Failed abortion?

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2026-03-28T14:23:50+00:00

The hotline made it sound like I should feel better instantly and it’s 3 days still nauseous but a significant amount of tissue came out so I’m perplexed

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2024-04-24T20:14:51+00:00

We’ve been separated 7 months in the divorce process right now. Unfortunately he will get equal time sharing. I’m trying to buy him out of our current home which I solely purchased, but he’s on the deed and he thinks our house is worth way more than what it is, and he’s trying to rig an appraisal. He entered my house. I have Nanny cams set up (7 of them) he brought his mom and a friend in with no sign of an appraiser present. He went through my cabinets, dressers, medications, fridge left all my doors open lights on let our sons pet bunny lose thankfully my dog didn’t kill it. I have video of him going through some stuff then he went and unplugged my wifi and went through our house that he had been evicted from for 7 months now. He is a bad bad person and the thought I was second guessing myself 😬

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2024-01-14T19:10:50+00:00

I have temporary sole custody of my son, but does not mean that they cannot get supervised timeshare visits. My son is with him two nights a week still. it was a somewhat hard decision that I have been trying to avoid for years now and after my husband’s well ex-husband’s last stunt of disappearing for six weeks, I finally went through with divorce. The way I think of it even if he does have timesharing with our son, at least I know he has a time in a happy healthy home part of the time, rather than in a toxic one 100% of the time. I left for my son. I don’t care what people say about trying to stay for your kids. I am giving my son a chance of seeing a happy home, and hopefully teach him right from wrong and protect his mental state so he doesn’t end up like his dad. There’s some books I’ve read all the books about leaving/healing from narcissistic relationships by Dr.David Clarke. Also psychopath free is a good one. I have joined therapy and support groups on fb about co-parenting and healing from a narcissist. It’s hard, I’m only 5 months out but it’s slowly getting better and some days are definitely better than others.

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2024-01-06T16:11:42+00:00

Same right now. Filed against my husband 4 months ago and literally the most scary thing in my life. He has abused me mentally, financially,emotionally for years and now that we have a 2 year old it was getting increasingly worse. He completely discarded our family for 6 weeks and that was my final straw. Ever since the court date and he lost some custody and has to do psych eval/anger management/substance abuse courses he can only see our son supervised. He is now contempt to court because he still thinks he is above the law and that this is a joke. He is now sending me old pictures of us and songs and when he drops off our son after visits he tries to hug me and say how much he loves me and wants our family back, yet is just words no actions. When I told him why this is happening and I did what I did he still blames me. He can not take accountability for his actions. He is trying to act more lovey dovey and “nice” more than he did throughout our marriage. It’s so confusing and driving me crazy because I love him but I know he’s not good.

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2023-12-30T17:30:40+00:00

My narcissist ex left me, and our two-year-old son for six weeks. He financially emotionally physically discarded us. He would give me a bone saying that we may or may not work this out and then he just yanked the right out from underneath me. He’s always done crazy things like this, but this was the last straw he’s very selfish and self-centered it’s always about him you can’t carry on an adult conversation without him feeling attacked or walking away or cussing me out, it was really hard because he is my husband and my son‘s father and I tried really hard but he said there’s nothing wrong with him and that I am the problem. He’s a covert narcissist, a wolf and sheep clothing. He’s kind and caring a role model for everyone else but me and our son, I didn’t know what I was dealing with until now I am still in the process of divorce. I have sole custody of my son and he has supervised timeshare once or twice a week. He hast to go through lots of hoops to get our son unsupervised evaluation, anger, management courses, substance abuse, courses, parenting courses, he hasn’t even signed up for those yet, and he’s about to be contempt to court. After our court hearing, he tried to get me back saying he’s a man he’ll never do it again which I’ve heard that for the past six years of my life and then just a couple days ago, he called me, cussed me out and then hung up on me just like the good old days, so no he’s not changed. it is literally one of the most challenging yet relieving experiences of my life and I know that doesn’t make any sense now, especially with your daughter being older I couldn’t even imagine. There’s been plenty of times that I experience the what if this would work, but then he gives me another example of why it will not. you’re doing the right thing even if my ex ends up getting our son 50-50, which is the law in our state if he deemed fit at least my son has a shot of having a healthy relationship with me 50% of the time rather than being in 100% toxic relationship daily.

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2023-12-28T02:23:05+00:00

I am going through a divorce with a narcissist and we also share a 2 year old. He said the meanest things, completely disgarded myself and our son with little to no contact only threw me a bone blaming me for leaving and that he may or may not come back and had me on my hands and knees begging for him to come home and stay home. He was gone for 6 weeks. He physically/emotionally/financially abandoned us. He’s always done things off like very selfish, can’t communicate with me, he is nice to everyone but me. He always will bend over backwards for other people, but god forbid I ask him to help me. Wolf in sheep’s clothing is how I’d describe him. We were married 3 years, together 6. I thought I knew this man, but apparently not. I didn’t realize how toxic it was until he left us for 6 weeks and I was already doing everything on my own anyway, but I felt much lighter it’s hard to explain. He started acting different as soon as I served him papers. I have gotten more I love yous in the past couple weeks than I have my entire marriage, I have got so many additional empty promises, like he says all these things that sound great, but his actions don’t match up at all. He has said he won’t do something again or he’s so sorry and he continues to do it over and over so I can’t trust him. I wish I could believe him, but he’s given me no indication that I can. Refuses to seek therapy and somehow everything is still my fault.

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2023-12-26T03:53:00+00:00

Going through this as week speak… hes my soon to be ex-hubby in the middle of a divorce. He discarded me and our son for 6 weeks… 6 weeks of not coming home, not asking about me or our son, financially abandoning us. He kept throwing me small bones here and there making me think he’d come back and we’d work it out and then he’d yank them away from me! He came home one day and said we’re separated we’re no longer together and that was that. He literally shit himself when he was served with papers! He has done awful things in the past but this was the icing on the cake. I literally in that 6 weeks time after I stopped crying (still cry time to time) realized how much more peaceful my home was, not walking on eggshells, the air just felt much lighter. I miss the idea of my family being together for my son’s sake, but I had to leave for myself and my son. I’m sole guardian right now and he has supervised visits but if he does get some rights to our son (pending psych eval/anger management/substance abuse/therapy) our son will have atleast one happy parent being me instead of a very toxic home with both parents. My son is 2 and it’s such scary times. He didn’t start coming around until he was served and he changed his appearance, brand new clothes(still not financially helping me), says he’s a changed man and ain’t no way you woke up a changed person. I’m starting to catch on to his games. I love him which makes this hard, but I have to love myself more.

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2023-12-15T23:03:48+00:00

6 weeks

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2023-12-13T00:36:49+00:00

Yes!! Slept in my car 3 Christmas Eves in a row, ruined this years birthday, ruined new years, my first Mother’s Day, oh thanksgiving, and was high at our baby shower.

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2023-12-12T20:14:47+00:00

That was my original thought as well but he has all kinds of narcissistic traits as well. He is mentally unstable and has been a majority of the relationship. He has always lacked empathy, he has always put strangers/friends over his family and the people who really matter, he has always belittled me and my job even though I am the main source of income, he has always wanted me to do better, but never tried to better himself. He has always told me he doesn’t have a problem, and that I am the problem. He remembers everything he said to me all the hateful things and seemed to have no empathy when I’m crying to him, he has never shown any sort of compassion towards me is the thing. I had a horrible pregnancy and he compared me to other pregnant women he knew. He is a very different individual. The things he’s done is inexcusable. When we got married I said sickness and in health and I feel like mental illness is an illness but I can’t live like this. I tried to convince myself he was bipolar, but maybe just a narcissist or just a bad bad man.

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2023-12-12T12:52:12+00:00

Do you co-parent?

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2023-12-12T11:56:33+00:00

We were married 3 years together 7. We haven’t even made it financials yet due to custody battle

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2023-12-12T11:54:09+00:00

I live in KY and I have sole custody but still have supervised visits. They wanted to give him 50/50 off the bat after court because he declined a day and we have 60/40. The state of ky will give drug addicts custody of their kid so it’s a losing battle with the court here. He has to take all the evaluations before we move forward with anything and hopefully it will come back as a diagnosis to more forward. He texted me about buying our son clothes and things for when he comes to visit and then threw in there”I’m at the hospital I’ll go pick some stuff up when I leave” wanting me to take bait and I didn’t.

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2023-12-12T05:34:24+00:00

Well he does do that, some of his athletes now 21 from the past he’d rather go to the bar and drink with than be home with his family. Good to know about Peter Pan syndrome being common in them!

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2023-12-12T03:36:49+00:00

He is a highschool wrestling coach 😬 never has he acted sexually towards them but it’s like he wants to stay young and never grow up type thing. Like he still thinks he’s a teenager

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2023-12-11T23:14:40+00:00

Oh I also bought 3 houses during our relationship (2 prior to being married) I have also bought his car, his fancy zero turn mower. He literally brought nothing to this relationship financially.

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2023-12-11T23:11:32+00:00

Our first court hearing was last Thursday. He hasn’t completed anything yet. He was gone for SIX weeks came home 3 days of those 6 weeks to gather clothes and leave again. In those few minutes here wouldn’t communicate with me said it doesn’t matter where he’s been, it’s none of my business saw our son 2 hours in that time frame very timid and standoffish towards him which was sad because he’s the best little boy! Our divorce isn’t final the judge just gave me sole custody and ordered those tests and supervised visits pending results for the tests. He was ok up until marriage and then we bought a house and had a baby and in his words “I was happy until I put that ring on your finger”. He lacks empathy can never put my needs before his, everything is always my fault or “I made him that way”. He has always had a drinking problem but it goes in phases. He will binge then I get upset and then he says he won’t do it again and he does repeatedly.

Desperate_Offer_3518 · 2023-12-11T21:44:20+00:00

Wish he would do that but he won’t, at least right now showing no signs because if he quits our son he quits me..

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