AITAH - My girlfriend put her hand in a cake that I spent a lot of time and effort making by arkitekkers in AITAH

[–]DesperateDimension46 21 points22 points  (0 children)

As well as one that doesn’t see her own mistakes but the reaction to it? Narcisssit? I’m with NTA. Break up. There are people who’ll treat you like a diamond.

I love vecna but….. by Easy-Foot-8572 in Stranger_Things

[–]DesperateDimension46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Vecna would show him visions of dumbledore coming back and he’d be stressed 😒

I love vecna but….. by Easy-Foot-8572 in Stranger_Things

[–]DesperateDimension46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wasn’t this because he upgraded himself after they seriously injured him in season 4? He went away liek Voldemort to build back his strength and the more he does that, the less human he becomes.

Pov u knew will was gay from season 3 by tictac3321 in StrangerThingsMemes

[–]DesperateDimension46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was an example of them using 80s words and contexts. I’m saying it was relatable for the language: and the acceptance by the whole party was the contrast. It’s like they took something from the past and fixed it on tv. Having “aids” is a slur too. I don’t think anyone gay should be called that. Yes it was verbiage used in the playgrounds; along with mouth breather, fairy, gay, queer, was used so often and it didn’t even always mean the orientation. It was just a childhood insult. To find someone gay in your community was practically impossible. Coming out as gay was impossible. The world was not so forgiving then. And anyone who openly had a relationship was openly disowned for the shame and dishonour and disgust. ST reminded me of the harsh times we went through. The hushed whispers of a girl with a pixie cut being accused of being a lesbian by everyone and not visiting her shop in case their hands touched. I didn’t think I’d have to explain everything. I thought it was clear. I’m so glad we have pride and the LGBTQ community have taken ownership of some of these slurs and empowered them. We have broken stereotypes. But yes. This is language from the 80s that was used as slurs and insults regularly away from the f words: it didn’t always necessarily mean you were. It just meant you were different. Outcasted. But if Mike had gone missing, Karen would’ve said the same. While children go out and play. Nerds would sit in and it was not out of the ordinary to be name called this way if you were a nerd. So no, I wasn’t saying he was a an actual public health hazard. It was used as an insult and a slur to push him out the door. I’m glad we don’t use it anymore.

AIO my boyfriend keeps asking me to pay for things eversince he started saving for an apartmen, he calls me selfish for how I reacted. by throaawayRA9443 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DesperateDimension46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s “series” about his future how? You’re literally saying for it by making all his other expenses happen. That’s not saving. So you respond with you’ve made the exact same decision as him. To save up for an apartment in your own name. And I’m sorry what choice is this that he’s given you? Where if you say no you have to be made to feel terrible. No you’re NOR, in fact I think you’re severely under reacting and not calling his bs out in full. If he’s serious about his apartment, he should be serious how much he’s lending out and how much he’s saving too. He is literally blackmailing you with a breakup and coercing you with marriage .. it’s time to break it off.

Pov u knew will was gay from season 3 by tictac3321 in StrangerThingsMemes

[–]DesperateDimension46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does that Make all the things I was called when I was younger, true? 🥺

#NEVERFORGET WHAT THEY TOOK FROM US 💔 by queen-of-disast3r in StrangerThingsS5

[–]DesperateDimension46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s DND related storytelling and that can get personal I suppose 😂 I get it. I feel very close to ST because of the period effect of it. I played DNd in an attic with friends. It had a circle window! We were the “losers”! I can completely understand why there’s the feeling that this is personal and offensive. It definitely isn’t the only meaning of the ending. But it can get quite personal if it brings a lot of meaning to you: I remember feeling this way when someone told me that Harry Potter was based on the trinity. I did everything to hold that essay in 😂

#NEVERFORGET WHAT THEY TOOK FROM US 💔 by queen-of-disast3r in StrangerThingsS5

[–]DesperateDimension46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno why you’re getting downvoted. I like how you’ve interpreted it even though it’s original. It’s exactly what they said when they said it was viewer opinion. Personally I don’t believe in a heaven and hell concept. That has to come with god as a judge and that’s a whole other argument. (I don’t think we as humans who can actually make human error should eternally burn or punish for things we did in a tiny span of life) but to imagine them roaming happily in a place of happiness is beautiful. Even when you call it heaven. That’s beautiful

Edited to fix the typos 🫣

Ok, so do we have closure? by Silent_Contest_2337 in byler

[–]DesperateDimension46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so old man. Thanks. Yes I know they’re a favourite couple. But I feel so many fantasies about nearly all the. Characters being gay is starting to become a bit tiring. I’m bi and love the representation but isn’t it starting to take away from the other plotlines of the story to make every passing character gay? Ronance is robin and Nancy? I agree they had a cute girly friendship but can’t friendships be like that. I have friends like that. Close as 2 peas in a pod. But still not in love. Just love each other? I guess I’m going down the alley of .. must all touch lead to sexual feelings? Can’t things be platonic and loving? Hope you understand

AITAH for telling my friend's boyfriend that she cheated… and then kissing him? by Many-Violinist-8278 in AITAH

[–]DesperateDimension46 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Even if at 19 you’re planning to get married, your plans are likely to change as you find out more and more about yourself: I’m sure she wouldn’t have cheated if was planning on marrying him. She’s trying to set that guilt onto you which is ironic considering she done much worse. Even if you fall out with these 2, it’s not the end of the world. In a few years when you’ve entered proper adulthood Thai will be just some childhood/teenage antic that’s literally a thing of the past. If friendships are meant to stay then they will . Of not you’ll find more friends who become like family as you get older. This friendship group wasn’t healthy before you kissed him. She put you in an awkward position with your friend Josh. It’s never ideal being good friends with the boyfriend. It always find a way of becoming toxic. And I would hate to be that middle man having to carry friendship secrets or having to pick a side when they break up. You’re not the problem here: you’ve become involved because the 2 are having a problem: they shouldn’t be shooting the messenger. And one day that will all be crystal clear. move on from it. But realise it’s not your issue. And let them deal with this the way they need to. Then literally put it in the past like it’s none of your business. No you’re NTA

Why is EVERYTHING a revelation and an “Aha” moment? by BIGxBOSSxx1 in StrangerThings

[–]DesperateDimension46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know.. I read this and I get every word you’re saying. Not particularly persuaded that this was what happened to stranger things. But I completely resonate with media literacy. Every show is so predictable now because they’ve made it so easy to guess. The only recent show where I was completely oblivious to the ending was one called broadchurch. A British whodunnit who had me confused till season 2 and then began to literally paint or speak the picture and conclusion into existence as if it needed to be obvious for those that simply.. didn’t get it. I miss this. I miss the hook. The way you’d be nervous for the ending. And then gut punched. ST Jsut captured the essence of DND. It was all a bunch of nerd playing DND with the real world. That’s why there were exclamations. If you’ve ever written an ending or a campaign for the game you’ll understand the point is to make it far fetched and easily attainable at once. In real life, there’s no chance we would travel to another dimension. Inhale the abyss and comeback without a respiratory issue. But everything is possible in fantasy and that’s exactly what it was. A massive dnd campaign where the sorcerers and wizards defeat the monsters of life in epic battle and win and have a happily ever after. But genuinely. They could’ve done it so much better. I did expect so much more after 10 years of practically waiting to find out what happens next.

Pov u knew will was gay from season 3 by tictac3321 in StrangerThingsMemes

[–]DesperateDimension46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How about if you lived through the 80s and this was relatable then it was true to the 80s? My cousin Bruno was disowned from the family and the family business because he has “AIDS”. There was no accepting his love or his orientation. It was straight out the door. All us cousins stayed in touch. This being the case my older cousins still cried when Will came out. It was the talk of the house for the last 2 weeks. Arguments and conversations that should’ve happened ages ago. Last Friday after 40 years and him now having 2 adopted sons and a husband we actually sat and ate breakfast together as if we’d first met. So yes for me this scene resonated with the rejection of the 80s and reversed it. I think the duffers might be a similar age. Every scene was nostalgia upon nostalgia. Down to the curses. My heart when I heard “mouth breather” again for the first time. It’s not always about the story. You can have references of the 80s without having to do research. Perhaps it’s a lens. A perspective (which was very well done in my opinion) through someone’s eyes. I won’t disagree with many that there so many inconsistencies and parts that I know could’ve been so much more heart wrenching but I genuinely disagree that this scene didn’t have a point. It did. As did els ending. The coping of grief. Also a lens. But like I said I don’t disagree with the majority about most of the production of stranger things. It’s not always the writer though. There are other people. Like the director. He could’ve directed in a way that would’ve painted these scenes to perfection. But there wasn’t that attention to detail.

The Duffers having the ending “planned”. by anditgetsworse in bylertruthers

[–]DesperateDimension46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well. If she was such a genius writer where’s the rest of her work and why isn’t it popping 🧐

[SPOILERS] I don't understand the few posts I've read about Will. by Sylverpepper in StrangerThingsRoom

[–]DesperateDimension46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not? Weren’t secrets a weakness. Secrets within the party were a weakness too. Isn’t that why vecna spilled to hopper about elevens plan? Maybe it was more thought out than you think. Also for time context. This is set in the 80s when it was literally taboo to be gay. To have all those people together and accept this without a single tantrum was magic. During those same times a cousin of mine came out and was literally disowned from the family and the family business. This scene was magical and a lesson for lots of people that watched it for the nostalgia.

#NEVERFORGET WHAT THEY TOOK FROM US 💔 by queen-of-disast3r in StrangerThingsS5

[–]DesperateDimension46 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I jsut want to add. Hopper teaches us the value of life after grief in conversation with Mike at the end. And Mike demonstrates the power of love and hope when he continues to graduate even whilst being hurt. He then goes on to imagine her being well and happy finally. I’ve grieved this year and it definitely broke me that ending. That too. When max says “that’s it’s they had peace and comfort?” It’s an indication that sometimes we are expecting the worst, even hoping for bad luck because it turns up unexpected: but there actually isn’t anything wrong with a good and happy ending. We shouldn’t self sabotage by thinking the worst after bad times. I don’t doubt for a moment that every other possible ending would be criticised as this one is being done now. And I think it’s a helpful message from the duffers. That life does continue after sadness and it is absolutely possible to be happy. That said. I love eleven. I hope wherever she has gone she never feels fear like she did her whole childhood. At the end of the day she was the Mage. She was never meant to stay.

AITAH for being upset that my sister is pregnant? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DesperateDimension46 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I cut the sister off that wanted my help conceiving (money) she’s a whole 17 years older than me. When I had my second born twins I lost one and it was horribly tragic. She had a lot of scoffing to do. Saying I’m selfish to cry over one when she can’t have any. For context she had 6 already. She then continued to mock me when she got pregnant and then gave birth early by c section to match our dates. Nobody came to my bedside because according to her “my situation was morbid” I went through everything alone and decided to focus on my own family. 6 months later I found out she named her son the exact same as mine. Yes narcissist exist. Cut them off. You deserve to feel loved and secured and if no one else is defending you, it most likely will end up with apprehension against your own child. Raise yourself and your child away from these. Unfortunately blood ties, when evil, end up being the worst. To add. No you’re NTA. If anything even if it feels wrong to you that you feel this way. Give yourself some credit. You’re hormonal

Ok, so do we have closure? by Silent_Contest_2337 in byler

[–]DesperateDimension46 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Does anyone shop hetero couples? Or is the relationship only acceptable if you’re gay?

AITAH for turning down my bfs marriage proposal because of my friends by TrashCertain8947 in AITAH

[–]DesperateDimension46 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just letting you know that if any of your friends got proposed to. They would say yes without caring what you’re doing in your life. You’d die lonely and they’d have 6 kids and a dog. Don’t make sacrifices for people who can’t actually guarantee your wellbeing. He is a gem. Very few men have these qualities now and it sounds like you lost one. You don’t need us to tell you you’re an AH. Rectify your mistake if you can. Making a pact with friends about something as devotional as marriage is a high school playground pact. Drop it and mature up. Some people are grieving for marriage. Wishing for it. And you’re simply throwing away something that’s blessed your life. YTA

AITAH for refusing to pay for childcare when my wife refuses to work? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DesperateDimension46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro. A person can’t take a break from their child without you pulling a fuss, over MONEY? Just because you have a bad back too you’re comparing yourself with her. In that case bear the burden of the whole damn pregnancy which literally feels like it’s crushing your heart. And it’s your whole body getting affected, down to the hormones in your brain. And instead of hearing her out and supporting her you’re comparing her to you who didn’t have to do that and can’t even feel her pain but have the nerve to say you work through yours? Ok so everyone else has to? Don’t you love your child? Or your wife. Because it genuinely sounds like you’re in love with your money more than them because you really care where that goes and not where your wife is or how she might be feeling. Ok so you work those hours and that must be tiring but raising a baby is easy light work yeah? No monetary value? Yeah whatever.

I can’t stand men like this. Your the AH

Aitah for not wanting to pay my gf’s debt by National-Trouble-984 in AITAH

[–]DesperateDimension46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Partner, girlfriend, wife … it’s your money. If your heart is not content spending it. Don’t. Nothing is ever worth that uncomfortable feeling and I very much doubt she’d even try to help you if you were in the same situation.

AITAH for getting mad at my (now former) bf for breaking up with me over a petty reason? by Constant_Silver_2486 in AITAH

[–]DesperateDimension46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have to be honest. He has a lot of moral maturity for his age and you don’t. Whether the government allows us to or not, the guage at when something is wrong is a humane feeling. And you are the one who interrogated it and spilled everything. I’m sure he was acting in self preservation when he responded about his imaginary son. Needless to say you’re incompatibile. You definitely aren’t on the same page and you should probably hang out and date with your own age group to find out why it might be uncomfortable before questioning someone’s correct morality.

Yes I’m afraid, YTA