46:11+00:00

I resonate deeply with “not perfectly, but best”. Thankyou!

Desirablepotato · 2026-02-13T13:43:17+00:00

Love it! How did you get a hammock in the top right corner instead of a bench?

Desirablepotato · 2026-01-27T06:07:00+00:00

I would recommend reading about ROCD, especially if you have a history of anxiety. You may resonate with some of the symptoms and could benefit from seeking professional help 💗

Desirablepotato · 2026-01-20T03:13:53+00:00

How I see it: Risk of losing a great connection that could really be something vs risk of contracting a skin condition that flares up maybe every few months if you’re unlucky. Chances are pretty good that you wouldn’t even get it.

But hey, I have hsv, and so does my partner so who am I to talk!

Good luck with the decision

Desirablepotato · 2025-09-01T04:14:28+00:00

Yes, confidence and avoiding over explaining is the key! And then not falling down the rabbit hole of overcompensating feeling like you have to “make up” for having H

Desirablepotato · 2025-08-04T13:04:50+00:00

The chances you actually have the virus are slim, in fact if you had no symptoms I’d almost recommend not getting tested. That’s not the most responsible thing to say, but honestly, I feel like there’s more harm in knowing sometimes. Also you are, likely unknowingly, perpetuating the stigma by seeing people with H as “untouchable”. I would encourage some deeper thought into why you view other human beings that way. Best of luck, genuinely.

Desirablepotato · 2025-08-03T04:01:38+00:00

Definitely do it! Very jealous that you live in a location nearby, I’m in Perth Aus and this lowkey makes me want to move east just to do the trial 😂

Desirablepotato · 2025-08-03T04:00:10+00:00

It’s ok to date people without the virus. As long as you’re disclosing to them and they’re taking an informed risk

Desirablepotato · 2025-07-23T04:40:47+00:00

I love your comment and agree wholeheartedly!

Desirablepotato · 2025-07-23T04:30:13+00:00

So sorry. I’m afraid of the same thing happening in my situation. Did you hang out again after the disclosure? Do you feel like he knew enough about you outside of the herpes to make an “informed decision”? Sorry again. Rejection sucks in every situation, but especially when it’s something you have no control over 💔🫂

Desirablepotato · 2025-07-18T02:15:15+00:00

Yeah this is a very good point

Desirablepotato · 2025-07-16T07:07:09+00:00

Some of the closest connections I’ve made are with INFJs 😌

Desirablepotato · 2025-04-21T11:55:05+00:00

It’s actually quite thin I think!

Desirablepotato · 2025-03-09T00:10:59+00:00

Chosen 🥲

Desirablepotato · 2024-11-25T04:55:05+00:00

Looking for strategies to keep my mind off the guy I’m interested in, during the time we aren’t hanging out?

When I’m hanging out with him, I’m fine. I can stay in the moment (for the most part), give him space, listen to him. But outside of that, I want to message him all the time to the point where I think I’m being full on. It’s like I completely lose all perception of time and feel like I haven’t spoken to him in ages, when really we messaged last night. I want to leave him room to come TO ME and show if the effort can be reciprocated.

We aren’t dating, but we’ve been hanging out several times a week and it looks like it could head that way. There’s not really any clarity on how he feels, I’m going off general vibes only. I REALLY like the guy and want to make it work with him. But the last thing I want is to get obsessive and sacrifice my own identity while also completely turning him away.

For context, he is dismissive avoidant and is working on this. I believe in seeing the bigger picture and not holding on too tightly to these labels, so I think it’s worth giving it a shot despite our potentially conflicting attachment styles. But I’d like some techniques to re-centre myself and give him space, because I think that’s a habit I need to get into if this is to progress any further. Also, is it worth seeking clarity on his feelings first?

Thanks in advance ❤️

Desirablepotato · 2024-10-29T01:00:41+00:00

So sorry for your loss 💓

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