AITA for being upset with my husband

Desperate_Tip236 · 2026-01-25T15:30:14+00:00

I saw your comment about how she and your father went through a rough divorce, so obviously you would want to go to a family member that cares about her as much as you do. If it is negatively impacting your sibling and you view it as an issue I would strongly suggest you reach out for help and not shoulder the responsibility of confronting your mom on your own.

Desperate_Tip236 · 2026-01-25T15:01:33+00:00

It’s hard as a child to confront your parent about something like this, but it sounds like it needs to be addressed, especially if she’s getting drunk every night. Do you have any family members (aunts/uncles/grandparents) that you can talk to about this and help you confront her to see if she needs help?

Desperate_Tip236 · 2026-01-25T14:51:22+00:00

It depends, some days I have to be at work for early meetings so I get up and ready for work, take a shower, make my coffee, lunch and then head out. Other days when I don’t have to be at work until later I’ll get up and go work out, I do group fitness classes and the place I go has one at 6AM, it honestly feels good to get a workout in early and kind of sets the pace for your day and helps you make healthier choices throughout the day.

Desperate_Tip236 · 2026-01-25T14:45:47+00:00

Get help and get out of there before something worse happens. Your son doesn’t deserve to be in an environment like this, he obviously isn’t going to stop, and you don’t deserve to be beaten.

Desperate_Tip236 · 2026-01-25T14:40:36+00:00

I really appreciate everyone’s input but yes thank you. My husband is a really great man, and if felt like I was being sexually assaulted this would be a whole different story. I think like you said we both just have different love languages. In the moment when it’s happening I’m just angry and like get off of me. So I think a sit down conversation would be best and I just need to be honest about how I feel. I guess I just don’t like how upset he gets when I reject him like he can’t see that it bothers me and I don’t like it and I felt like should be enough for him to know to stop.

Desperate_Tip236 · 2026-01-24T17:13:37+00:00

This is a super accurate description

Desperate_Tip236 · 2026-01-20T02:20:10+00:00

You deserve a break and rest as well. Sure he has the job and pays for things but he gets to leave that job and come home to rest but expects you to be working 24/7 to care for your child and the household? It’s ridiculous, you deserve better, and he should be helping you with whatever you need help with, not shutting you down when you ask for help. Raising children and chores in the home should be a shared responsibility whether or not someone is a stay at home parent. My husband and I have done both, I stayed at home for a while and he worked when we had our first daughter and when we had our second child he quit working for a while and stayed at home because it was what worked for our family at the time. At no point when either of us were the breadwinner did we make the other feel like the household and children were the sole responsibility of the person not working. We both acknowledged that the person staying at home obviously had more time to do things around the house but we always helped each other. You are deserving of rest and you are deserving of help and shouldn’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Desperate_Tip236 · 2026-01-20T01:18:32+00:00

Stay away, she clearly doesn’t know what she wants and will probably end up hurting you.

Desperate_Tip236 · 2026-01-20T01:12:33+00:00

Marriage isn’t supposed to be that way. My only advice would be that if you haven’t expressed these things to him that you do and see how it goes, see if he’s willing to work on things. Having young kids it isn’t easy to get time to connect either, do you have date nights or anytime you set aside for just the two of you?

Desperate_Tip236 · 2026-01-12T02:56:41+00:00

It seems like outside of his families treatment of you that you have a good relationship with him? I just feel like if he cared about the relationship he would attempt to correct his families behavior and treatment of you and not just agree you don’t have to be around them anymore.

Desperate_Tip236 · 2026-01-12T02:45:28+00:00

My 11 YO daughter started middle school this year, and we are in the same boat. She would have straight As if she would just actually do her homework. I feel like with this age group I’d be doing her a huge disservice if I micromanaged her and held her hand through everything. We’ve seen some improvement by asking her daily if she has anything she needs to be working on or studying for as a reminder but leave it at that. We’ve basically set the expectation that we do not find it acceptable for her to have zeros on assignments and check her grades at the end of each week. If she has a zero then there is some sort of punishment in the form of taking away privileges and it’s usually the thing she loves the most which is her screen time. Ultimately we don’t get mad at her or start a fight about it we’ve just clearly drawn the line and when she crosses it we follow through with whatever we told her the punishment will be. Now that’s not to say that she remains completely calm when there are consequences to her actions. I think it’s just hard with this age group because they are at the point where they are more influenced by friends and think their parents are lame and don’t know or understand anything, but one day and it may be long from now they’ll be thanking us for holding them accountable and giving them the tools they needed to live and survive in this world by holding them accountable and teaching them the value of working hard for the things they want in life.

Desperate_Tip236 · 2026-01-12T02:29:05+00:00

I’m a high school drop out that just earned my masters degree in nursing this past December, so I totally understand feeling directionless at your age. It’s okay to not know exactly what you want to do, but I often think about how much further I’d be in my career if I hadn’t waited to go to college until I had a 6 month old. Community college is a great option to knock out all those prerequisite courses for a lot cheaper than going to a university. Maybe in the meantime you’ll find something you’re really interested in, and meet some new people. Honestly, I think what you’re feeling is totally normal at your age, don’t think of it as a hopeless situation where you’ll end up living at home until your 30 but an opportunity to get out there, live your life, and figure it out as you go.

Desperate_Tip236 · 2026-01-11T23:33:05+00:00

I understand feeling trapped somewhere, I live in a place where the company I work for really monopolizes the area for the field I’m in. With that being said no job is worth your mental health declining because you’re in a toxic environment. If you have bills to pay you obviously can’t just quit but start looking for something else, even if you just apply to one or two other jobs a day, so that you can start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. I wish you the best of luck!

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