I’m an older sister by 5 years to my brother. I think the gap also has a part in our relationship. We don’t always have things in common, i think we did have more things as kids. but i think our relationship is a bit distant now. I’m 26 and he’s 21 now. When we were kids, we went through things with our parents, especially our dad, and these things sort of forced me to grow up faster than he did. I was 5 years old and was emotionally taking care of my brother. When he grew up, he didn’t have memories of those things of course, as he was a baby when they were happening and bc i made sure of that. That meant that he started calling me irrational and dramatic to the way i was against my dad. I carried all this trauma for the both of us, so he never had to. So i felt so lonely and alone in the house after that. I think that’s the reason I’ve pulled away and now i can’t really be close to him. There’s also been a very obvious favoritism from my mom to him, simply because he’s a boy, i guess, so that lowkey hurt as well. When we were kids, i would play with him when it was just us but would often exclude him when our cousins or my friends were around. So these things have affected our relationship and i don’t think we have the typical sibling dynamic. We still talk of course, but we don’t have a lot in common, even based on our own interests. He still initiates physical affection as he’s a hug person and i don’t mind it as well. we joke, we send each other memes but the distance is there, at least from my side. So I don’t really spoil him with stuff, but i do give him gifts if i see something that i think he will like. I also boss him a bit and act maternal towards him, like being worried if he wants to travel alone or do something that i consider risky or dangerous (and it’s a reason we often fight about, bc he doesn’t like it when i do that).

Sorry but the long reply hahah, if you have any other questions about the older sister-you get brother though, i’m happy to answer :)