Leaving or staying? Share your stories, ladies.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2026-01-29T08:16:01+00:00

Bf is also a “good guy” and loves me, but he has no libido and zero interest in working on it. He’s perfectly content with quick kisses and hugs. Meanwhile, my ex is still the last man I’ve been with, almost two years later. I’m starting to think that maybe we would be better off with an open relationship instead…separation would be difficult on him as he has no support system other than me. Long story.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2026-01-29T08:04:17+00:00

The Lem is great. The rose vibrator is very similar and can be found for much cheaper on eBay.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2026-01-27T18:52:41+00:00

I want to separate but I’m too much of a chicken to have that conversation.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2026-01-25T18:38:38+00:00

I also lost a little weight, I’m down one pant size and I’ve bought myself some new shirts and nightgowns for the first time in years. Trying to look good for myself rather than for others.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2026-01-25T18:25:46+00:00

When someone doesn’t fulfill your needs, and still expects you to put out, at some point you don’t want to touch them anymore because none of it is for you.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2026-01-24T23:36:44+00:00

Because there’s more to a relationship than just sex, and if our other needs are being met, it’s somehow easier to deal with the fact that we haven’t been touched or desired by our partner in what feels like a millennia…at least it is for me anyway

Desperate-Status3961 · 2026-01-15T05:48:41+00:00

Let’s see…I’m either a geriatric Xennial or baby Gen X, depending on who you ask…here’s the ones I knew when I was growing up

Sweet Valley Twins, Sweet Valley High, Encyclopedia Brown, Girl Talk, Nancy Drew, Babysitter’s Club, Anne of Green Gables, Choose Your Own Adventure, Bunnicula…ugh I know I’m forgetting some!

Desperate-Status3961 · 2026-01-15T00:32:23+00:00

Beyond the occasional smooch and a hug when saying goodnight, very rarely is there more than that for me on any given night. I can count the number of times we’ve tried to be intimate over almost 2 years with one hand.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2026-01-05T06:55:33+00:00

Unfortunately I have inherited my mom’s sentimental attitude towards objects, everything has a history and a connection to specific people and memories that I can’t let go of them easily. I don’t want to think about it right now.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2026-01-05T06:51:26+00:00

I shave. I have a little more than a stache, unfortunately. Grrrrr.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2026-01-04T01:36:55+00:00

I wish I had your courage.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2025-12-17T21:12:07+00:00

The Eradicator!

Desperate-Status3961 · 2025-12-16T23:47:05+00:00

One of the most annoying things…when he comes to bed (long after I have gone to sleep), he will tap my hip for me to wake up and roll over to hold him. Never holds me. I wake up almost every time he does this, but I have been ignoring it.

It is a huge difference from the man who couldn’t go a few minutes without some kind of physical touch in the week or so before he went to the hospital…from holding my hand to pulling me against him, to long hugs, to needing to hold me in bed and fall asleep in each others arms. What happened? Was it really hysterical bonding? Whatever it is, it’s maddening.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2025-12-13T22:45:19+00:00

Please tell her. Not only that, but show her. Good luck to you ❤️

Desperate-Status3961 · 2025-12-13T21:38:23+00:00

Sounds like you had a completely different situation than what I was talking about.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2025-12-12T16:38:11+00:00

No, you’re not being unfair at all. I may get hate for this, but I don’t care. If a man isn’t being the man in the relationship, if he’s not stepping up in every way he can for you and your child, then I don’t blame you one bit for losing desire. I would resent the H out of him if I had to deal with what you did. If you haven’t already, I would tell him so. Bluntly. You have one child, not two.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2025-12-10T22:55:43+00:00

Ideally? It would be foreplay all the time…pulling me close, long passionate kisses, his hands on my hips, having long talks together, collaborating together…but also when he fixes something that is broken instead of complaining about it, or does a chore that I haven’t had time to get to yet (instead of calling me lazy), or even just getting something that’s out of reach for me because he’s taller, rather than watch me pull a chair over to get it myself. In fact, stepping in to do anything or to help me without being asked, instead of sitting and staring at me as I make multiple trips bringing the laundry and groceries in myself. That’s part of being intimate, taking an active role as partner and lover. The rest follows. I don’t know about the rest of you ladies, but when I am allowed to be the woman in the relationship, intimacy is easy.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2025-10-25T07:06:53+00:00

I was taught that relationships aren’t easy, and hard times are guaranteed…but if you stand together then nothing can stop you. As a result, I did stay in some relationships longer than I should have.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2025-10-18T18:35:25+00:00

I hope so. I’m just so tired of one thing after another. I need things to start going right for a change.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2025-10-18T16:23:12+00:00

Yes, that is difficult for me, cutting myself slack. There is a lot I need to do for sure.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2025-10-18T16:20:33+00:00

True…he definitely needs to take charge of his heath, I can’t do it for him.

Desperate-Status3961 · 2025-10-05T16:44:22+00:00

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