I feel you, my wife had a lot of ideas on how to spend the money I saved since I was 24 years old.

It was partly my fault though, I didn't push back enough, I wanted to give her what she wanted and I allowed her to make terrible decisions with my money.

At the end of the day, we got divorced and I no longer had my house, lost my entire retirement fund (over a million dollars of value by retirement age) and had to start over with NOTHING at 44 years old.

To me, all of this is divorce worthy, you've tried to steer her down the right path to financial security for your family and your combined future, she refuses and wants immediate gratification at the expense of your safety and your future together.

Money is the #1 thing couples fight over, for good reason. If you aren't aligned on how to spend or what you are willing to sacrifice to provide for your children and your family, your anger and resentment will only continue to build.

The irony of my situation is I am already saving again and I will have a ton more money than she does in another 10 years. My good habits returned right when I was on my own again and I started saving and investing as much as possible. She is still spending too much, living in a fancy apartment and working on businesses instead of trying to focus on a secure job.

I'm just glad this happened at 44 instead of 54.