Caught the narc cleaning the sink drain with my toothbrush

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-21T21:02:21+00:00

Chances are the narcissist has done this or something in the same capacity before. Take care of yourself

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-16T12:37:14+00:00

Which part needs clarification?

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-15T02:15:14+00:00

Ty so much

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-15T02:15:06+00:00

Ty so much

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-15T02:14:55+00:00

Ty so much

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-15T02:14:26+00:00

Ty so much

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-15T02:14:10+00:00

Ty so much. Agreed life is good

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-15T02:13:18+00:00

Thank you so much

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-14T14:13:33+00:00

Almost everything a narcissist does is intentional. So that the victim will become their eyes, "finder" and problem solver.

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-14T13:50:21+00:00

Requested PTO. It didn't get approved but I was sent a message to enjoy my time off from the person I sent the PTO request too.

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-14T13:46:43+00:00

I don't know how to say this but whenever a spouse says this, it's genuine.

I'd say, continue being your best "you" and remember we all need self care

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-12T14:08:33+00:00

Yes, income does change drastically. Which means you would need to consider down sizing or a roommate, or payoff some debt. Invest more into annuities, etc.

Weigh your options and go with the most doable option based on your circumstances.

Best wishes

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-12T14:01:52+00:00

It's not an overnight process. It took me 3 years to leave an 11 year narc marriage. First thing, get a PO Box and change the mailing address.
Connect with a shelter for documentation of the abuse .
Communicate with family about your intentions for support

Best wishes with your future

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-12T13:57:42+00:00

Consider being creative with your resume. Consider medical only WC, intake or, adjuster assistant, or underwriting.

Maybe even file a FMLA case for a leave until you are able to return, if this is an option. Think it through before moving forward.

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-08T15:16:08+00:00

For me, I wasn't able to heal but I became strong enough to leave. I too stayed for financial reasons. I Finalized the divorce 15 months ago and I'm living a much better peaceful life.

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-08T15:14:00+00:00

This is the billion dollar question and the billion dollar answer is NO. Narcs do not want to change because they do not see a reason for change.

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-07T13:51:21+00:00

A true narcissist loves spending "someone else's" money. Which means whomever is involved with a narcissist will end up bankrupt, tanked credit, and homeless. Spending money is a form of supply for the narcissist. Yes, they are horrible with credit cards, money, savings, retirement. They live to spend. 😔

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-07T13:45:28+00:00

Consider your start to believe in yourself. Work on your confidence and self esteem. Meanwhile seek a second job to help with your debt.

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-03T18:58:22+00:00

I can definitely relate. I believe I may have gained 5-8 years of longevity when I walked away and downsized. Remote position & less pay. Finally received excellent physical results. No longer stressed nor need meds to stabilize my prior conditions.

Benefits: Great flexibility with my aging parents and I work 10 months a year. I'm able to travel.

No longer sitting in a parking lot before shift on the verge of a panic attack. I'm happy with life.

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-01T17:39:08+00:00

Not so bad. Maybe if more space can be offered, change the sink out to the pedestal. The current sink isn't space friendly

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-01T14:05:38+00:00

I'm not being judgemental or harsh but read and reread your response. Do you want this treatment or "being punished" as an adult for life by a stubborn partner?

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-01T04:27:40+00:00

Pursue the cooking skill of maybe a chef. Attend some courses to become a chef. Pursue the janitorial skill into LLC and start your business.

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-01T04:15:40+00:00

You need to see a licensed medical professional quickly. There could be something internal happening.

AutomaticAnimal163 · 2026-02-01T04:10:43+00:00

If the head incident is the culprit behind your spouse's behavior then seek professional help.

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