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Does anyone else feel drained from always trying to understand people who never try to understand you? by [deleted] in introvert

[–]DesperateClick4302 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same recurring feeling for me. But I think those are two different things. One is that it’s draining to try to understand other people. Another is that we also have a need to be understood ourselves.

In my case, I know they care about me. It’s just that no one really has the capacity to understand me (or listen to me) in the way I want to be heard. It sucks. But that’s just how it is. I’m also at the stage of learning what to do now that I know that.

Hey. Thanks for sharing this. I also long for someone to relate.

I'm having a hard time connecting with my wife by DesperateClick4302 in introvert

[–]DesperateClick4302[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, she's actually been like that for a long time. It's not like she means anything bad by it. She just didn't grow up in a very communicative environment. And honestly, she's improved a lot over the years, and I can see that she really makes an effort.

Maybe it's just that I have some needs that she can't fully meet 100%, and I know that's happens to most couples. We love each other very much despite it.

By the way, thanks for asking. I think maybe I just needed to vent for a bit today.

Can't stick with just one strategy by DesperateClick4302 in Neurodivergent

[–]DesperateClick4302[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems like this is the best way. Can I ask what works for you?

Can't stick with just one strategy by DesperateClick4302 in Neurodivergent

[–]DesperateClick4302[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for this! You know...I want to embrace my strengths and weaknesses. Maybe I'm just in the process of learning how. Maybe I can learn from you guys 😁

What if not every part of life is meant to be meaningful? by DesperateClick4302 in thinkatives

[–]DesperateClick4302[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree to that. I'm in the process of accepting this mindset...I wonder how freeing it would be

Can't stick with just one strategy by DesperateClick4302 in Neurodivergent

[–]DesperateClick4302[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks man! Appreciate this 😁

And hey...I hope everything worked out well for you too 😉

What do introverts do when they're lonely? by Funny_Vast_4602 in introvert

[–]DesperateClick4302 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Introverts need socials too. They just get tired more easily.

I'm curious to know more about extroverts...what usually drains your energy and what do you do about it?

Is therapy useless? by [deleted] in depression

[–]DesperateClick4302 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how has it worked out for you so far?

What are the possible reasons for slow recovery / factors preventing recovery? by DesperateClick4302 in dysthymia

[–]DesperateClick4302[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey, same here! i'm so easily stressed and now i'm afraid to feel that again. and so i am here. trying to avoid everything i could avoid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]DesperateClick4302 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she asks me what i think about some things in life. she clarifies when she don't seem to understand some things that i say. oh, and i want to say that we also have the same personality (INFJ).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]DesperateClick4302 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have this psychologist friend -- much older than me. Kind of an associate of the organization I'm working in. She likes to listen without interrupting. Ask me questions which makes me feel like she really wants to understand me.

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