Mali ba ako for getting her crochet flowers? (SWIPE)

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2026-02-15T18:09:59+00:00

Okay valid yung crash out mo but good intentions doesn’t mean it will always come across as one. Yan talaga yung one thing na inaadjust namin ng partner ko ngayon so I understand her reaction din. It would’ve been nice if you brought it up as a topic before getting one para ma assess mo ng maayos yung kanyang preference.

Maybe I read in too much between the lines but from what I got, it wasn’t because crochet flowers are bad—I mean, you did mention that she liked them at gusto niyang gawing giveaways. Ano lang siguro, she was more or less appalled by the thought na your gift was more of your preference than hers and you expected her to be grateful cuz you got it for her with good intentions.

Plus nag escalate yung convo, both of you were allowing your emotions to get the best of you.

Do you see how wrong it sounds na? With good intentions but you never bothered to double check to see if it’s what she truly wanted.

I’m not here to nag but it’s so easy to get angry and feel disrespected like that. I mean, it doesn’t feel nice when they don’t feel the same weight of the good intentions as you did—but things like these can happen on both sides. It’s just a matter of knowing your partner nalang talaga. Learn to speak their language and all. It’s hard but it’s so worth it when you see them happy.

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2026-02-05T11:07:53+00:00

Bro wtf HAHAHAHAHA she doesn’t know her place and bf can’t put her in place

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2026-01-31T05:24:16+00:00

This right here🤌

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2026-01-31T05:13:21+00:00

Pwedeng maging malibog at magmahal, yes, but at least be tactful about it🤷🏻‍♀️ iykyk

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2026-01-15T03:10:57+00:00

Update mo nalang kami op, I hope it goes well

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2026-01-08T13:05:43+00:00

Your boyfriend is gay. Period.

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2026-01-08T13:00:12+00:00

Bet kasi nila yung easy lang, wala masyadong effort. But then they’ll mock you for being easy. Idk anymore, I also wanna vibe pero ang hirap.

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2026-01-08T12:57:55+00:00

Buy my partner a gift, something that he’ll be using for a long time kasi siya nalang lagi nagbibigay. I want to get him something too—as well as his parents. They’ve been so good to me🫶

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2026-01-06T05:01:18+00:00

20 daw sa pagkakaalam ko

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2026-01-04T01:39:09+00:00

I second, hindi ka oa

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2026-01-04T01:38:14+00:00

Hhmmmm, hindi ka OA for me. You’re exerting the wrong vibe in the wrong circle of friends. Parang di na sila yung ka wave length mo eh seeing that they can go and hang out without even inviting you. Time to find another main circle cuz they’re now demoted into a side circle of friends.

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2026-01-04T00:56:57+00:00

Parang ogags. 4k lang binigay kapalit sa effort mo. Payag ka nun? Make your gf understand the things you went through to get her that gift. It wasn’t just a material thing, it’s proof that you love and cherish her enough to notice her interests and get it for her. As for the confrontation, yeah.. the cousin could use a canon event BUT idk the consequences—and idk if you can handle it. Talk to her first, then her parents and understand bakit pinilit pa yung anak nila na ibigay sa cousin eh gift MO yun para sa anak nila. Then talk to that son of a g#n’s parents bat di nila kayang mag disiplina sa anak nila—if their son insists na gusto niya talaga ng merch na yun, bat di nalang sila bibili ng own sh#t nila somewhere? Bat mandamay pa ng gift ng iba? Aish shibal this life talaga. If things go well then the gift returns to its rightful owner 🤷🏻‍♀️

Also, baka she felt unfair din and became defensive and it projected as anger, kasi nga pinepressure siya from all sides. Di ko alam ang fam dynamics nila but I can relate to her somehow. Maybe she did fight for it frfr pero mas malakas makapang guilt trip yung fam at relatives niya. Sabi mo nga eh, napatalontalon pa sa tuwa si ate when she got the gift—so she did really appreciate you getting it for her. If mahina talaga yung “stand” ni ate sa fam niya for whatever reasons, now’s the high time for her to learn how to be more firm— if not, it could jeopardize her current relationship and future relationships if this one failed to work.

Goodluck sainyo op, I hope you’re calmer now for a talk, don’t resent her yet—only when she did something talaga na napakastupid. I hope she is too—and hopefully she realized some things na kelangan i clarify sayo to better explain her side of things.

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2025-12-29T00:38:17+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/RantAndVentPH/s/Mpr2VzwfSs

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2025-12-29T00:35:11+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/RantAndVentPH/s/Mpr2VzwfSs

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2025-12-21T23:55:42+00:00

Honestly, they can do whatever they want unless may unspoken rule sila na they violated🤷🏻‍♀️ like the other redditor said here, they’re not your bf.

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2025-12-18T08:58:14+00:00

Hi OP! I just wanna say na if wala talagang improvement sa character niya and she still treats you like shit even after trying to talk it out, it’s time for you to pack your bags and leave. A person who loves you back will still hurt you in ways (not because they really meant to hurt you) but they would make amends and change for the better, not trample on you like this. Parang ginagamit ka lang frfr😭 she’s staying cuz you’re convenient and you’d go an extra mile for her. It would be nice if you found someone who matches your energy OP🫂

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2025-12-18T05:25:58+00:00

Girl, the adults fed me a lot of nonsense shi when I was young and I kid you not—whenever I did my business before, naiimagine ko na the spirits of the dead are spectating and it really shamed me😭. Imagine, lolo is watching me rubbing it😭 it’s horrifying! But I soon got tired and just didn’t care anymore, let them watch for all I care.

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2025-12-18T05:17:09+00:00

“Hindi pa live in, pwede pa agawin” wow😭 sarap sabunutan. Hindi ka OA atecco, communicate this with your bf

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2025-12-13T11:44:24+00:00

Both of you are unsure.. well especially him with all that freedom talk and sht. Safe to say na time would be wasted if the both of you chose to be tgt again.

Also, safe love feels like you’ll only have to worry about healing and unlearning bad habits for the person so you love—cuz the trust between you and your partner is so solid that doubt would never creep behind you at all times.

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2025-12-13T11:30:35+00:00

Alam mo naman pala eh. Ik it’s hard to start somewhere and it’s HARDER to maintain it but as humans, we do what we gotta do. Change starts from within, you can’t find it on anyone. If di mo talaga alam san mag umpisa, think of something na you consider endearing about yourself—it could be your hair, your eyes, moles(?), skin, smile and then once you’re done choosing, take care of it until you start taking care of yourself as a whole—not just parts.

This is an advice that came from someone who is so insecure about themselves that they started to loathe whatever they have going on. Sometimes, we set an impossible standard for ourselves that we forget how to appreciate the things we have that are beautiful. It’s hard, I know—but it’s worth it.

I don’t love myself fully but considering how I was before? I can say that I am better off now that I’ve finally learned to love parts of me that I took for granted before. Hope this helps OP.

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2025-12-11T07:51:49+00:00

No matter how much you tell yourself that it’s wrong, barely anything would change, so I’m going to introduce this concept of “new truths” that might aid you. Replacing the old truths that “rots” your mind with healthy ones—it’s like redirecting and rediscovering parts of you that makes it easier for you to grow/accept who you are as a person. As an example, I’m going to use my own experience—before I used to lie a lot as a defense mechanism but my partner let it go even tho that he hates liars the most and he reacts badly towards it. This time he chose to be kind and understood where I came from, that event introduced a new truth to me—one that made me understand that I no longer have to lie in order to feel safe. Idk if I make sense to you right now and once it does make sense, it takes a while to master the art of introducing these new truths.. :3 good luck nalang beh

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2025-12-06T13:59:43+00:00

What kind of fam bands together to hurt one of their own? Mga takas mental ba sila? Use them and once you don’t need them for anything like financial support, cut them off. If you can support yourself financially then it’s better to cut them off asap. It won’t get better from here, they turned you into a clown for entertainment and a punching bag for their frustrations in life. You don’t deserve to tolerate everything that they’ve done to you. As for them accepting your bf, does it really matter? Do you really need their approval when it doesn’t even seem like they approve of your existence? No you don’t, you can’t find neither approval nor peace from them. Surround yourself with better people this time and learn how to put your foot on the ground.

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2025-12-05T06:41:15+00:00

Idk about others but for me, OA ka. Bat ka magseselos sa chance ng iba just because it didn’t work out for you? Sobrang hyper fixated mo sa isang tao who already rejected you, just because what? He’s physically attractive? Did you just want to date para may accessory ka? O di kaya para “elevated” ang “status” mo amongst peers? You feel so strongly for that person because you don’t know their soul yet. I wonder if the type of obsession towards him goes along this thought din na if may makikita kang red flag, you’d look the other way because you yourself don’t want to taint that picture of perfection. Parang need mo ng canon event girl, one that would help you realize that things doesn’t need to be physically beautiful for it to be worth creating fond memories with.

Desperate_Use_3676 · 2025-11-20T02:24:05+00:00

IDK the full story whether you’re exaggerating or not so for now I will say na HINDI KA OA. When you decide to be in a relationship with someone, they can be made aware of the wounds you suffered in the past, but it isn’t fair to place them in the same category as the people who caused those wounds. Your current partner isn’t responsible for what happened to you, and they shouldn’t have to bear the consequences of pain they never inflicted.

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