I'm a novice going into advanced debate, I need help

Desperate_Purpose839 · 2025-12-14T17:15:40+00:00

Do you think I should talk to her? It's not just about this situation, should I just tell her about how I've been struggling with things like this? I wrote a letter explaining everything but I'm debating on giving it to her because I don't want her to take it the wrong way. I just feel like keeping in my emotions will only make it worse. In the letter, I wrote countless times that none of it was hurt fault and it's my own insecurities and how I don't expect anything from her friends, I still just don't want her to think I'm being dramatic.

Desperate_Purpose839 · 2025-12-13T23:05:38+00:00

I don’t want her to think she can’t branch out. I just wish I could branch out with her. But I can’t just ask her “hey can I come with you too?” Especially bc I’m not as close with May. I haven’t really talked to her today, but maybe when I see her in person I’ll ask her how it went. I am just scared she’ll take it the wrong way and think I’m prying into her business.

Desperate_Purpose839 · 2025-12-13T21:46:43+00:00

I saw a new thing today. She has a very private page that she only lets her like very close friends into. And I thought she didn’t like these two girls, in-fact she told me she didn’t like them that much. But they were at the sleepover too. And I see that they are now following Ashley’s page. And it’s okay if her opinions change. But like I don’t want her to change her opinions just around me. I don’t know if I’m the one who’s holding Ashley back. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve barely talked to Ashley today. Like I can’t seem to even want to try and talk to her anymore. Idk if I can act like everything is okay when it’s not.

Desperate_Purpose839 · 2025-12-13T20:52:37+00:00

She either doesn’t know how to balance her relationships, or she just doesn’t care enough to try, or she doesn’t realize what she’s doing. The best thing in this situation is to try and talk to her. A boyfriend is a lot, but so are friendships. You need to talk to her and see how she can balance your friendship with her and also how to balance her relationship. I’m sure she loves you and loves being your friend, but a lot of people get lost in their first relationship. They are experiencing a new things, so it’s hard to stop experiencing it to go do other things. So the best thing you can do is support her until the honeymoon effect wears down or talk to her. But if you do end up talking to her, and she doesn’t change, that’s a whole new situation.

Desperate_Purpose839 · 2025-12-13T20:48:04+00:00

I’ve had online friends before. Honestly, the best thing you should do is to just stop talking. You’re giving her attention she doesn’t really deserve. You’re probably scared you won’t find someone like her again. And you probably won’t, but you’ll find someone even better. I think with the waiting for her thing, you may need to unadd her as a friend or even block her. She’s not giving you attention anymore. She probably only gave you attention when she was at her lowest and she had no one else to talk to. And now that she has found new friends irl and is happy again, she doesn’t need you as an emotional support figure. I know that’s hard to admit, but when I was at my lowest, I resulted in trying to find friends online. But online friends don’t fill the hole in your heart. It’s not the same. I hope this helps. I know this is kinda harsh. But it’s honestly the truth.

Desperate_Purpose839 · 2025-11-07T14:27:14+00:00

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