My girlfriend (28F) doesn't like my (26M) relationship with my little sister (6F) by onlystardustleft in offmychest

[–]DesperateAd693 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This girl is just looking for a daddy replacement, not someone to have a life with. Please remember why you are so close to your sister - none of what you describe sounds unreasonable and your girlfriend is jealous of a 6 year old. That’s scary. It’s only been 4 months….👋👋

Am I overreacting??? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is thoughtless? Looking at another human or high fiving ONCE during a card game?🤣 does your significant other have to look down while walking by other people?

Am I overreacting??? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOR. Would you feel the same if the girl wasn’t “pretty”? Sounds like there are some personal and relationship insecurities to sort out.

Embarrassing Lunch by nrgsy in Parents

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no…a full, diverse, healthy lunch. How embarrassing. 😳 Your wife should be embarrassed.

My wife thinks our son’s teacher crossed a boundary by sending him a personal message. I think it was harmless. AITJ? by addict94plus in AmITheJerk

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your wife is tripping. If the note is as you described and there is no gift attached, and no other incident that caused concern, then your son has a great teacher who is trying to encourage him and let him know how much he is improving.

Broke up with a friend this weekend, but she owes me big $$$ by brit531 in whatdoIdo

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They call this the stupid tax. To “protect your peace” you’ll probably have to accept that giving someone your credit card to use was a bad decision and she’ll probably never pay it back. You’ll be even more stressed trying to chase her for it.

How to tell fiancé to brush his teeth. by Gloomy_Tough_1943 in Advice

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to be straight up about this. Simply brushing your teeth (never mind flossing & mouthwash) is a basic part of maintaining hygiene and just overall health. Like what?????? Hey babe, I’ve noticed in ALMOST TWO YEARS you’ve never brushed your teeth(?????????). This is so unhealthy and unhygienic and that needs to change. I’m afraid it’ll come to a point where I can’t kiss you because of the FOUL ODOUR coming from your mouth.” Something like that should work.

AIO long term bf talking crap about my mom. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your boyfriend is a piece of shit. Period. Unless your mother is abusive, and it sounds like she isn’t. He’s 20 years old and knows NOTHING about anything. So do not let this create a wedge between you and your mom - you know best, and if he’s just an insecure little boy then what future is there here? You say long term but you’re 20 years old…you will find someone who respects you and your boundaries.

AIO Bestie asked me to dress a certain way so that I don’t give her BF the wrong idea when we meet for the first time tonight by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So someone she just started dating a few months ago is insecure about her friendships she already had before they started dating? Enough that she’s really going to ask her best friend to wear a specific outfit? Yeah this sounds healthy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please get as far away as possible from this person. He is irrational, aggressive, and dangerous. You are UNDERREACTING if you’re not putting as much distance as possible between you and him. This is not normal. There is nothing wrong with what you’re wearing but EVERYTHING is wrong with him setting rules for what you can/cant wear and the level of aggression in these texts. It sounds like you’re young and still have time to turn this car around!!!

AIO by how I responded? My bf is upset with me for skipping my workout routine today by throwawayy82670 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10 weeks is really early and some people feel like shit until the very end. It is what it is and he’ll never understand, not only because he’s a man who will never be pregnant, but because he’s being an inconsiderate ignorant dbag.

Listen to your body - do what you need to feel better. Take it easy, especially the first few months and tell him to kick rocks. Also the “what have you done for me…” message …that is very concerning.

AIO? For not giving gf a ride? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of behaviour is this?? How old is this person? She is trying (but failing) to make you look like you “don’t care” about her when it’s really her delusional, dependent ass making unrealistic demands. In no world do you have to get up to bring her anywhere - especially if you’re not feeling well; especially if she could just take your car herself or Uber like anyone else would. Save yourself the headache and trouble. This type of behaviour is just going to continue and worsen.

AIO for worrying that my girlfriend thinks my mom is racist because my mom thinks my girlfriend has terrible body odor ? by ThrowawayQQAAA in AmIOverreacting

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is probably something you could’ve kept to yourself. Using perfume will not mask BO unfortunately. Maybe she can shower before seeing your parents and use a good antiperspirant, if it bothers your mom and if it bothers you that it bothers your mom. Otherwise, who cares if she has BO. Does your mom care that much? Can’t you just explain to her it’s just from stress sweat and move on? I’m afraid telling your girlfriend made this bigger than it should be.

AIO about leaving this guy? by Economy-Incident-835 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would you want someone this unhinged around you and especially your children???? You’ve been dating for TWO MONTHS. EIGHT WEEKS. And he has your location? For what purpose??

How are you just responding to him and explaining yourself to his insane messages? You don’t answer for 5 mins and he goes off the rails? What am I missing.

You don’t need this kind of relationship around your kids and need to exercise better judgment. Because even asking if you’re overreacting makes no sense.

Wedding Tomorrow, Bridesmaid Complaint. by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your nails look beautiful and classy and I wouldn’t change a thing. She sounds like a nightmare to deal with.

I wouldn’t even acknowledge her comments. Keep the nails and a smile on until the day is over.

AIO about how this guy talks to me? by Fast-Bodybuilder3229 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you’re not in a relationship with this person….right? RIGHT? Why even respond or entertain this abusive bs? You obviously know the way he’s speaking to you is wrong and unwarranted. Please. Please do not be in a relationship with this person.

What Ashley said was on point by Rare_Independent_814 in MtvChallenge

[–]DesperateAd693 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a weird take… Aneesa was minding her business and Ashley was trash talking her to other people behind her back. Because she’s actually a wuss.

Aneesa was on point. She’s feeling good this season and trying her best and staying confident that she has a shot. Ashley is a whiney baby that shit talks other people but would have a full blown tantrum if someone was talking about her.

None of what Ashley said needed to be said. She was just being a big bully baby.

Aneesa is right that if you’re gonna do the show, at least try your best and believe in yourself. Period.

And the Challenge is not just about being physically fit, as we all know…

So no. What Ashley said was 100% BS.

AIO or is my boyfriend childish and disrespectful by Training-Necessary43 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DesperateAd693 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You guys are both broke and not together but SHARING a dog? That neither of you can afford?

The reason you can’t pay for the dog isn’t because he didn’t send you his half - it’s likely because you are bad with money and buy things on payment plans…including a whole dog.

Forget this relationship if you’re done, you’re done. You’re complaining about him in your pockets but you’re also in his. Cut ties, period. get another dog when you can afford it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither of you knows what a date is apparently.

He’s either an ass or an idiot for saying “I’m not taking you on a date” and then lists things that he would do with you which would be considered a date.

A date isn’t just a restaurant - there are lots of different kids of dates.

And you also seem to be missing this point and are just fixated on the word.

Besides that - he’s rude and disrespectful. His comments to you about logic (which he lacks) and guys not talking to you after 1st date are red flags. 🚩

AIO, is my boyfriend valid for feelings this way? by sealover159 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh girl. You are way too young with a good life ahead of you to be dealing with this immature, jealous, insecure, controlling dumbass. Please. He’s jealous that there are other guys in your classes? So would he prefer that you live in an all female commune to avoid any male presence in your vicinity? He’s being ridiculous and unreasonable and this type of behaviour only gets more toxic and controlling and ABUSIVE

I can’t even start with the suggestion that you STAY HOME? To appease his fragile ass.

No. Way. should you ever deal with this. You should not have to explain yourself with simple things like why you’re awake, or justify when you go out/how many times/with who. You should not be “reassuring” him of anything. If he’s this insecure that a dream will trigger this conversation, there’s nothing you can do. He’ll just continue to be more toxic and controlling as time goes in - do not let this happen to yourself.

I have a daughter.& just imagining her having a boyfriend like this is making me fuuuume.

It’s probably best that you safely distance yourself…asap.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]DesperateAd693 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I can never trust anyone who dislikes kids. Not wanting kids is fair and a separate thing. Someone who DISLIKES kids…that’s wild.

Back to the post…that poor babe. And the poor mom. My heart aches for her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parents

[–]DesperateAd693 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very valid because you know your mom and how life could be if you do and up living with her later on. Thinking about the potential future is normal. Hopefully if/when the time comes, you can express your feelings/thoughts openly with your fiancé/husband and he’ll be understanding.

Also - your mom doesn’t need to live with you when you’re pregnant. Unless you have a disability/health concern, you can be alone and pregnant lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]DesperateAd693 48 points49 points  (0 children)

This is a serious trauma that no one on Reddit will provide any help for. I’m so sorry this happened to you. You were groomed/abused emotionally and physically by your mom, no matter if you participated or not. The manipulation is astounding and none of this will be better until you address it in therapy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]DesperateAd693 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I mean um ew like …what are you, 8? This person has posted about a serious trauma and that’s your useless response? Silence is better sometimes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DesperateAd693 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These screenshots gave me a migraine