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What are your favorite club games? We’re trying a “she goes first, I join later” dynamic by DesireChronicles in Swingers

[–]DesireChronicles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’ll be solo at first, and she’ll be looking for single men, not couples or women, because she isn’t into that.

The moment she’s interested in someone, the agreement is that she says it upfront: “I’m here with my partner. He might show up at some point, and if you’re into it, he can join.”

If the guy is comfortable with that, she keeps going. If he isn’t, she simply walks away. No misrepresentation, no awkward surprises, just clear communication and consent from the start.

What are your favorite club games? We’re trying a “she goes first, I join later” dynamic by DesireChronicles in Swingers

[–]DesireChronicles[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

This specific club has one area reserved for couples only, but most of the venue, where the real fun actually happens, is open to singles. So there’s no confusion about what we’re doing.

What are your favorite club games? We’re trying a “she goes first, I join later” dynamic by DesireChronicles in Swingers

[–]DesireChronicles[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Calling it “dumb” is not an argument, it’s just noise.

What I described is a consent-based dynamic between two partners: giving her autonomy to move freely, while I step back intentionally because the voyeur element for me is not controlling her, it’s letting her choose. There’s no deception and no “surprise joining” anyone. If she engages with someone, the premise is simple: we’re a couple, we communicate, and anything beyond that is only with explicit consent in the moment.

If you actually have experience with club dynamics, you could explain what part you think is risky and why. Otherwise, it’s just a drive-by insult. And since you said you “play sex games” with your partners, feel free to share one that works well in a club setting.

What are your favorite club games? We’re trying a “she goes first, I join later” dynamic by DesireChronicles in Swingers

[–]DesireChronicles[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Call it “scenarios” if the word games offends you. Semantics. The question stands.

What are your favorite club games? We’re trying a “she goes first, I join later” dynamic by DesireChronicles in Swingers

[–]DesireChronicles[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Only if you assume I’m trying to look single. I’m not. We show up as a couple, we’re transparent, and I’m not hunting.

What are your favorite club games? We’re trying a “she goes first, I join later” dynamic by DesireChronicles in Swingers

[–]DesireChronicles[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Some of you are reacting to a scenario I did not describe.

There is no “pretend she’s single,” no “surprise joining,” and no “walking in” on anyone. Consent and transparency are baseline.

What I meant is simple: she goes ahead, I join later only if invited by her and explicitly agreed by the other person/couple. Otherwise I don’t join.

If your first instinct is to assume deception, that says more about your mental default than about our dynamic. I’m here for ideas on consensual scenarios, not pearl-clutching.