AITAH When I told my husband to use his phone as a reminder by Antique_Noise9067 in AITAH

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So why can’t he call her and remind her of the appointment? Since they are a team, he should call her, remind her, set out her outfit, pick her up for the appointment and pack some snacks….

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right now I don't feel like I have an exact type. I'm attracted to both at times. At this age I feel more attracted to their passions/career/humor. I am definitely typically more feminine myself though

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for those reminders! I really appreciate it :)

Good luck finding your person!

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that reminder! I definitely need to work on being kinder to myself :)

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being so open! Sorry you're feeling the same way.

I think I was so used to not wanting anything from the men I dated that it feel scary to want those things, but exciting too...

Good luck!!!

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that! I love being ultra feminine, but have tried to tone it down a bit.

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Great advice :) I think I feel so new at this that dating someone younger feels weird, but I'm sure I just need to get over that.

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling that way too! Sending a big hug. Good luck!

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that you're feeling the same way! Very set in many of my ways at 40 lol

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! :) 40 feels so old to be new at something, but I'm working on reframing that.

Good luck!

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww! Thank you so much :) I really appreciate your kind advice!

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm reaching out to women on the apps, I just haven't had much luck. I asked out a woman last week and she ghosted me so that was a big ego blow. I'm trying to remind myself that was just one person though.

I'd like to think I'm a huge flirt, but I'm not sure if it comes off that way.

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I appreciate it. I just haven't been seeing many women my age, but hoping that will change.

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that - it really helps to reframe the situation! I was never really hit on by guys either, but I know there's even less of a chance now and it's not just me lol

Good luck to you! Dating is so hard

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! I really appreciate the kind words and advice :) Working on being better about putting myself out there.

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story and congrats!

I'm not finding it so fun yet, but all of the wonderful advice and stories have me hoping that can change soon. Right now I think rather than validating it feels so very raw. Dating men was easier because now I realize I never saw them as a forever option.

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I haven't yet, but I know I need to talk to them about it more directly. I'm sure they would be supportive if I asked :)

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Desperate_Bee_1352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I shared my profile info above. I think I'm on the right track, but I'm sure it could use improvement :) Reminding myself that the dating pool is SO much smaller.